Black And White Love? Why Is It Socially So Much Despised?

Why do we Black people always attach so much importance to Black and White, will this ever change?

I am a black Naija boy and I am proud of it but I desperately fell in love with a beautiful Irish/English girl at university here in the UK. I am studying economics and psychology (combined studies). She studies design and architecture. I love her sooo much and she loves me, too. Of course, I also had Black girlfriends before desperately in love with a white girl. Our love is so intense. What can I do if I love a white girl? Should I be punished for loving a white girl or should she be punished for loving a black guy? Why do we attach so much importance to skin colour, it all goes back to our psychologically ingrained set of inferiority complex we inherited from the colonial era, we need to forget that and be proud that we are Black but if someone falls in love with a white or black guy one should not be socially despised for it. We all haven´t been asked before birth where we want to live and what colour of skin we want to have. Fortunately , my parents are liberal, my father is Igbo and married a Yourba woman, my mother. And my father told me before I left Naija for England to go for my studies to beware of white women that easily spread their charm even on black men, but he didn´t specify that further!



TO MY MIND, RACE, NATION, STATE,  TRIBAL WARS OR ETHNICITY AND INFERIORITY AND SUPERIORITY DUE TO SKIN COLOUR HAVE ALL BEEN CREATED BY MANKIND, LET´S NOT FORGET THAT WE ARE ALL GOD´S CHILDREN AND ALL SHARE ONE AND THE SAME PLANET!!!! I DO HOPE THAT THE NEXT GENERATIONS WON´T ATTACH LESS IMPORTANCE TO WHERE SOMEONE COMES FROM OR WHOM HE DATES,

Constantin, I wonder the same!

It's like Jews marrying Nazis.

Don't you know anything about the history of slavery?

When African people were thrown off ships in order to lighten the load just to make the ships sail faster even though there were barrels of gun powder and rum.

When pregnant African women had their stomachs ripped open and the foetus snatched out to make examples of them.
When African families were forced apart because the father had been sold to another farm to breed with the females in order to create more 'livestock'.

When Europeans castrated black males for just looking at their women yet considered it within their rights to rape black females.

When Africans were and still are considered lower than animals.

I could go on but i hope this answers your question.

Good luck to you

Actually mixing is another way for Europeans to carry their genes over to the next generation since their reproduction rate is falling. Hence the need for good strong African genes and it has always been that way.

Before the Africans came to the UK in the 1950s, there used to be an African community in the 1800s but they disappeared through mixing. So you will find British people whose great great grandparents were of African origin but looking at them you would never know. So if the intention is to mix out the white, it can't happen because mixed and white together makes white. _{Jade from Big Brother is a prime example.}

So unless you don't mind your grandchildren being white go ahead but don't go making babies with the intention of mixing out the white race as you may be disappointed.

Isn't it sad to witness a soul so consumed by hatred.

@Somegirl

The boy wanted to know why interracial relationships are frowned upon and i gave him one of the reasons. Simple.
Nothing to do with who is bad or good, just facts.

@english 1

Are you refering to a post or the subject of slavery? If it is a post i don't see any hatred oozing from any of them. Or are you just uncomfortable with the topic of slavery?

Its the children i am concerned about.

In the UK a majority of them end up in care all because the relationship between both parties broke down. In some cases the man goes back home to marry someone from his place or he leaves because it was a fling and the woman, who is usually white, ends up with the baby. For reasons unknown to me, the child ends up in care. This results in a lot of confused and emotionally disturbed children.

My personal views on interracial relationships is most don't last. You get the rare few that is based on love but the rest is based on convenience and lust.

Somegirl - sorry, I thought you were being serious there. 

Brown-eyes, yes your posts do seem rather hateful.

I am compared to a Nazi because I am white? 

And no, I'm not afraid of the history of slavery. But I doubt that the existance of slavery in the past is a reason that people disaprove of black/white relationships today. What relevance does that have to whether a young African man in the UK should have a relationship with a girl there?

You seem to be saying that we all hold those opinions now. "When Africans were and still are considered lower than animals".  I don't know anyone who considers Africans in that way.

I just looked it up. Only 8% of the children in care in the UK are mixed race.

i don't get it, we're still on this issue?
not a problem who u want to marry, depends on why.
but like someone's stated already. lots of inter racial marriages don't last till death do them part.
have no idea why, but same race marriages are more stable.
if u can leave with that, then marry your girl

@ english 1


In what way? I simply educated the boy on why people frown upon interracial relationships. If the deeds carried out by white people in the past makes you embarrassed, say so,. don't try and turn on me and say I'm filled with hate


don't get personal on me we are talking about the situation here


You have much to learn about the psychological effects of slavery.
Just because you are in an interracial relationship doesnt mean you can empathise with africans.


He wanted to know why his relationship was frowned upon.

Do you live in the UK? If you do, you would not be coming out with such a ridiculous question. why are the BNP so popular that they have managed to get a seat or two in certain areas? Why did Anthony Walker get killed? what about Stephen Lawrence? Police stop and search. These are all products of racism which derived from slavery which in my opinion continues in a covert manner.


I have a friend who is currently with a white girl. Whenever they have an argument, she resorts to calling him black bastard. I have another friend who was seeing a white man. Whenever he had an orgasm he will cry out 'f%*k me you black beast. Now that is only on personal level.

Shall we talk about institutional racism? Education system, police force, health care.

Oh by the way did you know that black people are more likely to be diagnosed with schizophrenia. On top of that black patients are much more likely to be given drugs as treatment. I really don't know what world you are in. Maybe when you find your man in that predicament your eyes will open wide until then do not deny the fact that Europeans see Africans on a lesser level than their own animals. In the Uk animals have more rights than blacks. Treat an animal cruelly and see if you don't get punished for it. Black people are still waiting for justice to be served.



Hence i said reasons unknown to me. Still a number of mixed race children between white and blacks end up in care.


and depression and a number of various reasons.


There are more children of white and black parentage in care than children of black parentage.

 Please explain a bit more.

It shouldn't matter who you fall in love with especially in your situation where you both meet in school perhaps there are high percentage of caucasians within the area of your schooling. I have been in your situation before, just do your best and to hell with the outside forces. Love her as much as you love any race, be kind and respectful and live the world to those who hates. It has nothing to do with past or nazis marrying Jews, it is plain human love period.

There is a saying that I love from Former Supreme Court Judge Thurmond Goodmarshal(sp??) saying "a snake is a snake when it bites it doesn't care what color it bites when you examine the venun it is the red blood cell inside." I will never forget his final speech,

I gat no issue with blacks and whites and its really so funny the kind of replies people have written so far.

Why do you think most replies are funny? Just curious. Please expatiate

I find it hard to believe that the hatred stems from the colonial and pre-colonial times,  maybe for our great grand parents, yes; but if you're talking of today,  the simple truth behind every jealous black woman's annoyance is the simple fact that a white girl will most definitely bring out the black woman's failures to light and place them right in front of her.
A white girl will most rarely be materialistic, snubbish, nagging, and full of lies, tricks and divided trust. They are more independent and don't bother themselves about many trivial issues,  They'll want to meet your friends and make friends with them. They distinguish themselves in almost everything, 

Dig it or diss it, but in your mind u identify with it as the truth.