Parental Guide: Bringing Up A Child

I love rice and plantain! 

I think your kids are just like so many out there. They are so little. They can't understand certain things yet. They don't even believe you when you tell them it's for their good!  They must think it's just a way to enslave them. 

Just bear with them. They'll grow and learn some day!

I love ripe plantains. But fried ripe plantains are better if you want to eat them with rice.

There should be a thread in Food, in case you want to know more.

Do you also cook yam and beans? With beans plantains can be unripe as the flavour of the beans will cover it up.

Today the children ate rice again and this time they know I mean business
I overheard them say that mommy really does alot for us and all she asks is that we do our share. Even when she is in pain she still takes care of us.

So it worked!!!!!!!!!!


I am so happy.

I woke them up as promised at 530am and went back to bed.  I woke up again at 8am listened at my door and they were busy reminding each other that it was almost 8.  I jumped back in the bed and pretended to be sleep when my son peaked in and reported back that I was still sleep.  I layed there until about 930 when i heard them die down and when i stepped out the room they all told me the chores were done.

I went room by room just pointing out a few items they missed and they completed it.

I rewarded them with returning the TV's, activated a cell phone that my son wanted (I had a chocolate previously and he has been wanting my old cell phone) and fixed them a huge breakfast.

Lets see what tomorrow brings.

I never stopped communicating with them thru the whole thing about what I was doing, what I expected and even how this was going to benefit them in the future. 

My eldest son always feels like it is not fair that the weight lays on his shoulders as the eldest at home but I told him I was the eldest girl and was responsible for my two younger sisters just like he is responsible for his younger siblings.  I think he got it this time.

He told me this morning that having everything taken away from them showed him just how much I do, do for them and how little I ask in return.

I pray the lesson sticks and they continue to show me daily progress.

what should be done to those children who have refuse to grow by taking responsibilty even at the age of 24?

hello all, we need to understand sometn first before we just rush the pie.parents have assumed themselves to be gods b4 there kids b4 this time .only in the urban setting that this trend is fading away. even now in my own village kids are treated as ormant figures, limitations are imposed on them. so such issues should be addressed properly

You can Plan the sex of your child. Long before you get pregnant. And this has nothing to do with doctors or Endocrinology. Just do what you love doing,  (PROVIDED YOU HAVE JUST ONE OR NO CHILD, YOU ARE WELCOMED TO TRY IT OUT, NOT OTHERWISE).

There are just two determining factors; Your age. And the Month in which you conceive. Depending on whether it’s a Boy or a Girl you want.

Note carefully the month during which you have to work at getting pregnant (i.e. Nine-and-a-half months later – wow! – You will find you have got the child with the sex of your choice.

You can see if it works by giving me your Exact Age, and the month which you get pregnant. And i will tell you The Sex of your First Child (please NOte: For your first child and also for those who is yet to have. )


HAPPY BABY-MAKING   

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M two years old son is getting naughtier,he aways like hard play. Warned him he will still like to go back and jump around. Even if he get wounded or you beat him, he will just cry fro a while and continue. He talks and make enquiry about evrything,refer you to whatever is happening. I am new in having a son. My first daughter never created all this scene. He is acually two on April 18th 2009 please any advise.

It doesn't matter whether you are rich or poor,the proper upbringing of a child depends on the kind of person the father or mother is.You can't  give what you don't have.Be the change yourself and pass it on to your great children.

these are from my earlier posting in thread when the issue of child disciple came up: some digged them up for you: think is page 11-13 or so in this thread.

i learned this method though mines are still younger, but one of my ladies actually uses this method and it works for her, though hers are little over 4/5

** Tattling: If one of my children tattles on another they have to say something nice about the person they are tattling on. (Of course this does not include seriousness, like someone really being hurt or a very big no-no, just typical whining/tattling.)

** Interrupting: If a child interrupts adults, or even their siblings, they have a 3-5 minute time out with their hands over their mouth. This works great with a large number of kids! The younger's really learn something from the oldest, the oldest tired of being teased by the younger ones will usually not interrupt again. I believe this is a Quinault discipline. I love it!


**Stealing: If a child takes something away from another they have to not only return the item, but give the person something of equal or greater value in apology. Usually one of their own favorite toys, or spend their allowance in gift. I haven't had a stealing problem. This works well with sharing too, meaning specifically if a child brings over their own toy and one of my kids swipes it to play, they have to give it back and give the child one of their favorite toys to play with. This is only in a situation where cooperation is a problem.  A child should not be forced to share a very special toy, blanket, etc.

**Lying: Much like stealing, a child who lies to me or to another has to make repairaitions. They have to apologize profusely because lying is stealing another person's right to the truth.

**Back Talk: Time out is based on age of child. Typically if I am getting slack it's because said child does not what to do what is requested of them. In all fairness I explain WHY I asked them to do something and then ask for cooperation following their time out and their apology.

**Basic Disobedience: Their favorite items get a time out. I take items away until we have cooperation. If they refuse to clean up after themselves we'll trash or take away their items. They then can earn it back after time and willingness to clean up after themselves.

**three spanakable offenses:

1) You do not destroy or abuse books. Writing in, mistreating, ripping, or destroying books.

2) You do not abuse the house or items in it. Writing on walls/furniture. Purposely destroying the home or things in it. Breaking expensive toys just because they are there. Destroying clothes by writing on them, ripping them, pulling them apart. Scissors to sheets or clothes. etc.

3) Putting yourself or your siblings in danger, or purposely hurting a person or animal. Now this is a moment-to-moment basis-to-basis discipline that needs to be addressed as they happen. The last child who received a spanking was hid son, who asked to go out front to ride his bike. she and her hubby couldn't watch him at the moment so they told him to wait. He then went to the side gate, opened it, went out anyway without telling them, and let his two year old sister out front. He not only put himself in danger but her too. We figured it out about 3 mintues after it happened, and found the 2yo at the front door. Needless to say not only was he disobedient, but he put his sister in danger. He got a spanking.

Before we as parents can bring up our children in the right way,there's need for us to practice what we preach.Don't tell a child;do as I say but  don't do as I do.Be mentors not just parents.