Sexual Compatibility: Myth or Reality?

Hello,

Each time we discuss premarital sex, someone asks, "what if you're not sexually compatible?"  I do not understand what they mean by that.  Is it just a smart excuse for premarital sex, or a genuine reason to sample multiple sexual partners before choosing one of them as a spouse?

Seun.

IN a healthy relationship, won't the wife husband be able to do some of the things his wife likes just to make her happy, and won't the wife do likewise? 

Considering how many different sexual approaches and attitues are available in the world today,
- One might have to sleep with the whole world in order to find someone who likes exactly the same things in the bedroom.
- The person who likes the same things in the bedroom might not like the same things outside the bedroom, which you won't notice before the marriage because you're too busy having sex.
- Preferences might change after marriage, in which case you end up 'sexually incompatible'.

In addition to this:
- Sexual attitudes and wishes can be faked before marriage.  The woman can pretend to be sexually adventurous and to like to have sex every day only to clam up after she has a ring on her finger.  What would you then do?

That's why I feel that the idea of sexual compatibility is over-rated.

You probably also need to bring the husband in the picture, unless this is about masturbation 
But, yes, you're right, but if the differences are too big, it still might be a problem


Being sexually compatible is necessary, but not sufficient for a successful Marriage. I don't really know many people that have sex 24/7, maybe these rare specimens would have difficulty finding out if they are compatible in other areas
Indeed, preferences change, that may also be a reason why marriages fail. But that risk is also much bigger if you start from an incompatibility



That marriage would fail because of a lack of honesty to start with (a marriage you've been 'tricked' into?)

On this issue, I guess I could really have a lot to say.. [Not implicating myself here..  ]

However, I guess I must add one other issue Seun has over-looked.. the physical aspects of sexual compatibility.. I must tell you right now, it is important.. We are all created uniquely and differently.. I would be a gross assumption to assume that we are all "compatible" in that respect..

Going to bed now.. 

Be back in a couple of hours.. 

When I reffered to physical compatibility, I was not referring to beauty or attraction..

And in this case, you definitely can't see this part before you get naked... 

Sexual compatibility does not mean the ability to procreate, but rather the ability to have a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship. There are a lot of unhappy marriages around, the only thing that really changed is that nowadays the partners don't accept that situation anymore and separate, while before, they were staying together, being unhappy;

It wasn't better in the old days, it was just different and older people just don't like change

@ Vexxy..

Nope.. You still don't get me.. I mean "PHYSICAL dimensions and configuration".... size, contour, etc...

It is very easy to take this for granted, but it does really become a significant issue once the chips are down... Unless one hopes for surgical solutions, and even with that, one hopes for the best... 

@ Vexxy..

I don't know how I can be more explicit without going against the rules of the forum  ...

I'm referring to when both anatomies of their respective copulatory organs are compared for compatibility during copulation..

I hope this is explicit enough.. if not, seek assistance from Great P or any other elder in the forum..

 

ok...

Senario 1..

What happens when the male anatomy is puny as compared to the females .. or to flip the coin, the male's dimensions lie within the average distribution but the female's lie far to the high side of the curve

Senario 2...

What of when the female's passage is not as straight as it's supposed to be, but has an unusual contour which prevents proper insertion, passage, and forcludes pleasurable sensation during the process of intimacy.. Or if the male is such that it is remniscent of the letter "C"


Both have been known to occur ! ! !


ps...



The increase in size we are referring to during child-birth is an occasional state of affairs brought on by hormonal changes... it in not the ususal state of affairs.. 

You'D be amazed to find out that such situations occur more often than not, but are just not shared publicly... believe me..

I see nothing wrong with sex between two consenting adults, as long as the protect themselves. No ecuses are needed.

The reason why so many people have a problem with pre-marital sex is that, before contraception and protection against STD's, there was a serious risk with it, especially if the man would run away from his responsabilities if the woman got pregnant.

In our current day and age this is no longer necessary, but old habits die out slowly.

Of course, I just broadened the scope, but that doesn't invalidate the argument for premarital sex.

True, you could also be hit by a car while crossing the road to get to the park, even if you're careful, but that's not going to prevent you from crossing, I hope. You know strolling in the park is fun 

Be very selective when choosing your parks, then.    And don't go there at night, but you do agree that it's very much fun to stroll in the park, don't you? 

thx, you make me blush



But then again, you did cross the street, didn't you?

So you never even once crossed the street on an unguarded spot?