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Douzy (m)
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Yea, I mentioned that some regard it as a form of bondage, but that doesn't mean that is the general case nor is it the ideal perspective. What is more, I do not see it as such, though I may rather say it's a risk, of which LIFE itself is a full of risks, but we've got to live it!
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jaybaby (f)
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Ow can u say gettin married is a RISk? haaaaaaaaaaa GODDDDDDDDDDDDDddd
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Douzy (m)
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OMFG! Dun even get me started now. . . everything in life is a risk (if u know whut RISK means)!
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Douzy (m)
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lmfao! Now, I beg to rest my case.
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ginababy (f)
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only the reasonable once are call out for such.
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Gettolove (m)
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Everything in life is surely uncertain and is as good as a risk.Getting hooked up with a chik is a big risk and the unfortunate thing is that the unlucky guy would be deceived by sexy legs  @nairaland You will agree with me that a few fraction of men that get married enjoy the whole shit as the whole stuff looks like luckecd up |
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iice (f)
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Think Douzy had the word - bondage lmao and you have added your own locked up lol
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crazykid (m)
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I think the question should be most Nig men don't marry early enough
not Nig men don't marry early enough.
co's i have a friend and at the age of 28, he's already married
with 2kids.
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Gettolove (m)
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I think the question should be most Nig men don't marry early enough
not Nig men don't marry early enough.
co's i have a friend and at the age of 28, he's already married
with 2kids.
You are right man, but ask me what fraction of naija guys are married at that age  im sure your friend will be one out of a million. Quick one, my point is not just getting married or having kids |
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Serpent (f)
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i think the problem is that Nigerian guys are waiting to have all the money they can get before they get married, which isn't supposed to be so. Most of our parents got married without a bank account, and had as many of us as our mothers could carry without trying to make all the money first.
But again, that boils down to whether the ladies are ready to get married to a guy whose bank acc is not screaming thousands or millions.
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crazykid (m)
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@
serpent
you are right, we want to have all the money in the world
before we get married.
it's all you ladies fault.
co's you are not ready to get married to a guy who
isn't Financially stable.
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iice (f)
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And now its has reversed to woman dey cause am 
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crazykid (m)
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@
iice
yes oh!!
you people are the cause
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iice (f)
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We people ke, responsibility, cause and effect runs both ways my brother
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crazykid (m)
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i know that my sis
but you girls tend to be on the
receiving end.
that's why you find it difficuilt falling
for a guy whose spending power is
very low.
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Douzy (m)
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Ultimately, it most often boils down to the fear guys have of what the wives (or would-be wives) would think of them if or when their pockets are not loaded. If at this very moment, I find a girl whom I, without doubts, believe is not going to add to my anxieties as I'm still struggling to carve out my niche or when the water runs dry, (but would want to sweat it outz with me), then marriage would be one of the topmost on my priority list. Such girls, I've come to believe, even bring goodluck to their husbands (or haven't some of you seen men who suddenly became embarrassed with material wealth just moments after they got married?).
Girls, sometimes you are the reason we marry late (that is, not in all cases, though). Ask your parents and you would find out how much our mums have been strong support even in times of financial difficulties. I know men of great wealth who, I can say, their wives sorta made them what they are today (don't quote me out of context here). In fact, most 'struggling' men end up marrying the girl who had sometime somehow helped them or been such great support for them while in some difficulties.
To sum up, the Igbo today no more looks for an Oriaku, but an Odoziaku for a wife (apologies to the non-Igbo).
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iice (f)
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Why is it that this became a standard? I mean i don't think it was so in the time of our parents. Granted that economic situation is different from back then. I think that we just want to be comfortable and taken care of to an extent (i don't mean financially, more like emotionally) Still i don't think that a man wallowing in wealth must be prerequisite for a relationship or whatever develops from that.
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Douzy (m)
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Why is it that this became a standard? I mean i don't think it was so in the time of our parents. Granted that economic situation is different from back then. I think that we just want to be comfortable and taken care of to an extent (i don't mean financially, more like emotionally) Still i don't think that a man wallowing in wealth must be prerequisite for a relationship or whatever develops from that.
Wish there were more of you around here. Or is it that they've been eluding my searchlight? |
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iice (f)
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Ehen, if you find one that wasn't into money, do you think you would be able to handle her other issues? Or what if she's not exactly the type you want but she's with you not for your money but for you.
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Douzy (m)
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Money is the root of all evil! . . . lol!
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ginababy (f)
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you are right. but Love without money is like heaven without God.
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Douzy (m)
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you are right. but Love without money is like heaven without God.
Can't believe my eyez! You equate God with money? How lame analogies could be!!! Such a FALLACY!!! Anywayz, there's no man without money or the potentials to make money and even more money. Do most girls understand that? Do you even know how to pray for your man or your eyez are ever on his pocket? |
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ginababy (f)
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I'm not equating God with money. it a Metaphorical statement.
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Douzy (m)
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Oh teacher, teach me Figures of Speech, but your analogy is so WEAK, and as such a Fallacy!
For all I care, love without money (if I understand what you mean) can bring out the best of creativity in a relationship. Now tell me what's it like in heaven without God! Have you been there to make the comparison?
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iice (f)
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Anywayz, there's no man without money or the potentials to make money and even more money. This i agree with to a certain extent. If he is some lazy ass with no determination and direction he will not make anything or amount to anything of significance (be it to his family, society, wife, friends, work blah blah). |
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ginababy (f)
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@Douzy
i'm not teaching you and. Infacts its a general statement posted there and not for you alone or else i would have make mention of you in the first place.
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ginababy (f)
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The most happiest couples in the world are those with money.
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Douzy (m)
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The most happiest couples in the world are those with money.
Another fallacy of over-generalisation (and hasty conclusion). Have you gone round the world? Have you met all the couples in the world? What are your sources? Your statement should rather read: The happiest couples in the world appear to be those with much money. |
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