Can You Marry Someone You're Not Sexually Attracted To?

I feel it will not be fair to your partner (and yourself also) if you go into a marriage if there is no compatibility in this area. Personally, I feel it could lead to lack of respect, lack of intimacy, frustration, discontent and ultimately divorce.

Some men cheat because they no longer find their wives attractive with leads to a lack of interest in the bedroom also. Sometimes people claim to fall out of love but actually the attraction is what has gone away. Maybe it has to do with issues such as personal hygiene(Mouth or body odour) etc.

Those in arranged marriages or ladies who marry for money are very susceptible to this and can easily stray if the right temptation comes along(forget that anyone claimed virgin before they married). Some may even say the love for their partner goes beyond sex but what's it like to marry someone you love but can't love in the bedroom(this is not about teaching, I mean a total absence of attraction, spark and chemistry)? Some people who hurriedly married virgins should understand this.

Now there's a danger in marrying virgins because some of them never "ever" get to a point where they can be comfortable or desire sex unless for reproductive purposes, leaving the man(who decides not to cheat) in a mix. It works the other way too when a man or woman is too slow in catching up, it turns the other party off entirely.So for those who don't believe in sampling before marriage(not that I'm encouraging it), it's a bit of a pickle when you get married and open up a world of surprises.

So the question is, will you do it?

For love?
For money?
For security?
For your parents sake?
For celibacy sake(Virgins)?

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Nope

No!but if he's really,really rich ;)yeah!4 sure.wudn't give a damn.but if i marry 4 luv,i've got 2 b sexually attracted 2 him.as 4 virgins,we all were virgins once so pls give 'em a break!

Never

Can't imagine even dating.

Sex is not the binder in a marriage,God is. It's important but there's so much more to it than the sack activities.

To stop being attracted to a mariage partner can be a cop out excuse if you don't let the person know once you know something is changing maybe weight gain, before she reaches that size 22 which will be your justification to stray or quit the relationship why not raise it while she can control it, but perhaps the reason why he can't complain is that he has changed too, gotten a pot belly,or just not as sharp looking and will feel hypocritical saying something, so he just bides his time till he deems it to be getting out of control and leave,


The topic also talks about a person marrying someone he is not sexually attracted yet there is an under-lying assumption that to be sexually attracted to a person you have to naked (if you couldn't suss that ealier and they happen to be a virgin) to discover if you have chemistry or not, that doesn't sit right somehow, Since people don't go around with signs on their foreheads explaining their sexual CV, I see no reason why you should not know if you find a person sexually attractive or not before they actually dis-robe ,
About virgins,its a common misconception that having had sex already makes the person an "expert" or "good" at it, hmm that might be where some real issues lie,who has had themselves graded and certified   A virgin might not feel comfortable for a lot of reasons which can be explored together with patience and appropriate actions, but a person who's active already sexually could have abuse issues or just natural lack of interest in trying different things that could hinder their "full involvement" in sexual unions too, so a person's previous experience proves nothing,
To teach a person and learn with them is very fufilling so a person who gets a virgin to marry where they are attracted to each other and understand their roles in a marriage will have a whole lot of new things to discover and explore together, if the virgin is a christian then they know for a fact that they have to satisfy their husband beyond procreation reasons just as her husband has to love her and not just shag her as the Bible states, now most women knowing that they have the undivided love and attention of their husband as opposed to critical looking down on her since he's such "a don in the sack", will want to impress her man and show him that even though she didn't start as early as he did, she's quite keen to please him,
but the bigger issue is love,where it is replaced with she should be "grateful" he picked her over his "sexually well worn " choices out there, you can't complain if the response from her is luke-warm or resistant,
I really wouldn't expect a person to marry someone you don't find attrative, though beauty is in the eye of the beholder,just because one person is deemed attractive by most people does not mean you will be sexually attracted to them and if you get together with someone because she is a "beyonce look alike" who everyone tells you are so lucky to have, but you are not sexually attracted to her it will bring obvious problems later in the relationship, you have to know your own mind and go with someone that will satisfy you, even if she looks more like cylindrellas sisters

You Can but you May not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@aadun
Na waa for your long sentence.
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NO

Personally, I couldn't marry a person I am not sexually attraced to, and he doesn't have to take his clothes off in order for me to know this, neither do I have to be in love with him to know whether I am sexually attracted to him or not. There is just this 'feeling' and sexual 'connection' that penetrates through my body when I see them, thus, allowing my feelings to grow into Lurve,   

So naw,   

@aadun

well-said. i couldnt have put it better myself.

_{the OP reference to virginity had no real relevance to the topic}

SMH . . ,  Remember karma is B.I.T.C.H

think about it if i get married to a person i wasnt prior to the marriage sexually attracted to,
thats just a recipe for cheating

Repent eh . . . . .hmmm this is why lots of ex-murderers are now claiming to be born-again abi
God dey


True dat

tope u know why we're sisters now, 

before then (if ever) ill cheat my way to cloud 12

numerous times

Tsssk. . . . .  i wont sin tonite


ofcos . . . we dont slack at all, always ready

Its funny how the one you are not attracted to suddenly becomes super hawt the moment he/she wins the lottery, I guess its the same effect after a few beers, suddenly every girl starts to looks like halle berry and every guy like brad pitt.