Living With MiL

Tell her U will not allow that and she needs to respect your decision. She can visit her mother and her mother can come for visits. She is a grown woman. She can buy her mother a new house in the same community where you both live.

If the younger sister is staying with her mom then what is the loneliness that her mother is feeling. She can go visit her mother if need be and her mother can come visit. Abi is there something else going on??? Is her mother sick?

I've seen some people that do it and there is no problem involved except the man/woman is kept uncomfortable.

 i would NEVER allow it. if the girl loves you also she should be able to reason and compromise with you.

wasn't the mother doing this(leaving alone) before the girl decided to get married? and since the guy doesn't want it, it is going to definitely be a problem if he consent to it just cox of the pressure from the wife. i don;t really care about who loves who much or less, i wouldn't still give in to the idea of her living with us permanently. temporarily or if she was sick would have been more reasonable.

if the loneliness is much of a concern why not find someone to stay with?

if your moother wanted to move in permanently would she accept.
just tell her no, and if she insist's on having her mothers company,
she can move back to her family house and visit u simple.

If truly the MiL has nowhere else suitable to stay, she can move in.

I don't care if there are 50 people living in my house, I run things as I deem fit. If you disagree with how I run my home? Please don't let the door hit you on your way out

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Yes but the woman can sometimes push her demands too far and refuse to see the man is stressed out. Saying no to a demand she knows you can easily give in will make her think you don't care about her family which is not true in most cases.

Oga Izeek, I don't think it's appropriate for couples to compete on who will help his or her family the most. Your question is very funny and sensible though. The woman should always have the last say in an argument, no be so?

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wont happen, if she cant be without her mum, then she should probably get married to her

it a recipe for disaster

Exactly and there is no way she won't team up with her daughter against you anytime there is strife between your wife and you.

How many of them out there are bestowed with wisdom that transcends their emotion?

What wrong with someone living with his or her parent(s) in-law 

Methinks y’all are making blind arguments. . . . ‘don’t allow it oh . . .  it’s like marrying a second wife oh . . . she will destroy your marriage oh . . . . bla  bla bla’

How does one living with another translate into breaking a marriage? Problem in a marriage is something that can never be avoided. You can’t stop your mother-in-law from living with you just because you ‘think’ she will cause problem in the house. Why not try it and see, then if she’s a bother, you can have grounds to kick her out.

Selfishness is not when you refuse to give material things; it’s when you refuse to suffer minor inconveniences, for no just cause.

As for me, if my MiL wants to live with me, she’s free to. I certainly won’t let anybody to come into my hope and cause problems for me. MIL, FIL, BIL or SIL.

Besides I don’t know where I’ll be tomorrow. I might live a long life and at a point in my life, I’ll love to live with a family again like I’m used to. I’ll so hate it if one son/daughter-in-law decides that having me in his house will be like marrying a second wife.

@ Poster, if you have the space and the funds to spare for an extra mouth, let her move in. Nobody deserves to be alone, at least until he/she proves that he doesn’t deserve any help.

 Please Nlanders, let’s try to think of other people, aside from ourselves. Y’all sound like some really naïve adolescents. 

Okay fine, tell me that when you are in your 80s and really don’t like the idea of an old people’s home. You might have the luxury of owning your own house and having helps to take care of you, but you know that doesn’t hold a candle to living with one of your kids and his/her family.

My grandmother lived in our house till she died. And even though she was a trouble maker, my parents’ marriage managed to survive her tyranny. If you ask me, she was the least of their problems.

And even though people advised my mum not to let her live with us, and some of her other Children and their families rejected her, I cant say I dint have a nice time growing up with my Granny.