Would You Sincerely Love and Date a Girl who Won't Make Love to You?

Yes i will if am a guy
@Sir kay thumbs up yo

You know what... topics like this make me laff...

Everyone here says that sex before marrige isn't right.. that it's not important to the relationship... that it's a sign that the guy's only interest is in just one thing (on his one-track mind).. that this.. that that.. [pertinent to note that all these comments are coming from the female folk, and from the male-virgins in the house..]

Sorry to deviate here (admin please no vex...  ), but what would you guys and girls say to a guy who doesn't have or infrequently has sex with his partner after marrige.. after all, if it wasn't a priority before marrige, why would or should it suddenly become a priority after marrige.. after all, its not the main focus of the relationship, etc, etc...

I can assure you guys of one thing.. there's no manner of abuse that that fellow would not suffer.. from being labelled impotent, to being called a homosexual, to being called weak.. or having numerous women outside the matrimonial home, etc etc...

But do you guys and ladies expect the focus to change over night, as soon as the words "I do" have been said, and the lady is wearing the man's wedding ring on his finger?? the honest truth is "NO"... Old habits die hard.. and tendencies and inclinations too.. for a couple not used to the physical aspects of a relationship before marrige, there won't be an automatic change-over afterwards..

And to bear me out of this, I want to recall a discussion I had witha  friend of mine  a couple of weeks ago.. she was telling me of how she had to become resourceful in thinking of new ways for her to avoid having sex with her husband.. from the classic "honey, I have a head ache" or "honey, it's been a long and hard day".. to the new one.. she just gets home and forms quarrel, so that all man would hold their end of the bed that night..  [ shakes my head..].. the truth is that I know she loves her husband.. but she just doesn't see the point or need for constant sexual liasons with her husband.. not like the guy pesters her for it everyday... and not that they are wanting children.. 'because they have a beautiful baby..

Food for thot...

@theORAKU
Am sure you are an igbo guy.

@gina34

what makes igbo men different from other people?

I must say u lot are chatting rubbish. I agree with layi and some other responsible person but not with codec.
If u do love the girl u could actually wait till she is ready isn't? why in a rush. oga
may God help us. it is also a sin to have sex before marriage u know.

 

This question is funny.

Maybe as long as i don't spend even 1 cent on her. No single kobo of mine will go into it then maybe........ .
 
  Does somebody have anything to say?

I guess u must be one of ''u give i give'' guys

At least who says we can't do other things in the relationship, eg sit around and

1 Look at each other
2 Chase coakroaches
3 Jump and shout and play
4 Reenact kiddies avenue

Sage, so what you are saying is that sex is all there is to a relationship? Na wa o!

hmmmm...the infamous lie detector........but hey,u knw you're lying.

In fact, the woman i will eventually marry is one i have not "touched" while dating, and i mean it  for whatever its worth, lovemaking while dating may have its savor but its a detrimental act when done outside wedlock

He didn't say he wants a virgin. He said he wants the one he (himself) has not touched while dating.

U see, all the guys that go after women 4 purely sexual reasons have started to ID themselves because they think its the same with everybody


Different strokes 4 different folks, and again whatever floats ur boat, but people have different ideologies u know

Tell them.

It very well goes beyond having many orgasms.

Kenflavor: What exactly are you saying? Will you or will you not have sex before you marry your woman?

Kenflavor,
I'm disagreeing with you for the first time. i wouldnt have bothered if u werent a christian like u propose.

U gotta understand marriage from the spiritual standpoint.
So many People start with love and end up in divorce. Why? Cuzz marriage is more spiirtual than physical. Its the the apex of all forms of human relationships.  Its not just for procreation buts its a prototype of future man.
In heaven there would be no male of female but we'll all be both..restored back to the "pre-eve Adam". GOD himself is both. JESUS is the head of the church and we are his bride just like the husband is the head of the wife.
If u don't succeed in marriage, u've got a hard time ahead. U prolly need some revelations about marriage for u to know that the bed undefiled is worth more than a million diamonds.

As a matter of fact, u aint achieving anything by having premarital sex. Giving reasons is just a lame excuses to superimpose your passion with something else.

I've had several encounters wit ladies but knowledge they say sets u apart. I'm still a V @ 24 and i'm no gay because i really get attracted to ladies (humane) and have been tempted several times but it easy to overcome cuzz i walk with information. I don't loose female friendships cuzz of that. I keep them happy.

Ther is more cons to premarital sex than pros. in fact there are only seemin pros. Ther is no real advantage. Even if u think you're both sexually compatible. Its no proove that your marriage would be succesful.

What matters most is mutual LOVE. With that there would be centripetal efforts to make it work because it gives u a reason to make your marriage has to work and not reasons wh it can't.