I Gave My Kid A Slap

And i feel so bad.
Some people may ask what is in a slap, my kids can count the slaps they have gotten from me on one hand.
Well this is what happened.
She has finished primary school and her new school started yesterday. I asked her to pick her bag lets go, she told me she was not going to take that bag to school , She wants a new bag Nike black or blue  any colour but not red or green. (one strap ) side bag not a back bag.
Well she went with out a bag to school. And i got her her new bag,
Today as usual she really took her time getting dressed the sister was telling her to hurry up she did not want to go late and her friends will not wait for her.
I came out of my room and ask what is taking her so long she answered "live me alone" and my hand just Land on her face. It was not a hard slap  but i did it.
She likes to delay alot and complain she has nothing to ware. But her wordrobe is busting with cloths.
But if she feels like pink and there is no pink at the moment then she will strike.
But now her sister cannot go late because of her.
The new school is futher away and i want them going together for the start

But i feel so bad.I even told her i will get up with her everyday to give her a slap she went to school crying.

after u slap am she come early ba?u nor do well mama put.make u go apoilogise sharply

Now that we have emphatized, does Mamaput want more comments?

@Damsal:  I'm not in support of this slap, or slapping of children in general.  It's almost always not necessary, and therefore very wrong.  However I'm not going to preach on this thread.  Mamaput just wants empathy.

I didn't say mamaput should slap her daughter for every wrong she does i'm just saying there are right circumstances when it is necessary. I know a kid presently who everytime i see her she brings out the worst in me cause she is rude, obnoxious, undiciplined, fat and has the most untrained mouth ever.

Okay i apologise for the use of the word fat, i told u this girl brings out the worst in me . But i do realise that beating a child consistently wouldn't make them any better. I just don't believe that mamaput should apologise.           

hi guys, i believe theres always tme for every action.though excess makes it a personal addiction which automatically becomes a bad idea.
the kid might need correction but there r times u need 2 make him or her understand her faults without 'slaps'.then the correction would count

I am ganist beating but all my kids know that i do not liketo talk too much ealy in the day.
Later i can take anything and talk to all lenghts

Only one slap? Why not give her a very good knock on the head as well.

It's quite difficult (often impossible) to reason with kids at such a tender age. Grab a cane, and they'll align instantly. Then with time, you can relax the cane and start preaching. People in the diaspora will quickly cut me off here though. (My neighbour will call the cops [size=6pt][/size] )

It will take a miracle for my kids not to get whacked once in a while. I was brought up that way. Years back, I got 12 lashes of the bulalah on my creamy butt for getting a D in english language.

Now look what I turned out to be

lol

Slapping or beating is the easy way out.
I was already in a bad mood because i had had a hard days work the day before ,.
And 2 i do not like to talk too much in the morning.
My big daughter knows that  for long and in the good old days when she was still coming home with bad notes she used to bring them to me in the morning to sign because she knew i will sign with out talking to her on it and by the time i come back in the evening i am already relaxed not to be mad about it.
The kids can talk and i listen but only what is nesessary "i need money for this" or after school i want to go here or there"  or what ever .
I only want yes and no answers and no long talk. so when she said live me alone , that was something  that will  lead to long talk for me. I cannot take it at that time of the day.
Thats why i also work late.

Seun she already dealt with me.
I ask her to meet me in the Town in my break time to buy her new books.
Guess what she missed her bus because she forgot the time , so i ended up waiting one hour for her at the bus stop to get the next bus. And on top of that i almost went late for work. my whole break was used in rushing the shopping.
I asked her if that was my punishment she just laughed,.But she embraced me and gave me a kiss.

I did not say sorry to her (am not that mad)
and i know why she said it. her sister was getting on her nerves asking her to hurry up.
my second daughter can nag alot .  But this time she did not want to go late,
An example.:
I ask the last one to brush her teeth. She dose not go. NR 2 daughter will start nagging her to go and brush.
<NR one or nr 3  give me a time they are coming home.Nr 2 _{the nag} will now nag me that its *** oclock and they are not back should she phone . And she will go on and on and on.

She is my child not my co wife or mother.
if anyone is comming late then its my biz i do not need one of the kids reporting and reminding me of the time every 5 minutes.
In fact am worried about it because if she gose on like that she will never be happy in any relationship.
I rather my kids do not even talk to me when i come home, than meet me at the door before i even sit down to report who did what.

Okay em, i've been beaten for not wearing the right shoe as according to my mum, i've been beating for my brothers not flushing the toilet in their room, i've been smacked for accepting money from my mum's friend, i've been locked out at midnight when i was going to school the next day and once my mum caught me talking to a boy in our nieghbourhood (whose mum is my mum's friend) and brought out a cane and decided to give the two of us the beating of our lives FOR TALKING.

i can't remember occassions on which my mum has beaten me when i was little but trust me she has, casue i do remeber a time when my bother and i were going to teach her a lesson and so we tied a string to a chair so when she was going into the kitchen so that she would trip but well that plan never worked casue the string was very thin and we had not  planned well.

My point is this kid is in primary school these are memories she's going to forget, all the ones i remember happened to me at a teenage level, and as Mamaput said the girl later on hugged her all these things have absolutely no effect on her casue they are very minimal. Now my mum has aplogised to me only once ever and that was casue she beat me so hard the neighbours came over and had to stop her. These certainly have dire effects cause now when i sit in a room with my mum the conversation is often onesided casue i tend to watch what i say to her. Now my point is this is far much more than just a slap, if you think Mamaput should apologise what should i do take my mum to court for a sentence.
I mean i once vowed never to hit my kid but after coming here i realised that if you don't give a kid a warning you as a parent would just be taken for a ride.

 

trust me she's not gon forget see all u said u got ur ass whooped for talkin to a boy well next time when u want to talk to a boy u gon go somewhere else to do it the whoopin u had will not stop u from talkin to a boy all i'm sayin is if a child keep getting whooped by his or her parent that will draw the child farther away from the parent and their are somethings the parents are suppose to know about the child that they won't get to know because the child gon feel like i'm gon get my ass whoped for that is like when a child want to have a boyfriend the first person that is suppose to know about it is d mum but when the child knows the consequences then she gon do it at d back of the mama later the mama gon start screamin d child is pregnant i don't blame the kid because she would av told u but she knows what was gon happen so she decided not to talk to the mum so a little talk with kidz somtimes don't hurt em that much atleast they'll know their mum is there for them to talk to but but when the mum is always whoopin them what d hell do u think