Nigerian Men Don't Marry Early Enough?

Naija Guys Wait Too Long To Get Married

This is a common phenomenon found in most naija guys, you will find out that many guys now deem it compulsory to at least own a tokunbo car and have a two bed room flat before they can get married and have kids.

Though i subscribe to this, but i have found out that it will automatically make guys end up being womanisers for far too long or even crash a decade relationship because some girls don't have the patience.

I wish i can have all my three kids before i am 35 and have more time to work and give them good education, so that before i am 60,each of them can fend for him/herself.

So? , the point is, they get married someday/somehow, doesnt matter when, why rush into something that You aint ready for?

Don't fall for it. The chances a stringer will marry are very slim; ,  The women who married these men insisted they commit early in the relationship. ,

I am not old enough to have been there and I don't have any kids yet,

abi o

@walaty
 i am not blaming anyone bros because i am also a victim of our generation, our parents got married in their late 20s and settled down on time. but in this new nija a 40 year old guy is not different from a secodary guy, 
   bros at 28 no car no crib, why will i think of a wife,  i don't know how this is affecting our ladies
@lauryn
 i think it matters when a guy get married i don't know about when a lady get married. for me as a guy i would love to focus more on how to work harder at my 40s instead of having to take my kids to school every morning.

@chiori -  And by FAR, the most important of these things
is to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

 Women don't go through a logical process to
decide if they're going to feel ATTRACTION.

   It just HAPPENS.

   But it doesn't happen very OFTEN.

   If you're one of those rare men who knows how
to use your body language, voice tone, and other
communication to make women feel ATTRACTION, then
you will have the kind of success that most men
only dream of.

Well Damollar, but that is only a tiny fraction of what I meant. By saying if I had known then what I know now, I mean things that would get me settled earlier, things that would get me to be a solid man who can conveniently fill in the big shoes of the society.

@lauryn
 
I seem not to get what you are trying to say, its not about both of us 
@ nairaland

I was watching a program on CNN (katrina killing), a guy that was shot by the police according to CNN had a grand son and he was just 45 years at the time he died. I was unable to calculate how old he was when he had his first son.
This may not be an isolated case because in US you have got all you need at 20s to be a father, even in some African countries young guys have kids at late 20s and apparently their ladies settle with a fine BOBO early enough.
     Guys work harder ooooooooooooooooooooo, because life span sef don reduce to 60 now

oh so you are aspiring to live up to only 70 years. sorry for u. Baba iyabo sef at that age is still d presido

Really?. Marriage is not something You wake up one morning and just jump into for the sake of it. You gotta know you're ready for it and You can handle the responsibilities that comes with  it, if u want to get married for the fun of it, then oh well, suit yourself, we all got diff thoughts/opinions

When you are young and working really hard round the clock, will you have time for your children?

Damn i am impressed.

See you naija men in naija saying things like "i wish i was married with two kids"

Over here in the states you will never catch a naija man saying anything like that. Instead they want to be Man Whores until their prick falls off then they then want to get married and suffa person,

Kudos to you all.

You will make it in Jesus name and you will find a good wife who will bring you many children. Your family will be the source of your joy. keep trying. Baba God no dey sleep.

Bobbie.

Kai, this post touched me oooo

This is what we are subjected to in naija here and it has become the norm of our society, it is only few that are aware of it.

 don't mind our brothers in US, their cup don full.

All these problems are products of corruption cooked by our past and present leaders.As i post this, our president and his vice are at war over looted funds, and i guess they are confused (thieves)
          What pains me most is that the consequences of all their missapropriation affect only the poor while their own children travel abroad to attend havard and oxford.after their spoilt bratt finish school they come back to naija and oppress us with our resources

                  SOMEONE PLEASE CALL 911

Kai my brothers! Make una no worry. You see, we naija people are natural born hustla's. As in, i know you men will be great men because your hearts are on point.

Thunda faya all these useless men wey dey here, infact, may ya pricks all fall off. AMEN.

Meanwhile, the correct woman that will love you for you, is on the way. Like i said, Bab for upstairs no dey sleep.

And all those oppressors, one day one day, the truth shall come out abi? no make una no worry una selves.

You guys are good men.

If Bobbie Mae talk am, so shall it be. You people are good men and you guys will amount to nothing but SUCCESS. See as i dey pray for una. Abeg someone crown me the DEACONESS.
But i mean it, yall will be successful and you will have good wives and wonderful children.

You just wait and see.

And all you disgraceful naija men here in Yankee and Jand, na only time, walahi, una kini go fall off. Make una wait. Una go dey kpansh one day and your kini go just drop for floor. Rubbish. Kpanshing and impregnating young gals up and down, Dapo/Femi/Emeka/Ibro(all naija guys) the original lagos gigolo. Rubbish

Is there ever an "osho free" wife?  Even if there were (which I'm yet to know about), I'm sure guys would rather run away from such, as that would ultimately come with too many (subtle) strings and attachments.

Again, getting married is not all about having all the good things in life (BTW, who has all the good things in life?).  Even when I don't really support guys who go about sampling and dumping girls, I would also say that in the world of today, it's even more difficult to find someone (girl) who would be patient enough to be a real support and joy if they were to get married so early.  Most of us want to be quite comfortable before marriage because, though we can't satisfy all the material wants and needs of our women, we don't want her to lack so much.  However, we also wouldn't want wives that would nag us to the grave because we weren't providing for them as much as other men do.  What is more, some women would even begin to tell their men that there ex's or former guys (the husbands they missed marrying) used to take better care of them.

Even today that the issue of fulltime housewives is giving way to working-class wives, which helps in making the household finances a bit more robust, we still want to make sure that rather wouldn't turn out to be an avenue for the women to try lording it over us.

Some of these reasons and more urge some of us to rather believe we could enjoy life a little more as bachelors before going into marriage (which some regard as a bondage. . . lol).

I feel you, Deaconess Bobbie Mae!