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Bukie (f)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #128 on: November 06, 2008, 08:56 PM »

Layi good talk.But it's  easier said than done.Sweetheart,it's  not gg to be easy leaving her but u just have 2. Let me assure you dat if u destroy your marriage to be wit her, d same thing will happen again and u'll end up having strings of broken homes. If u resist now,u'll be strentened. God will help you.
mnlostlove
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #129 on: May 28, 2009, 05:31 PM »

Alright.  I have a huge problem. Here's the background of the situation.  I'm a young man 20 years old married to an 18 year old girl.  We dated for about 6 six months and then I found out that she was pregnant.  All this happened during my senior year in high school and her junior year.  This is the problem I was forced to marry her because if I was not to marry her, her guardians said that they will take her back to Guam.  And I live in a state where if you become pregnant does not give you the right to become emancipated so she had no saying if her guardians were going to take her to Guam. Back to her parents.  So I married her.  But before we got married we took a 3 month break and I started developing feelings for her cousin.  and then we got married and things were great at first. But as the first year went on it started going downhill arguments everyday.  Then the 2nd year started going by and she started to get physical punching me throwing things at me.  and I understand sometimes it was my fault but it pisses me off when its not or when its something small.  Shes always yelling at me, she doesn't know how to cook, she'd rather me clean but I never do because I work 12 hours a day.  She needs me to do everything as for paying bills everything, she scared to call people so she has me call.  Now were just got done with our 3rd year and going into our 4th and she is still the sameway. I've talked to her a billion times about what I don't like that she always does.  She calms down for a while maybe a week and then its back to the sameway.  And as all this is happening almost every other day we visit her aunt and her cousin(the one I have feelings for) stays there.  And me and my wife's cousin are always talking.  And I think I'm starting to fall in love with her.  I'm trying to hold myself together but I think my feeling are starting to show.  But I really can't help it.   Her personality is really layed-back and that's the kind of person I am.  She loves watching my kids as for my wife she loves going out without the kids.  Her cousin cooks for me, loves talking with me.  and shes always telling me she hopes she can find a man like me.  and all that makes my feeling even more stronger for her.  I don't know what to do.  Can somebody help me,
kimaro
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #130 on: June 07, 2009, 02:51 AM »

help,  i really need help,  im a 31 yr old and i'm already married for 9 yrs,  this is my first time falling inlove with another woman,  and i dont think its lust for me,  bec. i dont think of sex when where together bec. itsa like this i been working and working and the stress is very frustrating but when i meet her its like i have freedom i want to her and listen to her voice and hug her. but im married. is this bec. of my experience with my wife. bec. just last year my wife had an affair with my bestfriend and i found out about it and beg my wife to stop it but she never listen but i fight for her and for the painful months of fighting it eventually my wife came back to me. but now i dont know why it just happens and im really confused i dont want my marriage to be destroyed but i dont want to hurt my wife but i dont want to hurt the girl im inlove with. for the first time in my life im hanging on a tread. before i always calculate what i do but now its like im in the middle of the ocean dont know where to go,  please i really really really need help,  i cant just throw away what i fought before but i dont want to lose her the same way, please help me,
beingme (f)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #131 on: June 09, 2009, 09:59 AM »

U got a son? interesting. U want to play that game? i don't think u will survive it fully. Flee and don't look back. control your emotion and stop seeing her for Christ sake.
biola44 (m)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #132 on: June 09, 2009, 12:05 PM »

go 4 deliverance, then counselling! Huh
adahna (f)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #133 on: July 28, 2009, 09:38 PM »

@poster trust me u are not d 1st,  i only hope your wife or any dat knos u or your wife is not here on nland,   Shocked ,  just go and pray,   Undecided
Pastorcare
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #134 on: July 28, 2009, 11:22 PM »

Marriage is a commitment. It must be treated with every sacredness that it requires, else you will be guilty of the most heinous sin in the eyes of God, and those who stand by His Word. For more counseling, send email to Marriagecity@Gmail.com or call 234 01 8062750724
adahna (f)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #135 on: July 29, 2009, 07:41 PM »

Quote from: Pastorcare on July 28, 2009, 11:22 PM
Marriage is a commitment. It must be treated with every sacredness that it requires, else you will be guilty of the most heinous sin in the eyes of God, and those who stand by His Word. For more counseling, send email to Marriagecity@Gmail.com or call 234 01 8062750724
@poster oya na,  u don see free G$C  Undecided  Lips sealed
Fhemmmy
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #136 on: July 29, 2009, 08:01 PM »

Quote from: adahna on July 29, 2009, 07:41 PM
@poster oya na,  u don see free G$C  Undecided  Lips sealed

Lol
dreeldee
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #137 on: July 30, 2009, 01:50 AM »

@ poster
sounds like you tied the knot for the wrng reasons   Angry if you think you weren't ready to give up the game and turn in your player card WHY ON EARTH WULD U play with sumbody feelns like that and marry them. n then turn around and have a baby. this is exactly why less and less women get married in the first place bcus dudes like u (christans like u) don't believe in, value or respect the sanctity in marriage. i strongly suggest you ask the lord for mercy and forgiveness and try love honor and respect the woman you chose to marry seriously u need to grow up man. life aint always bout what you want ta do but what you gotta do thats what u call being a man and accepting your responsibilities. word to the unwise handle yo business. good luck man God bless.
   
Gwenda (f)
Re: Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman
« #138 on: November 04, 2009, 10:30 AM »

Hey. I know love is a strong word. You may love this other woman, but are you in love with her. That is the question that you need to answer for yourself.
You have made a vow before God to stay faithful to your wife. Which is why you need to give your problems to him, for he has bigger hands to carry the burdens. He loves you and God will help you to see what is right.
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