I'm Seeing Someone, And He's Married

Please help, I need your advice. I've dated a handsome, wonderful guy on and off for 4 1/2 years and just 2 years ago, he got married to the girl he was cheating on, with me. (I've always been the woman on the side)

We just got back in touch as of 6 months ago and already, we're back to being intimate. Only this time, he's married with a baby.

Since day one, we've shared great sex! I really love him, but I'm Christian and I fear GOD. What should I do? Continue our relationship, or forever walk away?

Please don't judge me, we're all imperfect and these things do happen.




UPDATE!


OKAY, THIS IS HOW THE STORY GOES,

I MET THIS GUY OVER 4 1/2 YEARS AGO. HE MET HER AROUND THE SAME TIME HE HAD MET ME. IN THE BEGINNING, HE DIDN'T TELL ME THAT HE HAD A GIRL. HE LATER CONFESSED, I ACCEPTED IT AND I WENT ALONG WITH THE PROGRAM. WE THEN  ESTABLISHED AN ON AGAIN, OFF AGAIN RELATIONSHIP. ALL THIS TIME, HE WAS CHEATING WITH ME. SHE NEVER KNEW. HE WAS DECIDING TO THOROUGHLY BE WITH ME, BUT IN THE END, THE GIRLFRIEND WON. I WAS TOLD BY HIM THAT SHE GAVE HIM AN ULTIMATUM, AND I DIDN'T. THE ULTIMATUM LED TO ENGAGEMENT AND THEN MARRIAGE. AFTER HEARING ABOUT THEIR MARRIAGE PLANS, I CALLED OUR RELATIONSHIP QUITS. WE LOST TOUCH FOR A LITTLE OVER TWO YEARS. WHAT WAS SO SAD, HE NEVER LEFT MY MIND. I THOUGHT OF HIM EVERYDAY. WHY? BECAUSE I LOVED HIM AND I HAD HOPED TO BE THE ONE HE MARRIED. I CRIED MANY NIGHTS AND SPENT HOURS ON THE PHONE GETTING ADVICE AND SUPPORT FROM MY FEMALE FRIENDS. ONCE, I CALLED HIS CEL PHONE FROM A BLOCKED NUMBER AND I HEARD A BABY CRYING. I LISTENED AND THEN I QUICKLY HUNG UP! MY HEART WAS CRUSHED, I LATER CRIED.

COINCIDENTALLY, WE MEET AGAIN, ONLY THIS TIME, HE'S MARRIED. WHEN I FIRST SAW HIM AGAIN, MY HEART SKIPPED. I LOOKED AT HIS LEFT HAND AND SAW A WHITE-GOLD WEDDING BAND. MY HEART WAS CRUSHED. I NEVER KNEW THAT WE'D BE AT THIS AGAIN. ONE GOOD THING IS, WE HAVE GREAT SEX, SEX, SEX! I THINK I MIGHT BE CAUGHT UP SEXUALLY. HE'S AN AWESOME PERSON AND LOVER. I AM AS WELL. WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER, WE'RE FRIENDS AND LOVERS. WE TALK, WE LAUGH, AND I NEVER ASK HIM ABOUT HIS FAMILY. I GIVE HIM ADVICE, IF HE NEEDS IT. I'M THERE FOR HIM WHENEVER HE NEEDS ME. THIS IS A GREAT GUY, AND I AM IN DEEP LIKE (LOVE) WITH HIM. HE LOOKS AT ME AND HIS EYES TELL A MILLION STORIES. I'M SURE HE REGRETS CHOOSING HER OVER ME. IT'S SO APPARENT. POOR GUY!

I FORGOT TO SAY THAT, "I DATED HIS FRIEND BEFORE DATING HIM". THEY BOTH ARE STILL, TO THIS DAY, DEEPLY IN LIKE WITH ME. WHENEVER I BROKE UP WITH ONE, I WENT BACK TO THE OTHER, NUMEROUS TIMES. INFACT, WHEN WE BROKE UP FOR THOSE FEW YEARS, I WENT BACK TO HIS FRIEND. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIS FRIEND. IN CONCLUSION, I'LL PUT A FINAL ENDING TO MY AFFAIR. YOU ALL HAVE GIVEN ME THE COURAGE I NEED TO DO SO, AND I THANK YOU. HEY, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, RIGHT? GOD BLESS!

people are getting dumber and dumber as the minutes go by. how can u help someone cheat on his then girlfriend and now help him cheat on his now wife. and your BUM ass self has mouth to talk about how u jump in and out of bed with him. i wonder what this generation of ours is turning into, because me i don't know what grace u derive from sleeping around(yes i said it, if u no like am u can kiss my ass and tell me the flavor) whether with one person or with a million people sleeping around is still sleeping around andu gonn come in here and ask our opinion. since u are giving me the priviledge of telling u what i feel. i'll honor it and tell u point blank You NEED TO BE BITCH SLAPPED A HUNDRED TIMES OVER. people like u make thisworlda bad place to be in. 4real, i know i'm not perfect but its people like u that turn right back around and start saying "ALL GUYS ARE CHEATS" crying wolf when u know definately well that your ass helped a couple ofthem cheat even when they don't want to. i'm expecting u to come back in here and start talking smack at me. but better hope i read the smack when i'm in my off mode because if not u'll be shot down like a black hawk helicopter gets shot out of the sky in bahgdad. ONIRANU OSHI! and we go talk him talk say him love the guy. love ko fcuk ni!

Sleeping with a married man is nit sleeping around.  But It is better to be sleeping around than with a married man

A woman that says she is with a married man because she needs the money is someting i can deal with. (lets say she knows her place)  But a woman saying she is in love with a married man is lost.

What goes round comes round.  The woman has just had a baby; this should be the happyiest moment of their lives.  I do not understand some people.

ah i sorry for u. what comes around goes around. when u get married your husband will sleep with his ex too

Oops!! Uhmmm-------- hold On a Sec, did You just type that?!?!?!, did i Really See this bit '' and just 2 years ago, he got married to the girl he was cheating with me, on.''

So, why would You want to Carry On Seeing a guy who ditched You just to marry another girl, not to talk Of da One he was Cheating On You with!?!?!
now Seriously, i just don't get Sum ladies and the extent they go to just to get the love Of a man, the love Of a man who Clearly doesnt love You back, Or Should i Say love You well enough to marry You
babes, walk away, it'S the best thing, ever heard Of '' a lady's dignity?!?!!?''

Right!!! thats Still not Sumtin to be proud Of, Or Is it!?!!?!?!

and wait a Sec, why did She go in 4 him in the first place when she knew Very much well that there was already another woman!!?!? Seriously, don't tell me She was expecting to be the One he would marry, Right?!?!?!

really unfair for anyone to judge u because we're all human but girl, what is wrong is wrong. Let it be, as it wasn't meant to be. You'll get someone else that was solely made for u.

as for the guy, hope he gets more than he had bargained for. Don't think he loves u like he used to as long as he left u for someone else.

@must_a_far, boo were you o.k when you wrote that, man talk about harsh.


I can see how you can mistake what you're feeling for love. My dear WAKE UP!!! Your only hurting yourself, the right one will come.
He has a child, clearly the dude is a dog. He cheats on you, then marries the chick he cheated with. That should be enough for you to RUN when you see or hear his name. If  not for you, think of his  child.

DEBSYCOOOOL,you are right anywhere,everylady, need a guy wan go dey f***k am well-well, . am loving that part of your conversation

Dennylove,i hate decieving myself.that is y i lov my pastor.pastor sam adeyemi as always told us that u cld use any style u want,as many times as u want as long as u dnt kil each other &as long as u are fulfillin your sexual desires wit your husband or wife.doin it wit anyone other dan your spouse is what makes sex sinful not d act itself.lets not stand in judgement of this lady but consider d issues leadin 2her stayin this long wit him 2advice her.it cld b that she can't c him as a husband but d guy dey mess am wel so she stayed.me am no longer sexually active but my husband must b able 2do me wel because i dnt want 2lok outside.if he doesnt do it wel,i go tel am strait.

truth be told girl, he looks at u as second best, leave him alone, i know this because i hav don't the same to another girl, i aint married though, but i had a girl-friend and other friends i knew before i started datin my girl-friend, when i knew them, i was still single, but when i started datin my girl, i let them know, but i always went  back to them not because variety is d spice of life, but because i knew i cud have them, even though i had a girl, u'll always be 2nd best to them, my advice to u is that u must not forget him, but don't hav sex wit him no more, u can continue to be friends, but if u want him to respect u more, stop havin sex wit him, tell him he gets enough from his wife, if he luved u, he would hav married u, take care and good luck,

u don't have any excuse to be dating him! abeg look for better person wey never marry. u will always be second best with him.  if your husband cheat on u, aw will u feel?

[color=#00people are getting dumber and dumber as the minutes go by. how can u help someone cheat on his then girlfriend and now help him cheat on his now wife. and your BUM ass self has mouth to talk about how u jump in and out of bed with him. i wonder what this generation of ours is turning into, because me i don't know what grace u derive from sleeping around(yes i said it, if u no like am u can kiss my ass and tell me the flavor) whether with one person or with a million people sleeping around is still sleeping around andu gonn come in here and ask our opinion. since u are giving me the priviledge of telling u what i feel. i'll honor it and tell u point blank You NEED TO BE BITCH SLAPPED A HUNDRED TIMES OVER. people like u make thisworlda bad place to be in. 4real, i know i'm not perfect but its people like u that turn right back around and start saying "ALL GUYS ARE CHEATS" crying wolf when u know definately well that your ass helped a couple ofthem cheat even when they don't want to. i'm expecting u to come back in here and start talking smack at me. but better hope i read the smack when i'm in my off mode because if not u'll be shot down like a black hawk helicopter gets shot out of the sky in bahgdad. ONIRANU OSHI! and we go talk him talk say him love the guy. love ko fcuk ni!0099][/color]
haba! don't blame her now, she only asked for an advice, so do not jugde her

hmm, he cheated on you got married to your rival,now he his cheating on you after he his married, (think about this,its common sense) y waste your time , , your to lose at the end of the whole scenario