Please Where Do I Go From Here In This Present Situation? God forgive me.

Please people help me and don't criticise me. I just had a terrible and horrible misunderstanding with my love, the person I truly love because though he has failed me horribly, everything was good. We were meant to see each other, three times, he failed because he was so busy, and he didn't really apologise for that. 4th time, he set the day and time and still failed to show up so I was annoyed.

I went up to his place, unfortunately he wasn't home and that was what got me mad. I started texting him all sorts of curses. There's nothing I didn't say to him. Over 100, even telling him how he would be impotent, die and so many horrible words. When I say horrible, i mean horrible. I even threw it to his face about the fraud his friends were telling me about  him, telling I'll call the cops and he'll rot in jail and so many harsh words, which is unlike me. I'm even ashamed to write all of them. I even brought up the past where he hurt me. I called him cheap, just because he wasn't around?? This is actually the first time, such is happening.

Please people what do I do or where do I go from here now? I know I should apologise but how?? I cannot even text I'm sorry because I went too far. What options can I try or did he really deserve it?

Do you all think that I could go to his place tomorrow to apologise or wait weeks, days to apologise to him?? God forgive me for my words.

Please for real, you all should help and talk to me. What do I do? I cannot even pray about my situation because no matter how much he hurt me, I cannot hold my head high, that i cursed out and said such horrible words though I was very angry at that point.

Men do not understand love.  We understand and respond to show of respect.  When you respect a man he will respond to you with love and affection.  You have acted impulsively to disrespect your man.  You have hurt him tremendously and he will respond to you.  When he does, bite your tongue and suck it up.  If you need to take him back and keep him in your arms, then you must subdue your pride and allow him to vent and calm.  Don't talk to him about love, just keep emphasizing to him that you respect him.  He will open up again with love and embrace you.  

Haba amebo no1.

Which one is desperado?? I'm so down right now, I can't even take this personal. U do not really understand the situation.

Thanks a lot but right now, where do I go from here? I really don't like the words I used and said to him no matter what, do I just text him, an apology msg and forget or what? Even when I was texting him, he even called me to aoplogise and calm me down but hey i guess i was blinded with anger and finished him off with horrible words.

@ poster,


You freaking out because your man didn't show up I wonder what you'll do if you find out his cheating on you with your best friend

Firstly he has cheated on me before and it was handled much more better than this and secondly not because he didn't show up. He set times and date and never showed up. I didn't freak out, I just was tired of being calm about it and let my anger get the worst out of me plus I was feeling frustrated with other stuffs.

Yes it is, I know it was easy to say at that point but we have been through a lot for 3yrs and yes he did apologise and changed, even today when I reacted this way, he didn't even say anything to hurt me, he was trying to calm me down, but i took none of tha and blasted him, even God wouldn't be happy I did a good job. The words were said in anger but way too far.

yes im sure he will keep apologising as long as the sex continues atleast until a better subsitute shows up

which man that respects or loves his girl will keep standing her up almost all the time

love ko,love ni

you better go for a test cos the guy must have contacted HIV,SINCE HES KNOWN FOR SLEEPING AROUND

ARE my words harsh? oh really

well sorry i have no advice for some dude who im so sure might be having sex with one of his numerous lovers right now or for you,whos forcing urself to stay with a man that does not want you

i wish you all the best

I came on here to talk about my words not about wanting him or not now,  and of cause i can't stay with a man that doesn't want me. I know u r saying the real truth, cos even when he came to apologise to me even with sista woman's advice and all, i thought about it and at the end after a long period, i decided and he has been the one really humbled to me bu that's not the case here. My words were too bad, even God wouldn't be clapping for me.

i am sorry but that was a bad thing to do especially whan you also confirmed his busy schedule made him failed in those the dates.

well there is no need telling you what should have been done, the damage is done already so i will advise you first try and seek his attention because i sure he will be really mad at you right now.

go to his place, explain why you did all those things even though it was not worth it. let him know how ashamed and sad  you were afterward. not only you will tell him how you felt, he needs to feel and see it in you that you feel bad about it and that it was out of aggression. it is important not to put emphasis on what he did wrong, talk about your own wrong doings and not his, atleast for now.

if truly you want him and really love him, be prepare to do anything he will never imagine/xpect you doing to apologise to him. not all this present or gift or sort of. i mean be real, be persistent, submissive and anything he would never expect you to do.

also you need to be prepared as i dont see him giving you any serious attention in sometimes. prepare to be embarassed, insulted it is normal considering the  magnitude of your outburst (wishing him and threating him with jail; you do that to your enemy not those you love).

remember he has a scores to settle with his friend  for telling you the stuffs about him and likewise you have scores too with his friends for making then look like bad friend or something.

and the essential thing is to be prayerful because even though you aided the devil in achieving his aim, it is  still the devil on duty.

i hope this is useful and helpful.

Thank you so much for this though I'm not justifying my action but he pushed me to this, plus the bad memories I remembered. He is busy like he said, I did not see him but he should not have promised a day and time and still fail, not once but 3ce  but I know I went far with my words. I think I would not text him any apology or such till i see him in person.

this is so new to me,
making appointments and not meeting up with them has suddenly become some taboo?

what i need to know is, how long have you been dating this guy?
if you just met, i dont think he will stand you up like that 4 times,
but if its been for a while, then hey maybe something was wrong somewhere.

either ways dear, you had no right, absolutely no right to go off like that.
call him and say you are sorry, and just try to take whatever he does for now.
somehow i know things will defiantely work out.

I know I didn't have to insult him, this way, but it wasn't something that just came up, i have been talking to him, about somehings but he did not really pay attention and I guess because of history, bad memories that also came up from him being this way, that's why i just overreacted one day and poured out a lot of things.

well i guess he was oo shocked or something to lash back. I did call him after hours of the rampage bu I wasn't expecting him to pick up, even the text message, I don't even know how to write or what that would really show my shame and how much I feel for such words,  I wish I could just see him in person,