Please Help, My Wife Wants To Leave Me

lolll yes Bola is fine now.

  This is all I can show you to assist you

I didnt read the whole story, too angry to read it, I wont blame her if she dumps your ass
what kind of innocence are you trying to prove by allowing someone to say crappy stuffs about ur wife and you can't even disagree with her, that was so stupid , you actually agreed with what the person said because you didnt want the conversation to end, you cliam not to be doing anything wrong, I'm sure thats a thick lie.

You were watching Porn, hmmm a married man watching porn without his wife beside him, you have some stuffs going on underneath you're just a pathetic liar. its all showing in your story.

I wont ask her to dump you, but she should teach you a lesson you will never forget. and that lady you keep chatting with, she needs to go and get a man, and leave you d mess alone
she should go and chat with someone else, I bet u don't even call ur wife with pet names
RUBBISH!

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@factorychic & waffistyle take it easy hmmm Borlarge is ok wid his wife now evrythin is settled and they are now leavin happily ever after
Take it easy now

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Dear Friend this is serious ok so don't try to water it down in any way.
First thing first when u apologise to her forget about claiming innocence or doing anything wrong because it sort of deletes any apologies u make in the sense that if u feel u've not done anything wrong and u're apologising u're not passing any message that u're sorry ok. Also when u say u're sorry please mean what u are saying as in don't say it with ur mouth say it with ur heart and ur actions. Tell her exactly the way u feel if u feel u will die without her tell her let her know what is in ur heart. If u feel like crying bros cry. there is nothing like shame in this thing. I'm very interested in this because i'm from a broken home and i know what it is like u do not want to go there neither do u want ur child to go through any of the ensuing situations. U should (must) also show her ur initial post to nairaland its great evidence that u love her a lot and want her to stay. She wants to go because she feels u do not love her. What are u doing about that show her please shower her with love she needs to know she is secure with U she doesnt want to be left in the cold. Note that I said show her that is much more than telling her. Let her feel what she felt when she said yes to U the first time and don' t let it end there ok.
Note i didnt even talk about what u did. right now u need to salvage the situation so what i will say is that u should never ever do what u did again. if there is anything u need from ur wife like conversation which u were doing with ur online friend please tell ur wife u need to talk to her and sort ur selves out.
marraige is forever and ever and ever. please I beg u don't let her go even if she has gone go after her and make sure u get her back shove ur pride down the toilet.
One very important thing ur marraige needs GOD as the bedrock of ok so please let him in and let him handle it. Truly only the grace of God can make a man to forgive another for anywrong they might have done and truly move on ok. Sooooooooooooo

Ok let me do this for U show her this post  ok,
please madam forgive ur husband and try to work it out. He is sorry I know He is maybe he just doesnt know how to communicate it to you effectively with his pride still intact. What he did was bad for a married man but please don't "throw away the baby with the bath water" It may be difficult to forgive him but its a choice only U can make so please decide to do so and take it from there. Please let God work in U and through U to give Ur marraige a chance to survive. For ur sake, his sake and especially for the babys' sake.
Thank U very much I know U will do this right ok plus he wont do it again o as in He's learnt his lesson.
God Bless U real good.
Ronkus.

wow i never knew about people writing a lot about their problems.

You know you are a liar.Be a man about it don't apologise to her nothing and let her go and you take a long vacation to south Africa,I am sure you will enjoy it.She is playing tricks on you,let her ass go,you don't need a third person into this,it looks to me like she has found a man with a big one so you are hit BRO.And for you,boy! you need to take a quick exit to the hospital because you have mental status change for what you have done is not normal.If you tell her that you will die withou her she will kill you before you kill yourself so don't.Don't pray about it because you will catch fire before the end of your prayers so don't say that I did not tell UMmmmmmm!Cry about it?you might try but get bare first before you do that.Last but not list go to a tall building and jump,trust me,your stess will be gone before you hit the ground.

I believe if you could go back and change your past behavior as a husband, you would.  I just started a "thread" that asks the question, "Should a Husband or Wife Develop Close Relationships With Someone of the Opposite Sex?".  Ironically, reading your topic kind of answered that.  Women are usually forgiving by nature, and are more willing to give someone a second chance, depending on the offense, than most men are (especially in the areas such as this).  However, when a woman gets to the point where she has been through hell and high water (as the expression goes), and she just cannot take it or is not willing to take it any longer due to her husband's treatement, she can and will usually turn her feelings off and proceed forward, contemplating a future without him.  Perhaps she has just had enough of trying to trust you and you continually lie to her, and you are still playing games.  When trust is broken in a marriage or relationship, it is hard to build that back up again.

I would advise that you make one LAST PLEA with her, but you MUST be willing to be TOTALLY HONEST about your past mistakes.  You must not continue to lie to cover up the past lies, which only creates present lies.  Your wife seems at a point where she is tired of playing games, for she means what she says!

Try honesty and much prayer!  If that does not work, than know that sometimes when we mess up, the broken pieces do not always fit back together.  If that happens, learn and grow from this mistake, and do not develop a friendship that is more stronger with ANYONE other than your wife, whom you say you love and desire to spend your life with.

I pray it works out the way you want it to!

 you just need to tell your wife you have been cheating on her, go down on your knees if possible cry hard so she could forgive  you

Am glad that things are getting good now. Give us an update soon to let us know how the classes and stuff went or have been going. Gluck to you and your wifey