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Nikemi
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We use 2 be a very good friend until he travel out of d country, he cal me when he got der and so he has been cal me. After a month he got der, he caled and ask me 2 marry he. What should i do? And he has been sendin money 2 me
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Beautygyal (f)
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I no ur friends and u must no him a lot, but i think u should get to no him a little more, don't jus rush into marriage and fall in that trap. It sounds a bit weird because he asked for marriage while he was abroad u don't no what men these days are like! no offence to anyone.
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iice (f)
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LOL abi o, do you want to marry him? Do you know his feelings for you? Are you in a rush to get married?
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olutomiwa (m)
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, foolish yeye question u dey pretend like sey u no LOVE d guy,yet u av strated collectn d mugu,s money,d next question u will ask us is SHOULD I AGREE 2 SLEEP WID HIM?abeg i no dey 4 d kind question,u are on your own O Y O.
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davidylan (m)
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by the time u've gotten through the bad grammer, you've already forgotten the question!
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akindayor (m)
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exactly what i did
i've been eyeing this girl long time, we've been friends for close to 5 years both in different relationships.
i broke u with my ex of 2 years l8tr she with hers(none of the break up was mutual inclined if u know what i mean). still it didn't dawn on me we liked each other that much our friendship continued until i was bout to travel out . she confided in me she's in a dilemma,2 'rich guys' asking her out she doesn't want to be their price because she felt dey wanted her body. i gave my honest advice 'dnt jump witout being sure what u're up against'. Some days before i left i bcame worried about loosing her finally finally!
so while dere i burst the bubble askd her to go out with me, she was swept out and over. she started asking her friends,siblings and even mom for advice finally she agreed we 're still dating.
the gist continues, ,
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boladonas (m)
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exactly what i did
i've been eyeing this girl long time, we've been friends for close to 5 years both in different relationships.
i broke u with my ex of 2 years l8tr she with hers(none of the break up was mutual inclined if u know what i mean). still it didn't dawn on me we liked each other that much our friendship continued until i was bout to travel out . she confided in me she's in a dilemma,2 'rich guys' asking her out she doesn't want to be their price because she felt dey wanted her body. i gave my honest advice 'dnt jump witout being sure what u're up against'. Some days before i left i bcame worried about loosing her finally finally!
so while dere i burst the bubble askd her to go out with me, she was swept out and over. she started asking her friends,siblings and even mom for advice finally she agreed we 're still dating.
the gist continues, ,
The love of dollars is the beginning of true love will u say no before? u are already chewing kola and u are asking whether the taste is bitter? just do what u want to da and be ready 4 d consequences. Did ur mother not ask u where u got money from? abeg welcome to a new improved married life! |
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akindayor (m)
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The love of dollars is the beginning of true love
will u say no before?
u are already chewing kola
and u are asking whether the taste is bitter?
just do what u want to da and be ready 4 d consequences.
Did your mother not ask u where u got money from?
abeg welcome to a new improved married life!
i no get your point oo! make it clear in simple terms pleaase! or is this thread meant for Nikemi? |
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sammyjl (f)
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 Hhhmm, looks like one of those, where by ya'll like each other but are just happy being friends and don't have a problem if you were more than friends, but scared to loose him if things go wrong.
If he is your friend, than you already know him, why are you doubting his proposal, accept, it don't mean you are going to get married right away. They'll still be time for you two to talk things over and see where all goes.
Wishing you all the best.
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Beautygyal (f)
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Thas rite tru say
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amaikama (m)
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Nikemi,
THE MISTAKE
Am not really surprise about it and neither should you be. I often tell people who cares to listen that, a boy and girl thing call, "JUST FRIENDS WILL NOT WORK," but they all refute the claims. A boy and girl can never be "JUST" friends as they always say as long as they are both matured and the word, "LOVE" is not something that can be defined by a word of words only with a feeling.
THE TRUTH
Nikemi! to tell you the truth, the guy has falling in love with you since the day you both started the "Just friends" thing but since you are only his friend he decide to go along with you. He doesn't want to spoil it or loose you but had to play it safe till he has the opportunity to tell you how he feels about you.
THE OPPORTUNITY
Since he left, you claimed he has been calling you and even sending you money, showing you how caring he is and he now sees it right to through the bomb and now you are confuse. He sees the opportunity to let you know how he feels considering he is now in a better place where both of you can succeed as couples, am not saying you both cannot succeed here but there are more advantage there than here. you too will agree with me if we should compare and contrast.
MY OPINION
Ask him why did he want to marry you when both of you are not lovers but "JUST FRIENDS" if his reply is positive, which it will be. ask him again, why didn't he ask you when he was still in Nigeria now he has left the shore of Africa? My guess, his reply would be positive. Mind you, your questions may give you away giving him the feelings that you have some soft spot for him as well and he will contemplate on it. Try and stay ahead of him but i did not say you should be difficult for him.
CONCLUSION
The advice i will be giving is not necessary you take it but understand and apply your own understanding for you belief and happiness. The guy could be sheep in a wolves slothing. He may not truly mean what he said to you since he is now over there( abroad) he may want to lure you to fall for him so cheaply since he has been sending you money and calling you, showing you how caring he could be and all that but please be very careful. Have a heart to heart talk with this guy and see what comes next.
Wish you all the best girl.
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manoy (m)
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hmmn
It is not that easy sha!
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angelchi (f)
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True talk, bt girl tak it slow n i wish u d very best.
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tnaidaR (f)
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Wonderful!!! In one month he's "been sending money" to you, huh? What d'u want us to tell you now? To stop receiving his money and "get to know him more"? You won't even take that advice.  To say yes to his proposal now and then come back and blame us? Abeg make up your mind and no deh ask this kin question. Enjoy the money if he so wishes to spend on u but don't let that be a chain on your neck that should make u marry him. Men and how they like to show off!!!  Help him spend his money jare.  If you have TRUE feelings for him then it's all good. Enjoy! |
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afolayangs (m)
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if you love the guy and you do not have a boyfriend present, u can give him a trial
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