Tell Us About Your Marriage

Later, I gave him the chance since another person was not forth coming and I see that he likes me from his talks. Then I gave him my rules which he adhered to (no sex before marriage). During our courtship, he got the opportunity to travel out of the country. He suggested we get married so that we’ll sure know that we have commitment that he’ll still come back to me. I thought about it, and told him right away that if he’ll be traveling out, I’ll rather wish him well from the airport, so that I won’t be a disturbance to him even if he can’t come back to naija, then, I myself would be free to marry another person. But he opposed my suggestions claiming that I don’t love him.

In 2003, we went to the registry, and did a little bit of family get together (though just immediate family). That was when I started to think, how could I  have married  this guy. I moved into his family house, since he would travel out in some couple of months and it’s not advice able to get our own apartment. Things were still a bit rosy when he was around.

When he traveled out, I saw the other side of his family; they are of the opinion that wives are(like) slaves and should be left to do the whole house chores even if the younger siblings are around. I endured all forms of sufferings I saw, and I have to manage the small firm he left while traveling. I tried my best but since I’m not an engineer, most of his clients could not stand the engineers we hired, the firm had to close down.

I noticed that his long calls starts to reduce, he wont call me, anytime I call him, he would say …. Oh I can’t receive your call now, I’ll call u later. I’ll wait for his call, but he won’t call, until I call him. All this while, I have to move out of his parent’s house because of maltreatment, went back to my parents house.

Tayo dearie, i feel your pain, i feel like crying but what can I say?

So sorry about it, it's well. 

Tayo . . . . .  Heaven will compensate u for ur loss

Thanks for ur words of encouragement. I'm very gratefull and appreciates ur concern.
Takia.

ok you say you want to hear it from the women? There you go

I met my husband when i was 17. He was asyl in my town and i wanted to show him around town.
on that day, we went to a restaurant and sat there talking for 6 hours with nothing but one cup of coffe.
We just forgot the time. After that we started to see more often and this is how ge got to know each other.

We got married exactely two years later, since i was still a student, he came to live with my parents (remember
he did not have a job back then) we lived in my room for about 1 year be4 finding our own appartement.

and then things got troubled:
- i found out he had another girl besides me
- i found out he had a brother in switzerlan which he told me was only a good friend
- i found out he had declared his cousin as his own child in order as to bring him to switzerland one da
- i found out that he lied about his reasons 4 coming to switzerland
- and so on,

now you want to know what happened, after two more years we are now at the point of separation. I have fallen in love with another man (nigerian) and i hope that this time i will not be disapointed again.

But if you think now that i am regretting getting married at that age - you are wrong.
I am a person who never regrets things in life. It was God's plan for me and i accept that,
and by the way my husban has remained a good friend till today, he is a good guy and a really lovely person, but the wrong one for me!!!