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Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by baby123: 6:44pm On Feb 01, 2009
any news about kefee and her husband alec ,.
i beg make una highlight me i love her songs too bad .
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Maryam: 1:00pm On Feb 02, 2009
They broke up since last year March.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 2:47pm On Feb 02, 2009
Its a shame the way they've both been washing their dirty linens in public. undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by joyblinks(f): 6:53pm On Feb 02, 2009
dont mind them.

heard the husband is dating one university girl like that which is family member likes because they said she(keefe) is too proud of herself
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Pepeye(f): 7:04pm On Feb 02, 2009
the couple has been singing discordant tunes for a while now

   a pity and washing their dirty linen in public
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by ladykool(f): 7:40pm On Feb 02, 2009
i read this blog were are husband alec told th whole story about their relationship its
://stella-dimokokorkus..com/
its just too much and beside i neva knew keffee was like dat now and she is frm the same state niger delta as me wat a shame and disgarce now she got std disease oh well that wat she gets for sleeping with another man when she is married!!
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Pepeye(f): 7:57pm On Feb 02, 2009
mind-blowing . . .so revealing

was speechless
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by ifyalways(f): 8:57pm On Feb 02, 2009
lady kool:

i read this blog were are husband alec told th whole story about their relationship its
://stella-dimokokorkus..com/
its just too much and beside i neva knew keffee was like dat now and she is frm the same state niger delta as me wat a shame and disgarce now she got std disease oh well that wat she gets for sleeping with another man when she is married!!
for real? shocked shocked
never even knew she was married sef undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 9:24am On Feb 03, 2009
joyblinks:

dont mind them.

heard the husband is dating one university girl like that which is family member likes because they said she(keefe) is too proud of herself

Jeebus. So its now a marital crime to be pride of oneself. undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by debosky(m): 9:27am On Feb 03, 2009
spikedcylinder:

Jeebus. So its now a marital crime to be pride of oneself. undecided
Don't you know what that means in naija-lingo? She didn't allow her husband to be domineering - so he's chasing someone who is young enough to 'respect' him now.

That's my opinion though, not fact.

Why are they having this slinging match in public? Highly uncalled for if you ask me.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Rochalis(m): 1:06pm On Feb 03, 2009
Pathetic.Naija babes get to the top and forget who put them there.Kefee should return to Alec.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by sophienwa(f): 1:47pm On Feb 03, 2009
debosky:

Don't you know what that means in naija-lingo? She didn't allow her husband to be domineering - so he's chasing someone who is young enough to 'respect' him now.

That's my opinion though, not fact.

Why are they having this slinging match in public? Highly uncalled for if you ask me.

i might be getting the wrong end of the stick but are you saying that it is the proper thing for men to be domineering towards thier wives ?
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Pinkrosey(f): 8:41pm On Feb 03, 2009
[b]My problem with Kefee began on our wedding day –Alec, enstranged husband[/b]By Nonye Iwaugwu
Published: Saturday, 31 Jan 2009

How long were you married to Kefee?

The marriage lasted for three years: from 2005 to 2008. I won’t count this year.

How did you guys meet three years ago?

We didn’t meet three years ago; we met about 10 years ago. She was in the choir that I led in my father’s church in Sapele. I had this vision of a mobile choir, like that of Kirk Franklin. Kefee was a lead vocalist in my choir. My younger sister, Estee, was also a lead vocalist, and there were some other good singers. I raised a choir with this vision in mind. Then, I hadn’t even asked Kefee out. I just saw her as a chorister.

So, when did you ask her out?

Rumours were rife in church back then. That was how it started. People started spreading rumours that I was sleeping with her.

How did the rumour come about?

It actually started when they got to know that I wanted to travel abroad. One particular girl felt that our dream of going abroad to be like Kirk Frankiln was just going to fade like that. I didn’t tell anybody that I was travelling abroad, they heard from someone else. As such, the girl threw the ‘stone’ and the rumour started. It was a very serious issue. The church almost split, because some people felt it was not right to cover up for the pastor’s son. But thank God for the resident pastor then; he investigated the issue thoroughly and found that it was a mere rumour. The people that started the rumour were suspended from the church.

And then you decided to turn the rumour into reality,

Not really. It was after then that some other girls in the church started giving me ill report about Kefee. They told me she was circumcised because she was caught with some men. I felt all the things they were saying were too bad, because Kefee was very important to the choir. I had to get close to her to see the kind of person she was. I wasn’t going to let her go at all.

Was she as bad as people said?

No way! When I came close to her, I discovered that Kefee was a wonderful girl. She was very decent. She was from a responsible home and she was God fearing. I decided to get closer to her. If not for the rumour and all that, I don’t think I would have got close to Kefee. I got closer to her and found out that she was the kind of girl any man would want for a wife.

So you decided to marry her.

Oh yes. But she was scared. She wasn’t comfortable with the rumour. But I told the resident pastor my intention. And in fairness to the man, he warned me against the marriage. He told me that Kefee was not my wife. He advised me to move on with my life, travel abroad like I wanted to do, and get another girl to marry. He told me that my father would never agree to the marriage. He even ended up telling me some sensitive things. He knew the family very well, because Kefee’s dad was his friend. But I insisted on marrying her. My mind was already made up to marry Kefee. I didn’t want to listen to the man because he broke away from my dad’s church. I felt that was the reason he didn’t want me to marry Kefee.

But were both parents in support of the relationship?

Her dad had left my dad’s church and I told her that it was going to be difficult since I would need my dad’s blessing. I suggested we call it quits but she wouldn’t agree. She cried and cried. She threatened to kill herself and all that. Then my father told her that if her parents would not embarrass us if we asked for her hand in marriage, we would go. She went back to her father, who said he wasn’t going to embarrass anybody. He said if the reverend could stoop to come to his house and ask for his daughters hand, he would not embarrass him. That was how we did the introduction and everything went on fine. The pastors that broke away from the church all came back and made peace with my father.

And that was how you got married to Kefee?

Yes. And that was the beginning of the problem. On the wedding day, I noticed that her mum called her inside the room and told her some things. She was so sad on that day. Till date, she has not told me what her mother told her or why she was in that mood. I didn’t understand what happened. She remained very sad for three days and she never slept with me.

Don’t you think her mood then was because she was living the home she had known all her life to a new place? Most brides feel that way on their wedding day.

That is possible. But she didn’t tell me what her problem was. She finally decided to sleep with me two weeks later. The next time we slept together was two months later. I am not mincing words.

Before marriage, were you sleeping with her?

Hmmmm, I can’t really tell you that. But all I can tell you is that I met Kefee a virgin. That was what made me loved her the more. I never saw her as an indecent girl. If I had seen her as a wayward girl, I don’t think I would have married her.

Was it because you got married that you changed your plans to go to the US?

Yes. I have never really admitted it. Yes, I had the vision of a mobile choir, even though the break up in the church destroyed the whole thing. Kefee was all I had to push. I felt she was a dream I could actualise. The entire family travelled out of the country, I was supposed to join them, but I refused. I was scared that if I travelled, I might not get married to Kefee. In any case, I will not blame her. It was my decision to stay back in Nigeria. I won an American visa lottery, I tried to backdate the marriage certificate and they found out and denied me visa.

When did this dream of creating Kefee’s ‘Branama’ come up?

Actually, when the mobile choir thing didn’t work and my travelling didn’t work too, I started pushing Kefee and my sister, Estee. They were a group. I wrote their songs for them and somehow, we came out with a video. But I found that people wanted more of audio. Along the line, Estee travelled out and Kefee was left alone. I had to start Alecs Music in Lagos. I suggested she should do more of traditional music, which was so natural with her. I actually wrote all the songs on her first album, including Branama. All she did was translate the song into her language. On that album, she said that was the only song written by her. I guess that was where I kind of spoilt her. In the new album, I wrote 14 of the songs, but I see on the album, ‘all songs written by Kefee.’

Branama 1 was a hit. We hadn’t got married. I met some politician friends and, somehow, I organised an album launch. Remember that all this while, there was no support from my family. By God’s grace, I come from a very well-to-do family. But my family didn’t see my vision with me, so they didn’t support me. They felt I was rebellious. After the launch, we got N2.5 million. The money was paid into her father’s account. It took about a month for her father to remit the money into her account.

When did you guys move to Lagos?

When the album got pirated, we had to come to Lagos in order to fight piracy. Since the money had been paid into her account, it was only natural to take money from there and open the Lagos office. I got the studio equipment later on and we paid gradually over time. I spent so much money to organise the album launch. We got N2.5 million and she said it was all hers. I never knew we had a problem then. But now, she is saying she paid for the office. I said that was wrong. It was just that we didn’t sign a contract. If we had signed a contact, I would have been making more money from the whole thing than her. When everything went back to normal, from the sales of the album and shows, I got her a car. And not long after, we got married. There wasn’t much money to play around with, so I didn’t buy my own car. But then, I noticed that over any little misunderstanding, she would say ‘give me my car keys’. I noticed over time that there was no respect. I couldn’t take it any more. I had to call my parents, sent some money to them and they got me a car from the US. If I hadn’t given them any money, they still would have got me a car. But I still have my intergrity even before my parents. I had to pay them for the car.

Did you fight over money?

We used to run one account. Ever since my parents got married, they have been running a joint account. I thought we could do that, but I found that it wasn’t working, so she had to open her own account. There was no way I would be ripping her off if she had her own account. But as the man of the house, I was still paying the bills and even taking care of her needs. If she had to assist for any reason, she got her money back.

You said she denied you sex. What do you think was the problem?

She told me that the fact that she was circumcised made her not to enjoy sex. I believed her. She would cry each time we made love. She would just lie on the bed and tell me to do whatever I wanted. I couldn’t be an animal, so I didn’t do anything with her most of the time. It was terrible. I told her we should see the pastor or a psychologist, but she said we shouldn’t tell anybody about such things.

You then decided to get sexual satisfaction outside your home.

No. Believe me, I tolerated this thing for a long time. But you have got to believe me, Kefee was even the one that suggested that I should indulge in extra marital affairs. I thought she was silly, but she would encourage me and tell me to go ahead and come back and give her the details.

We learnt that you actually slept with some of her friends.

The Stella she is talking about was her PA. The first day we met the girl, she was the one that suggested that I should take the girl to bed. I didn’t reply her. But a few days later, she told me she wanted the girl to be her PA. So the girl started coming to the house. But I noticed that Kefee started feeling threatened by the girl’s presence. Each time the girl came into the house, that would be the time Kefee would suggest we make love. That was why I started inviting the girl to the house more often so as to be able to sleep with my wife.

When did the real problem begin?

It all started on March 16, 2008, on a Sunday morning. There was a programme in Abuja and she was supposed to go and minister in church. She said there was no need for me to join her and that I should just drop her at the airport and come and pick her up when she came back. I agreed. But when she came back from Abuja, I started noticing some changes. Kefee never liked staying at home alone. But since she came back, Kefee could afford to stay alone and she was always with her phone. It was strange. For the first time, Kefee would walk away while we are recording. She would be away for at least an hour and nobody would know where she was. She was always telling me she was playing games on her phone or that she was holding family meeting with her mom on the phone. I never really bought those excuses. After about two or three weeks, I had to investigate her phone. It was all about her phone. As she slept one night, I went through her inbox and the first message I saw was sent to her by a man called Uche. It reads, ‘How can you continue to stay with a man you say you don’t love?’ She replied with, ‘I have to take this step by step. We can’t rush this. I promise I will get out. I love you.’ I read a lot of things about babies in the text messages. It was obvious that she had told him we didn’t have a child. He kept telling her how he was going to give her twins from their first intercourse.

What did you do?

I understood what was going on. I knew, from the text messages, that they hadn’t met again after the first time. I thought the fault was from me, that probably there were some things I wasn’t doing right. I had to buy her things, take her out and do all manner of things to rekindle my love. I didn’t even raise the texts I read. I pretended as if I didn’t know about it. I made her assure me of her love and she did. I checked her phone again the third day and the guy was telling her he was coming to Lagos and he would make her feel like a real woman. I knew that if I didn’t speak out, she might sneak out to meet him. I called her and told her I already knew what was going on. I thought she would apologise, but she never said anything. By the time she said something after a long silence, she said we had to forget about it. I was shocked. She told me that for her to feel something for the guy meant that it couldn’t have been love that we had. Honestly, I started begging her, but she said it was over. I told her to take her time before she took any decision. She was still communicating with the guy and there was nothing I could do about it. If I got really angry and shouted, she would tell me that if I wanted, she would leave the house immediately.

Was that when you started beating her?

I have never laid my hands on Kefee. Probably she wanted me to, but I never did. The closest I got to doing so was on the day she turned me down with a lot of hurtful words like ‘you are not a man.’ I came to the siting room and started playing a video game on my Play Station. She came into the sitting room, took the remote control and changed the channel, saying she wanted to watch something more serious. I took the remote control and changed the channel back. Then she too changed it and held unto the remote control. I had to get up to collect the remote control from her. In the process, I twisted her arm until she let go of the remote control. That was the closest I came to beating her.

Apart from the Uche guy, was she seeing any other man?

No, I don’t think so. I never accused her of bringing men into the house, and she never did such. I never did so as well. I can’t accuse her of what she didn’t do.

Why did you refuse to talk about all this before now?

This is the first time I am actually speaking out. I am saying this now because I have been pushed to the wall. I am not bitter. Neither am I throwing arrows. But I am just saying the truth about how it all happened.

But don’t you think you could have resolved this problem without allowing it to get this messy?

It could have been resolved if she had not gone as far as sleeping with this guy. If I never knew about it, it would have been a lot easier.

Who told you she had sex with the guy?

There was a text the guy sent to her and he told her that they should forget about the relationship if she wasn’t ready to see him. She replied that she was going to come and see him first thing the next morning. I tried stopping her from going but somehow, she went.

When she came back, I noticed she was always scratching her private part and all that, and she would go to the pharmacy to buy drugs. I checked her phone again and read that she was accusing the guy of giving her STD and he was denying it.

I told her I knew what was going on and that she should stop taking drugs that she knew nothing about and go to the hospital and treat herself. I was the one that took her to the hospital.

Did she ever come back to beg you that she wanted to come back?

There was a time she came and told me that she wanted us to be friends. By then, she had moved out of the house. She was showing me the guy’s text messages and said she needed my advice. I told her that the guy was not serious. Then she started crying and asked me how we got to this point. I held her. Believe me, it was passionate. At that point, I knew she was going to say she wanted to come back, and she said so.

Why didn’t you accept her?

It was too fresh to think about forgiving her. We had 10 years to make this thing work. It hadn’t been a fantastic marriage, but I didn’t want to get involved in a divorce. It is against what we believe in. But we had crossed the line and there was nothing we could do. The next thing, she said I should get out of her house. I did.

What is the next thing you want to do now?

I can’t wait to resettle. I didn’t plan my life to be single at this time. I am going to take my time though. But I need badly to settle down. I don’t have a girlfriend yet. I have not found anybody yet. But I am going to take my time for the wound to heal before I get somebody to settle down with and move on with life. Then again, I don’t think I would get into all these artistes stuff again. Thank God, all my contracts with all my artistes have expired. I am going to stick to just my video production. I don’t want to expose myself anymore. No way!

Do you regret your marriage?

I can’t say I regret it. I believe it is just a lesson. It would only make me a better man.

In those three years of your marriage, were there some good times?

Yes. There were times that are hard to forget. I used to see her as my dream project. We had gone through a lot of things that I thought would never make us break. I never saw this coming. We were accused in church falsely and we went through the struggles of making things work. We went through hard times when my family ‘neglected’ me. We were friends. I thought the best marriages were built on friendship. We were inseparable. I never knew this thing would end like this.

What if she comes back?

She has tried to. Maybe it would have worked. But now, I don’t think I want to consider it. Never! What she did to me, I don’t think I would ever do it to her. It hurts so much. I never saw this coming.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by ifyalways(f): 8:53pm On Feb 03, 2009
hmmn,so touchy.
one side of a coin though undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 8:48am On Feb 04, 2009
sophienwa:

i might be getting the wrong end of the stick but are you saying that it is the proper thing for men to be domineering towards thier wives ?

Thats not what he meant.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by busygirl(f): 8:07pm On Feb 04, 2009
If all the man said was true, then i must say i'm so disappointed in kefee. Especially when you claim to be a gospel artiste and yet have no knowledge of what christainity is all about. I'm also suprised about the fact that she had sex with a man without protection. that is so gross shocked shocked :oEven a 16 yr old knows that it's not proper. She could have contracted HIV for heaven's sake shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikytang(m): 9:06pm On Feb 04, 2009
This is nasty enough, Damn!
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 11:28am On Feb 05, 2009
We have only heard one side of the story o. I hope you people realise that. undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by clemcykul(f): 12:03pm On Feb 05, 2009
i believe what Alec says.

i wont blame kefee for anything, maybe she was pressured into the mariage? afteral he met her a virgin which is a bonus for her.

matters of the heart, who can fathom?
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by JazzFreak(m): 5:00pm On Feb 05, 2009
Pinkrosey:
[b]
You said she denied you sex. What do you think was the problem?
Kefee was even the one that suggested that I should indulge in extra marital affairs. I thought she was silly, but she would encourage me and tell me to go ahead and come back and give her the details.

We learnt that you actually slept with some of her friends.
The Stella she is talking about was her PA. The first day we met the girl, she was the one that suggested that I should take the girl to bed. I didn’t reply her. But a few days later, she told me she wanted the girl to be her PA. So the girl started coming to the house. But I noticed that Kefee started feeling threatened by the girl’s presence. Each time the girl came into the house, that would be the time Kefee would suggest we make love. That was why I started inviting the girl to the house more often so as to be able to sleep with my wife.

When did the real problem begin?
It all started on March 16, 2008, on a Sunday morning. She was always telling me she was playing games on her phone or that she was holding family meeting with her mom on the phone. I never really bought those excuses. After about two or three weeks, I had to investigate her phone. It was all about her phone. As she slept one night, I went through her inbox and the first message I saw was sent to her by a man called Uche. It reads, ‘How can you continue to stay with a man you say you don’t love?’ She replied with, ‘I have to take this step by step. We can’t rush this. I promise I will get out. I love you.’ I read a lot of things about babies in the text messages. It was obvious that she had told him we didn’t have a child. He kept telling her how he was going to give her twins from their first intercourse.

It could have been resolved if she had not gone as far as sleeping with this guy. If I never knew about it, it would have been a lot easier.
When she came back, I noticed she was always scratching her private part and all that, and she would go to the pharmacy to buy drugs. I checked her phone again and read that she was accusing the guy of giving her STD and he was denying it.

Holier than thou, how the mighty falls, very hard fall.

If true, this act is totally shamful, But, if only claims by Alec were true ! lipsrsealed
Personally, I hate celebrity marriages, they are always filled with drama & mainly proned by scandals. embarassed
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by tRoOE(f): 5:13pm On Feb 05, 2009
Weyin concern you people sef undecided
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 9:49am On Feb 06, 2009
tRoOE:

Weyin concern you people sef undecided


They are Nigerian celebrities and the story was in the papers. Surely its up for discussion? No?
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by kellygirl(f): 12:53pm On Feb 06, 2009
if this is true,kefee is big disgrace to woman hood.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by tRoOE(f): 3:45pm On Feb 06, 2009
spikedcylinder:

They are Nigerian celebrities and the story was in the papers. Surely its up for discussion? No?
ROTFLMFAOOOOOOOO Naija celebrity grin
Firstly of all, there are always 3 sides to a story, and not everything you read in a magazine are true
whateva happened btw their walls their business
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Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by MrCrackles(m): 3:51pm On Feb 06, 2009
Who are the idiots in question sef?

How can they be celebrities when no one is celebrating them? grin grin grin grin grin

I tire for naija, na everybody be celebrity naw!!

E don be
cheesy
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by spikedcylinder: 4:12pm On Feb 06, 2009
tRoOE:

ROTFLMFAOOOOOOOO Naija celebrity grin
Firstly of all, there are always 3 sides to a story, and not everything you read in a magazine are true
whateva happened btw their walls their business
[/sub]


Oh well, whether laughable or not, Nigeria still has its own crop of "A" and "B" list celebs.

There are several dimensions to every story and once any of those dimensions has been placed in the papers, it is certainly up for discussion and no longer "their business" as you put it. smiley


MrCrackles:

Who are the idiots in question sef?

How can they be celebrities when no one is celebrating them? grin grin grin grin grin

I tire for naija, na everybody be celebrity naw!!

E don be
cheesy

See ya big mouth! tongue
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by MrCrackles(m): 4:15pm On Feb 06, 2009
spikedcylinder:


See ya big mouth! tongue


tongue cheesy grin
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by idycroft(f): 4:38pm On Feb 06, 2009
lol i taught is lady that talk too much i never knew that men too can not keep things to themselves. This interview is too much of information like high school love
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by damola1: 5:40pm On Feb 06, 2009
certainly primary school, grin grin

coool sha, the scratching made me laugh, hahaha,

scratch am well well, kokoro dey inside! grin grin grin
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by eryck(m): 11:32am On Feb 07, 2009
THERE TWO SIDES TO A COIN KEFEE's TESTIMONY

I was faithful to Alec, he got STD from a girl that worked for us – Kefee
By ‘NONYE IWUAGWU

Published: Saturday, 7 Feb 2009

http://www.punchng.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art20090207705696

How did you get to know Alec? I was a member of his church where his father was the general overseer. I grew up knowing them. We used to go to their house. Let me say this: their family had some problems then, so my father used to help their mom. That was how I got to know them, because my father used to take me to their house.

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Kefee

When did you start going out with him?

I was in the children’s choir for a very long time. I joined the adult choir when I was 16. Alec was the choir director and then we had a choirmaster. When I wanted to join the adult choir, they told me I was too small. I told my dad to talk to the choirmaster so he and Alec could allow me be a part of the adult choir. Relunctantly, Alec told me to do a song and I did it well. He was very surprised. He felt I sounded better than most of the people he had been with. My father sells gospel cassettes and books till date. Alec would come and buy a cassette and tell me to listen to it and work on it. That was how he started getting close to me. I was 16 then.

You started going out with him at that age?

No. When I was 18, he asked me out. I told him point blank that I didn’t want anything to do with him. Before then, some girls in church had started saying a lot of nasty things about me. They said Alec was dating me, but I was very young then. The rumour got so bad that I had to tell my father to take me to a hospital to find out whether I was still a virgin. When the reverend heard I was ready to go and do a test, he called the girl that started the rumour and the girl confessed. She said she thought Alec was doing to me the same thing he was doing to them. I gained admission into OAU (Obafemi Awolowo University) but I had already started doing something with Estee, his sister. I can sing and she can rap. That was why I wanted to stay near home. My father insisted that I should stay in OAU. But during the Ife/Modakeke fight, I tried to convince my father that I could not stay in Ife. Somehow, I came back and got admission into UNIBEN. My father knew I wanted to stay near home because of Alec, so he warned me never to have anything to do with Alec. I came to Benin and we released our album, Estee and Kefee. In the video of that album, I wore trousers for the first time. When my father saw it, he went mad. But then, Alec and I had got very close, but nobody wanted me to marry him. My father had already left their church then.

Why didn’t your parents want you to marry Alec?

I shouldn’t be saying this: Alec’s brothers were accused of armed robbery. Their case was widely reported back then in Sapele. It got so bad because they were the children of a general overseer of a church. You can go to Sapele and find out. Then again, when the GO (Alec’s father) travelled, one other pastor was holding the fort for him. All of a sudden, he ordained Alec and said everybody should submit to Alec, including the other pastor. A lot of people felt it was not right. We didn’t see the church as a family church, so most people left, including my dad. It was very difficult to make my father agree to allow me to marry Alec.

If you knew they had problems, why did you agree to marry him and even threatened to commit suicide if you didn’t?

His family had problems, but I loved Alec. I thought he loved me as well. I didn’t see any reason for anybody to judge Alec based on what his brothers were accused of doing. I insisted I was going to marry him, otherwise I would kill myself.

You eventually got married. But we learnt the problem actually started on your wedding day. What was it that your mother told you that got you so depressed?

You should know how it is with a new bride. Come to think of it, which groom stays with the bride on the wedding day to know what the mother was telling the daughter. I don’t know why Alec should say this. My mother didn’t like him initially, but she later came to love him like her own son. That very day, as I was about to leave the house, in front of everybody, my mother called us and started praying for us.

How come you denied him sex on your wedding night?

He said I did not allow him to touch me until three nights after the wedding. Why would I do that? I love this man. A week before the wedding, I was still working to save money to ensure that our wedding was okay. So why would I now deny him sex? What happened at the hotel we stayed? Is there another name for what we did there? How could he sit and make up such a story? It is just a very fat lie.

When did things start to go wrong in the marriage?

Things started going wrong when he started beating me six months after the wedding. Oh yes, he denied it. If you look at him, you would feel he cannot hurt a fly. He even told me that if I opened my mouth to tell anybody, nobody would believe me. I believed him and I continued to endure it until he broke my wrist. I had to tell people I was dying. I couldn’t come out again. People who saw me a few times before I came out noticed I was not happy.

But he brought the people that made your album launch a success

Alec said he had politician friends whom he invited to my album launch. He is just a funny man. He should please name them. Before my album launch, I met our local government chairman who was living next to my house in Sapele. I told him about the launch and he said he would definitely come. He came with his friends. I didn’t even know that such calibre of people could come. I only read about them in the papers. They supported me and we got close to N1.5 million.

That was the money you people used to get office and residential accommodation.

Let me tell you, before my album launch, I was already in Lagos. When the first video came out where my dad saw me wearing trousers, I told you he was not happy at all, he practically sent me off to go and leave with my uncle in Lagos. That was how I came to Lagos. Alec did not have money. The church was only giving him stipends. So when the money came, Alec said he wanted to come to Lagos. We had to use the money to get an office. But when the issue of marriage came, I told him he ought to get a house where we would stay. Was he expecting us to live in the office? He told me he was going to get a place and that I shouldn’t worry. His younger sister’s husband, who was living somewhere in Lagos, was about to travel out then. Alec told me that he had taken over the house and that he paid the guy for all the stuff in the house. I wasn’t happy with that arrangement. I told him that as a young couple, we ought to have our own place, no matter how small, instead of using a place that somebody had used. Anyway, we got married and we moved into the house. Two months later, the guy’s brothers landed in the house and took over the house. We were now turned into squatters. I asked Alec what was happening. He told me he thought he was going to get money and get a place for us. I couldn’t believe it. Then Alec had a serious fight with his in-law’s brothers. That was the day we moved out of the house. Since we didn’t have any other place to go, we had to pack to the office. It was very embarrassing. I was already known out there. We stayed in the office for some time before his brother came back from London and came to the office. It happened that somehow, Alec spent his brother’s N1.2 million or thereabout. I couldn’t believe it when his brother was telling me. Alec had such money and we were staying in the office? I asked him what he did with the money and he didn’t give me reasonable answers.

How did you eventually secure an accommodation?

His brother, because of me, helped us get a place.

Why was Alec beating you?

We had one television set in the house. I had an interview on one TV station and somebody called me and said they were showing me on TV.

I quickly rushed to the sitting room and Alec was playing a video game. I told him they were showing the interview on TV, that he should change the station for us to watch it, but he ignored me. I couldn’t understand. He was the one that took me to the TV station for the interview. I thought he would be as excited as I was, but for reasons best known to him, he continued playing his game. I stood and watched him for some time before I took the remote control and changed the station. That was it. Alec pounced on me and started battering me. I told him I wasn’t interested in watching the interview again so that he would not kill me. But he continued beating me. I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t tell anybody in my family about it. I called his mom and she said it was too early. Alec called my father and told him what happened. I asked him why he had to tell my father that he was beating me. He said he thought I had already told him. Anyway, we went to Sapele and saw my father. He gave us another TV so that we would not fight over it again.

Was that the only time that he beat you?

Our house rent expired. I travelled, but before then, I gave him my ATM card. When I came back, Alec said there was no money in the house. I couldn’t believe it. I asked him what he did with the money and he said he shot a video. Meanwhile, he bought a wristwatch worth N75,000. A week later, somebody brought wristwatches to the office and Alec picked up another one. I told him the watch was fine but that it shouldn’t be a priority since we needed money for a lot of things including the office and house rents. That was the crime I committed. Alec pounced on me and started hitting me. I rushed out and called his friend and told him what happened. In front of his friend, Alec slapped me again and again. Somehow, my uncle got to know about Alec’s violence. He invited us to the house and talked and talked. Alec said he wasn’t going to marry me again because I was rude to him. My uncle told him that if he didn’t want to marry me again, he shouldn’t kill me before returning me to my family. He walked out on my uncle. I told my uncle I was going back to him and I came back home. Alec didn’t come back to the house that night. He came back the following morning and he was shocked to see me.

We learnt you wanted to come out of gospel music and switch to secular music.

Why would I do a thing like that? When I made a vow to God with my voice, nobody was there. Alec was not there. I was 15 when I made this vow. I said I would edify God and be a good girl that people would want to emulate. I am God fearing. Alec decided he wasn’t going to be a pastor again. He said he didn’t have the calling but his father forced him to be a pastor because he wanted him to be the head of the church. He said he didn’t like the life in Sapele and that he loved Lagos life. He even tried manipulating some of his artists to stop doing gospel music. He kept telling me to leave gospel and do some other kind of music, but I refused. There was a time I was invited to a church in Kaduna. After ministering, the pastor gave me some money. I told the pastor that I would use the money to sow a seed back into his church, that I was not going to collect it. I wanted to sow a seed to the church in the north. It wasn’t as if I had money, but that was what my spirit told me to do at that time. You needed to see Alec’s face when I said that. The pastor, who noticed Alec’s countenance, insisted I should take the money but I refused. At the end of the day, he insisted that we should share it. Just as he gave us the money, Alec quickly stretched out his hand and took the money. So, how would I now say I wasn’t going to do gospel after making such a vow to the Lord?

How come you encouraged your husband to have sex outside and give you the details later?

This is amazing! You are a woman. Would you ever think of doing such to your husband? This was a man I told my parents I would kill myself for if they didn’t allow me to marry him. At the end of the day, I would now tell him to go and sleep with other women? Does that make sense? I never denied him of his rights as a husband.

But you accused him of sleeping with other women,

Alec has this habit of telling me all the dirty things he does outside. He turned me into a reverend father whom he confesses to. He wasn’t acting normal. He would sleep with women and he would come and tell me. But there was this particular girl he told me he slept with and I felt so betrayed. This girl respects me a lot. I sent the girl a text and I told her I knew what she did with Alec. Alec saw me upset and was shouting at me. He started asking me why I had to be that depressed as if he didn’t use to tell me about his escapades. When I told him I sent the girl a text, he started beating me. He used his exercise kit to strangle me. But for a phone call that came in when he tied that thing round my neck, Alec would have strangled me. That was when I knew he would kill me and nothing would happen. He beat me up, packed my bags and threw me out of the house.

But we thought you moved out on your own,

No, Alec sent me out. When he did that, I resolved I wasn’t going to go back to him easily. When he came back to me at my aunty’s place a few days later, I told him that he should call his parents so that they would meet my parents and we would discuss the matter. Things had got out of hand. People were advising me to bite him or hold him in an unpleasant place any time he beat me, but I was scared. What if I do that and he dies on me? People would not even believe that he was beating me. He said he would never call his parents. He said if I saw something that was bigger than me, then I would rush back to him. I stayed at my aunty’s house for three days and I never missed Alec. One day, he came to the house and brought a newspaper that had the story ‘Kefee and Alec’s marriage crashes’. He told me that I should come back to the house so that he would help me tell “these press boys” that the story was a mere fabrication. I told him that if that was the way he wanted me to come back, he should try harder.

Was it because of the battering you had to go and learn taekwando?

Yes! He stood against it. He asked me if I was going to fight for Nigeria. I used to think I was strong, but when Alec was beating me, I would not be able to raise my hand to defend myself.

How come you are talking now after keeping quiet for a long time,

Alec has pushed me to the wall. I loved him so much. I would have tolerated everything but the violence. It was obvious he didn’t love me. He even said so. He said I was not his real wife, if I were, he would not beat me. I have heard stories but I chose to ignore them. It wasn’t easy to tell you. But I chose to speak out when I heard this dirty one again in your newspaper about Kefee being involved in extra marital affairs.

But you have a boyfriend called Uche.

I think this is the time we should talk about this Uche. I travelled to Abuja and I met some guys at the airport. They said they knew me from somewhere and that my face looked familiar. I told them I was Kefee and they screamed. They all decided to take pictures with me. Of course, you know how fans behave when they see celebrities they know. That was all. They asked for my card and I gave it to them. Remember this card had my number and Alec’s number on it. I took interest in one particular guy because that one said he was working at a telecoms company.

Why the interest?

Alec woke up one morning and decided he was going to do a talent hunt programme. He started selling the forms and he said the winner would go home with a Kia car and a huge amount of money. I was wondering where he was going to get all these things he promised, because he had no sponsor. So when the guy gave me his card, I told him he would help my husband and I in the project. He told me to tell Alec to write a proposal. I got home and told Alec about the people I met at the airport and that he should take a particular interest in the telecoms guy.

Lets’ go back to Uche,

Uche and a few others forwarded the pictures we took at the airport to my mail box. It is done everywhere. Fans take pictures with a celebrity and forward it to them. When the picture came in, I showed it to Alec. Among all the guys, Uche was the fairest. When they wrote that they saw me in London with a fair guy, Alec quickly told the reporter that the person was the Uche guy.

Why did he assume that Uche was your boyfriend?

I don’t know. After he had sent me out, there was a day he came to the house, snatched my phone and ran. He saw an Easter message Uche sent to me. For God sake, the message was just a goodwill message that people send to friends and well wishers during festive periods. I don’t know why he picked on him.

Are you saying you are not dating Uche?

I am not dating anybody. I am so sorry for this Uche because he is being dragged into the mud by Alec.

But he said Uche gave you STD,

The STD he is talking about was what he got from one of his girlfriends, Chioma. Chioma used to work for us and I learnt he fired her on the phone. He told me he was clean. He said he went to the hospital and got himself treated. I asked him how he could sleep with Chioma without condom even in these days of HIV/AIDS. He told me that he would never be infected with HIV because his body was too strong for it. Meanwhile, he got an STD.

Did you guys have a problem because you were yet to have a kid?

He told me if I were his real wife, I would not need to tell him to go and see a doctor and that I would take in easily. I went to see the doctor who told me nothing was wrong with me. The doctor told him nothing was wrong with him either but he should try and hold himself, at least for three days. But he said he couldn’t. This was the same man that said I denied him sex. God is really watching all of us.

So there was no ‘Uche’ that was telling you how he would give you twins at first intercourse?

Fat lie. Does that sound like anything any man can take? If it had happened, Alec would have killed me. He just made up these stories to have something to hold on to. I think he had a psychological problem because he was into a lot of dirty things.

You never slept with any other man after you were married to him,

Never! He told you I was God fearing. He told you he met me a virgin. If I didn’t sleep around when I was single, why should I do that when I was married? Does circumcision make one promiscuous? Alec said he was going to ruin me. He said he had press power that would cost him little or nothing.

What do you intend to do now?

I am moving on with my album. I have just released my new album and he showed up to cause katakata. He said he wrote some of my songs, but he is lying. Some of the songs were written during the period I was having problems with him.

Would you accept him if he comes back?

Definitely not. I don’t know the kind of question you are asking me, but nothing would make me go back to him. I thought he would change but he would never change. I was so submissive to him.

Will you get married again?

Oh yes. I will get married to the person who would love me for who I am. I am not looking for the person now. I have to push my career forward. I am young. I am going to make the best out of my career. I don’t need any distraction now.
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by busygirl(f): 7:33pm On Feb 07, 2009
Na wa oh. This story is shocked shocked shocked. Someone is definately telling a lie. i don't even know who to believe anymore. Anyway, it's not my business. I think both of them are going too far. All those details are so uncalled for shocked shocked
Re: Kefee (brainamah) And Her Husband Alec by Pepeye(f): 7:50pm On Feb 07, 2009
There is an atom of truth from both side of the gory story. .

really don’t know who to believe now but Kefe sounds more

convincing but why wash dirty linen in public eh!

they re obviously compounding the issue. . .all they needed to do

was to maintain a dignified silence albeit the marriage had crashed irredeemable

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