Your Views On Interracial Dating

I guess this depends largely on your taste as a person. Compatibility will likely play a great role here.

Besides, I have noticed that over the years, peope who are widely traveled tends to go into interracial marriages than those who don't. But I guess in the end, love's the principal thing.

@Flying dut

Oh booooooooooooooooooooooooooooooy!  Na you dey for that picture? 

Thank you bo!  You have said it all!  Wetin Naija people sabi?  And them can make noise!  Please date interracially and then if you choose to marry your home buddy for cultural reasons or whatever, you ladies will have gained the experience of "bedmatics" instead of laying there like a logs of wood playing some "disgusting and irritating secondary virgin"!   The guys will also learn to take a shower and wipe their butts clean before crawling into the bed!  When wahala comes into your marriage you will go and start sleeping in church for help --fasting and praying only to loose more weight, become less attractive with your bloody scarves or even start looking like AIDS victims!  Nonsense!

@teeirl

Don't be offended please!  Nothing wrong with biracial dating! When it gets to marriage---that is a dfferent ball game!  Let my brother introduce himself to some white folk in Alabama or Upstate New York as your future husband and see the "hell" both of you will catch!  Look, we know the deal and I personally will not put up with the social abuses of interracial marriages! It is fun to date, but marriage---no way!  I like to eat my stockfish and ishi-ewu without someone disrespectfully spraying airfreshner all over my house!  I do not like noodles and gummy bears!

So bottom line!  It is a matter of preference---no disrespect intended!







Sure!  No problems with that!  LOVE SEES NO COLOR?  Sorry oh!  My love wears "bi-focals" at all times!  Why has the Nigerian guy not married you?  We are simply terrified of that interracial nonsense from both sides and life is just too short for that kind of adventure!    Just have all the fun you can while it lasts and take care of your beautiful daughter!

@teeirl

Ireland is only a small part of the world and we all cannot move to Ireland to find genuine harmony in inter racial marriages right?  We all have our strengths and weaknesses!  My love can definitely not withstand that type of abuse.  The last thing I will do is to subject my children to such cruelty in this world!  Like I said--Power to you and keep up your good work!  Life is just too freaking short for some kinds of hassles!  To prove what kind of love?  Naaaaaaaaaaaa!  I will pass!  Over hear in America,  people can be very disrespectful, especially to children!  I say I pass!

@teeirl


 

This is the most idiotic white propaganda that keeps being handed down. Does love see ugly? If the black men you date were ugly, poor and homeless, you wouldn't bother to look at their hearts. Maybe you would still consider their Di-- but you wouldn't defend them as you do in terms of interracial dating and marriage. The truth is, love sees what it wants to see and what it sees can be a lie or the truth. Also lust sees what it wants to see weather it is the truth or a lie.

As far as love between a man and a woman goes, it is a different degree of love, not the lame love you describe.


Why is that not suprising? Bottom line, you white women love black men more than you do white men and the white man is your father, brother uncle etc. You white women gave birth to and raised the white men you now turn your back on.  Don't misconstrue the love I mentioned for true love. Believe me, I understand, the white man is the most boring and unattractive man on earth so I understand what you are going through. However, you are the white mans counterpart so that makes you just as unimportant as he is. 

Weather you realize it or not, you are not color blind. Your color blind theory is only a ridiculous, not well thought out, justification, for screwing and having a baby by a black man just because you think having his child will keep him around and let us not forget, you wanted you a brown baby you could not produce with out a black seed. If you were really color blind as you say claim you are, tell us about the white men you dated in the past ten years? Tell us about the Asian men you dated in the past ten years? Tell us about the Hispanic men you opened your self up to date in the past ten years? Why is it only the black man you mentioned in your ten year dating that makes you color blind to love? The love you express is lame, you don't know what love really is. I love my father as well as other men in my family but hell, I don't want to procreate with them.


I hope you are including your self?



Stunnin and GORGEOUS! What a choice of words to be used in describing your daughter. What? She could not have been as stunning or GORGEOUS if she were made by a black man and black woman? Verses being made by a "BLACK man an a WHITE woman"  as you made clear to state and put the colors in all caps.




Come to us? Who, white women? What you just said was a racist thing to say and it was quite taunting and ignorant. You don't sound as if you are really with  black men for any other reason outside of the fact that he can't do any better with his natural black counterpart and so you volunteer to become second to the best.  What are exactly you trying to prove?

I understand, once you have had it black, you will never go back. Whatever it takes to get your point across, you  don't care what you say. 


Who could be more materialstic than the white women and the white man? You people stole everything you have to show for and you stole much of that from Africa and African people. Please, stop pretending to be ignorant to that fact.  African people just want a quality of life just like any normal human being would want but as a white women who is competing to keep her self a black man, you have to put down the competition. Let me tell you something. The competition is false. One of the many reasons being due to the fact that everything about white people in history and present is a lie. If not for Africa, Europe and Europeans would be nothing and there would be no America but where do we read that truth at in our history books written by white people?

 If a Nigerian woman wants to have what a white woman has, she is by right entitled to have it. After all, it was her land and people that was robbed by the people (White people) who now profit from past and present exploitation of Africa and African people.


If you knew your history and you were not as ignorant as you accused the people in this topic to be, you would acknowledge that it is your people who put Nigeria in the present state that it is currently in and this was done under the guise of "Democracy". Nigerian women would like for their men to provide for them, nothing is wrong with that. On the other hand, with your being white, your forefathers and your present fathers made sure that as long as you have white skin, at the expense of black people, you would always have your lively provisions for as long as you live. If the black men you date need a vacation from the struggles they have as a black man, you would be the perfect escape route.  The love you think you experience with them is nothing but lust fueled by escapism. The love is not real. As one of the sista's said, why haven't any of those black men married you? I am sure you will come back with some BS to back that question up with.

This is the problem you white people have, you connect love to total sacrifice. True love to you is total sacrafice but not on your white behalf. For a black person to show he is not a racist towards white people, he has to be willing to sacrafice his life in the name of that evil word "Racism" He or she has to die to prove that he loves white people. I can't tell you how many black men were lynched for walking down the street with a white woman or  so called "wreckless eyeballing" a white woman. Why would a woman who claims to love a man be caught walking down the street with a man who can be killed for being with her? Especially if she claims she loves him? White woman are so insecure that it makes them selfish. They don't have a problem with a man risking his life for them. Is that really love? Sounds sadist to me. Then again, who else would know better how to play the role of a sadist outside of white people?  Just look at history and follow it up to the present.

Let me tell you something, I don't care how materialistic Nigerian women are, you will never as a white woman, have anything on a black woman accept for maybe your provisions and your willingness to cock your legs and mouth open at the site of a huge black ----!

Have you ever heard of settling for less? Deep down, a black man will always prefer a black woman.

@teeirl




Your welcome 


As I said you were in fact saying.   

She could not have been that Stunning and Gorgeous if her parents were not a white woman and a black man verses her being pure black. Thank you for making that even more so abundantly clear. 


It was the greedy white colonizers who stole from Nigeria for several as they practiced direct rule in the name of democracy and when they left they attached a financial debt to Nigeria that would never be able to be repaid. How you going to give the people you stole from a debt to pay because now they are forced to try and keep up with the corrupt system(westernization) you yourself invented? It is easy to tell a child not to take candy from the candy jar but if you leave the candy jar unattended, that child is someday going to try and steal a piece of candy. Falling into temptation is normal especially if you have been robbed of everything. If you don't believe me, just ask your white ancestors, better yet, they left enough evidence behind in the history books of how they have gone around the world stealing and creating strife amongst the people they stole from.   



You mean phuck? lets call it what it is. Deep down that is all you want is a good forbidden phuck and that is exactly what you get. You don't really love a black man, you just like the way he makes you feel. You will never be able to totally connect with a black man. Spiritually, Mentally and Emotionally, you will never connect and therefore, the sex is nothing but a fantasy for you and the black men you screw.  I have talked with many African men who sya they enjoy sex with a white woman but when I ask them if they connect with the white women they screw, they always say no. Of course testosterone rules over the mans head so he will pleasing over something more fulfilling. Of course over the years he lives to regret such a choice.

Hey, you ever seen any elderly mixed couples? 



I'll bet it is but love sees no color eh? Yet you only seek out relationships with a man who's skin color bares black or brown. 


Why would it be? Your family members are white as well. White on white should be easy. It may be boring but it should be easy.



Lust sees no color.



Uh, I see you are not that good of a writer. A ? should have gone at the end of that question. You have many mistakes through your post. Mistakes that a white woman should no better than to make.

Dating is all fun, marriage and procreation is another.



Including yourself. 



Why do you prefer a black man? Just keep it real. Tell us what is it about a black man that you love so much?



Like I said, love sees what it wants to see and it can see the truth or a lie. If it sees a lie that can't be true love don't you think? The black men tell you what they know you want to hear. If they were truly happy with you and you are not insecure, why would a conversation about them never going back to a black woman ever come up?   

@ spoilt

I couldn't have said it better myself!  Thank god there are open minded people left in the world!

well, i personally have been married to an english (white) guy for a year now, we've been together 9 years altogether. we were at school together and have known each other since we were 13. we've had no problems from our families and although i didn't set out to marry a a non-nigerian, i can't think of anyone in the world who would suit me better. we know each other inside out, we're always there for one another and he's my best friend as well as my soulmate. luckily we've never had any insults from anyone, and to be honest our happiness far outweighs anyone else's opinion.

so i would say i have a very positive view on interracial dating! no matter which races are involved.

@ flakylady

I'm so happy to hear it from the other side! It's brilliant to hear it's all going so well.    Good luck for a happy life together 

when i was younger i wanted to marry a white

now, i can't stand em, i aint racist but , its just that way

i don't reli like seeing inter racial couples but i guess it works sometimes

As much as I am happy in my marriage when I see a white lady and a black man walking along the street I am NOT happy for them. I tend to be of the view that most of these marriage were not genuine ones in the first place attack me all you like but this is the stark reality of it. They may be in love but its not true love. I often see myself as being truly in love becuase I love my partner for who he is not because I prefer black men. I knew what I was getting myself into and I proceeded. I do not regret it though.  It just aggravates me to see all this 'my nigerian boyfriend' shit believe me so why is he only your boyfriend? naija men don't respect childbearing outside of marriage due to their strong cultural and moral values but if it suits them they will. When it comes to the time when a nigerian man wants to settle, he usually will settle with a woman from his own country who will treat him like a king and let him do what he likes (as a man) you forget we western ladies can only put up with a certain amount of crap. There is so many cultural barriers that makes it not practical for a black man to marry a white woman. Have you ever seen a naija doctor marry a white lady? hell no you don't. I entered into an interracial marriage knowing the barriers and yes my family did go crazy but still I went to nigeria and proved I love my husband for who he is. There is always something in the bottom of my heart its like a frog in my throat sometimes. It upsets me to think there are so many barriers. I have crossed many of them and I am always the one to raise any issues/misunderstanding but thankfully with compromise we overcome it. I however do think at the end of the day one must give up their own culture in order to satifsy the other, I have had to do that but its all been worth it. 

There is beauty in every race you just need to explore it.

Leilahs entire post didn't make any sense at all. It sounded like one contradiction after contradiction.

I am not against it.
But personally, i want to marry someone that is from ma side of the world that we speak the same language, have the same culture and understand and have the same sense of humor.

I have nothing to against it. I have experienced dating white guys in the past as well as my cousins does dating interracially and still going to our family reunion, NO ONE ARE AGAINST IT!

Unless if white guy who grew up in the black project like Bronx, Detroit, New Orleans, Chicago, and any large black population major cities in the USA, i would date/marry him but i strongly prefer black man, specifically strong southern country well-educated, well-endowed guy.

I never have a chance to date someone who is Southern country guy!