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mali (m)
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Can you reveal your secret to your partner? For me I think it is not good for someone to [fully reveal] himself or herself to the partner. Even if you want to tell your partner anything, just 45percent is okay. For we guys you know what makes a man is what you have inside and what you are.
So if you meet a girl who claims to be caring and loving and you went and tell her everything about yourself, I don't think she will take you as anything again
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hot-angel (f)
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Wow.. this is interesting.
We all know a relationship should be based on trust and truthfulness. But i must say, telling someone Errthing about you.. kind of degrades you. You should say just the things you know are needed.. as in talk "basically" not "everythingcally".
If you tell someone everything about you, that's like hey.. You have gotten everything... and the person will really not be eager to know more about you. Soooo... ermm, keep some stuffs to yourself.
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Scorpio (f)
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It depends on the relationship, if we're going to get married for sure, yea, i'll let him know what's up[that's if i have anything]. if we're just fooling around[ and 50% of the time, that's what we do], i can let him in on some and keep the rest to myself. besides if it dosen't work out, then he knows all my stuff and he'll just start running his mouth to his friends and that isn't good for friendship.
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loveth (f)
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It is not normal to reveal all your secrets
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nike4luv (f)
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i know it is not normal because, to keep a relationship straight , you have to be straight with each other
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opeyemi (m)
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like scorpio said: it depends on the kind of relationship. But for me, I think the thing is to be open and fair to your partner. Why in the heaven or on earth should you keep anything from him/her. Of course you may not be able to remember all at a time. But as you go on and discussion arises, then tell him/her everything you ccan remember and the issue(s) been discussed. I mean tell all secrets. It helps the relationship and also builds it.
If you refuse to tell all secrets in a serious (marriage to-be) relationship, then what will happen if/when your partner then finds out? Will you lie to cover it or tell the truth then? Even when the truth is told then at that time, it will never be thesame as telling it before then.
There is nothing as good as telling it all in a relationship.
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jenny247 (f)
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it's okay to tell everything if the relationship is one that will lead to marriage but then again it's not like you have to start confessing your sins or reading out your life like a book. talk when needed and use your discretion. Honesty, they say is the best policy but i say,in addition to honesty, be tactful.
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hot-angel (f)
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There is nothing as good as telling it all in a relationship.
I beg to disagree. When you tell it all, What's there to look forward to knowing? You just can't tell it all. Say the major things-- but not errthang. |
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allonym
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i would agree that you should keep secretsbut i'm thinking that those who feel secrets should be kept are the one's who'D have boyfriends or girlfriends who feel the opposite way. . . you can never win!
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Sir Kay (m)
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It's better to keep it open, no secret
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mali (m)
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scorpio,NoNO,are u trying to tell me that if you belong to a secretcult you will tell your wife?
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Scorpio (f)
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Hey, if you say you love your wife and all, you'll tell her. who knows maybe it wasn't by choice, maybe you were forced into it or somn. if she dosen't want to get married because of that, cool. look for someone else, at least you tried telling her and[supposedly] you guys were going to get married. It's way better than waiting till y'all get married and then there'll be second world war occuring in your house.  |
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whiteshark (m)
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before we can answer this question properly, we have to understand the kind/type of relationship we are discussing. Is it a casual relationship or a one night stand kind of thing. We have relationships that are purely sexual and do not involve any form or emotions whatsoever. You cannot tell things in such cases. These kinds are for pleasure and that’s it but not if u r in a relationship that might lead to marriage. When do u now want to tell him/her everything about yourself and your past, when una don hook up final??? No way folks, you have to tell gradually as the relationship progresses. Before it matures to that extent that u guys want to share vows, ur babe gasto know basically everything about you. There are stuffs that you might not want to talk about but that does not mean that he or she does not know about them. It is the best and surest way to go. For me, I do not have any secrets so I do not av this problem. If you ask, I shall tell except I choose not to but I will not denial and I would certainly volunteer information’s gradually until I have built a strong and stable relationship. When I am fully sure, I will spill the whole beans straight up onetime!!!
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opeyemi (m)
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@ hot-angel.
by 'telling it all', i don't mean saying everything at a go. It is not even possible to say it all at once. You may as well become a talkactive if you do that. It is as events unfold and situations warrants. But make sure you tell the 'relationship-threatning' once before he/she hears it elsewhere
cheers
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Trooper (m)
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I have plenty of secrets and won't share them with anybody ! No matter what and this is not a question of trusting your partner !
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ldollier (f)
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some things r just not meant to be heard... i have got some secrets in ma closet.... ma man don need to hear em. CAZ what HE don't KNO WONT HURT..
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Scorpio (f)
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You know how these things are, at the time you least expect it to happen(as in when your secrets start revealin themselves), that's when it does. what'll you do then?
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Seun (m)
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Except for very serious crimes, I don't see what secrets could be so serious that you'll want to take them with you to the grave. I want people to be able to learn from my mistakes.
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allonym
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secret is: you slept with her younger and older sister, her mother, cousin, and aunt - in moments of weakness. But you are a strong God fearing man now.
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allonym
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weakness girlsa moment of weakness! Well. . a few moments of weakness - assuming it didn't all happen at once. . .
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allonym
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though I suppose if you did it all at once. . that would kind of be a moment of strength. . in some regard. .
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vexxy (f)
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No, I would not tell all. A persons heart is full of secrets; some to be shared, some not.
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Trooper (m)
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@ allonym, another secret you better keep would be if you slept with her mother AND her younger sister at the same time......
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allonym
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lol @ trooper, I got ya.
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Z4M4eva (f)
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Hey man, That ain't too good yo, ya don't keep secrets from a relationship. When da cat if finally let out of da bag, there's going to be BIG QUALMS , nat too good  |
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allonym
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Hey man, That ain't too good yo, ya don't keep secrets from a relationship. When da cat if finally let out of da bag, there's going to be BIG QUALMS , nat too good Thats why you DON'T let the cat out of the bag. |
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hot chic (f)
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You have to keep secrets but as time moves on,i think you have to unfold and kind of minimise it till you have none,the only thing you got to do then is to keep the fact that you have no other secert away from your partner.I met my guy at a very tender age and had little stuffs to hide then,and since am in the relationship,i carry him along,it shows how close you are and gives you peace of mind that you have got no skeleton in your cupboard,its a secret to keepin a happy home.
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