My Story

if eventually u marry her u may not av an happy home cos any mistake she do will remind u of d pass,these are  causes of marriage failure.

too bad ,Bro since u done forgive then u most forget or else u no go fit marry her. so pls forget it.

Guys, This is too much, can this be true? I mean can someone actually do this? Guys tell me is dis true, ?

Ahhhhhhhhh women,,,,,,,,,, anytime i telll my mum i wont marry she thinks am joking if there was any other way to produce children i would prefer that way than getting married.

women are very dangerous animal.Look at a girl that you did everything for, oh what a mean girl she is.im upset.dnt knw what to say , just let her cane her side.leave her.she dnt deserve you.

I can understand  how hard it is not to love someone who you truly and genuinely have loved for 4 years. Some people made real sense .

Debosky words should be given much thoughts to:

'It's a sad story. The nature of the cheating makes it almost unbearable, almost.

You need to come to a decision within yourself on this matter - no one can advise you.

I personally would not be able to countenance it. This wasn't 'ordinary' cheating. She spent the WEEKEND at this guy's house, while she was PREGNANT, lied to you about it, switched off her phone?

This was deliberate, thought out and planned. It did not happen by accident. This isn't a matter of neglect, something is fundamentally wrong.

I can understand meeting a guy, going to see him and things get out of hand. I can understand someone wooing you persistently and you fall. But to set out such an elaborate plan to cheat? I am sincerely worried, even if you have cheated (unless your cheating was equally elaborate and cunning)

In this case, cheating is NOT cheating, at least to me - the level of premeditation is highly worrying. I personally would not be comfortable marrying such a person.

Forgive by all means, but don't marry her - the baggage might kill the marriage.'



Additionally, SAINT CHARLES AND sabak made some real good points too . I personally feel you need to think way back and remember whether she had acted phishy or funny at some point in your relationship cause  the truth is if you truly love a guy, you wont cheat, if you cheat, its gonna be a one night thing and worse still she wont disrespect you ( mind you am just saying from my own point of view)

Please be advised that she might be a serial cheat who  only got caught . they are always ever sorry and always will be sorry ( both men and women)  i rather remain single than stay with a a serial cheat. or with someone whose middle name is sorry, i wont do that again!

In all , its not about you now as you know your true feelings for her . its about her. what was lacking in your relationship?  you will need to both work this out . Ask her viewpoints questions to draw out her real feelings and thoughts. Don't be scared; this is your life and future. Don't force or intimidate her  into saying  that she loves and cares for you. Give the relationship some space and try other things to occupy your time and thoughtin the meantime. Get involved in sports or something. I AM NOT SAYING DO NOT FORGIVE HER am only saying this is the time you need to sit back and appraise the situation and your future happiness. Most importantly , pray for Gods guidance, to direct you and read  the Bible to get practical solution to your  problem. Remember, when you forgive, God is owing you one as well. It may take a while to trust again but trust is earned and if she truly is sorry( MAYBE ITS HER FIRST TIME) then she will work at earning YOUR trust back.

I pray things work out fine and she is not just holding on to you cause of the security ( having invested in her time and effort for 4 years). I pray she is truly sorry cause she loves you not because she got caught. Give her another chance but be careful my brother .  Use your sense and be patient.

Thanks,

see there is no need for all this shits men
Guy i would advise u again to leave that girl hey leave that girl again leave that girl because from what she just did it means that she can even conspire with any fucking guy to do u harm so please for the sake of urself please leave her.,
Girls of now adays are such bitches

So tell me now if she had not gotten pregnant for the guy she would keep f**king the guy and F**king u too also if the guy has a STD she would be bringing u home diseases from the guy's privates
Please give me a heavy break she is not sorry she would only keep fooling u.,
See for me i have said it to my self times without numbers that i may not get married to any girl and unluckily i am not gay but i can always live to adopt kids who needs some one to care for them
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Run for your life man run
And be careful she may tame u so beware

HUMM GIRLS CAN LIE, EVEN WITH SOMEONE ELSE BABY INSIDE OF YOU SHE STILL WENT AHEAD TO CHOP ANOTHER BANANA WELL SHA,

.9JA GIRLS  I BOW OOO

INFACT I RESPECT U NA 9JA GIRLS SHA,

OGA POSTER I BEG U, LET THIS GIRL GO FOR GOOD , AND IF YOU ARE SO BLIND BY THE LOVE , THE GET READY FOR EVERLASTING SORROW,

IS EITHER TO BACK OFF NOW OR U U CARRY ON

THE CHOICE IS YOURS

let us knw so we can advice