Best Way to Punish Kids?

But my little one 10 she is the one i fear.
With 7  the teacher complained  , when ever she adressed the class , "Class do this or that" my daughter will not do as she was told till the teacher said Mel you too.On asking her she said her name was not class but Mel .Till today she will only Write a good result depending on her mood. If i tell her to stay at home she will go out and tell me i did not say sa from when.
If i ask her ,"Give me a date when you are going to do what ever" she says may 18(eg) but when the time comes job not done she will say , she did not say what year.
Sometimes i make her put what ever down in writing and we sign . so she cannot twist the story later.

Well they will grow . They may win the battle but we will win the war.

I LOCK THEM UP IN THE STOREROOM FOR 5MINUTES WHERE THEY'LL IMAGINE SEEING SCARY MONSTERS N BEASTS COS MY CHILDREN PREFERS 2 B SMACKED OR YELLED AT THAN BEEN LOCKED UP,BUT I KNOW THEY'LL DEFINITELY OUTGROW THAT FEAR AS THEY GROW , UNTIL THEN, I'M COOL,BUT MY HUSBAND IS REALLY SPOILING OUR DAUGHTER WHILE HE'S QUITE TOUGH ON OUR BOY,HE BELIEVES GIRLS R MEANT 2 BE PAMPERED WHILE BOYS SHOULD BE MADE OF STEEL .NOW THAT THEY R GROWING OLDER,WE WOULD ALSO LIKE 2 BRING THEM UP IN THE WAY OF THE LORD COS GOD-FEARING CHILDREN WOULD ALWAYS BRING PEACE.GOOD N PEACEFUL CHILDREN NEED NO PUNISHMENT. 

softee just go back delete what you wrote find the word quote and type ya mes next  or below it the suga replace ya last reply with a smile.      

Most parents av discoverd d errors dey made nd are simply tryin 2 live dier lives through d kids. I think d best 2 train children is 2  let them that dey ar luvd n apreciated. If ds notion is adequately communicated 2 them,punishment wil b undastood n not r despised. Howeva,corection shuld b done in love n only after d ofenda has been made 2 digest d enormity n side effect of his/her offence.

I surely don't av kids yet but av watched my aunts raise kids up to teen age n out of high skul. A lot of us were not raised wit d belief that we culd av a change of heart but ratha like condemned criminals.

PLS HELP ME TELL THEM OO MA SISTA,JUST BCOS I CHOSE 2 LOCK MY KIDS UP FOR 5MINS INSTEAD OF SMACKING THEM DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T MAKE THEM FEEL LOVED,THEY CAN NEVER SUFFER EMOTIONALLY  COS I'M ALSO D BEST MUM IN THE WORLD N  I DON'T LOCK THEM UP IN D SHOWKEY WHERE MALTIDA WAS LOCKED UP,BESIDES IF You'VE NEVER BEEN A PARENT,You CAN NEVER KNOW HOW IT'S LIKE WITH KIDS,IT'S BETTER 2 JUST SHUT UP INSTEAD OF JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS @SOFTEE

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STI KIDS ???LOL ,IT'S COOL You'VE GOT 4 OF 'EM,COS I'VE GOT JUST 2KIDS FOR NOW[A BOY N A GIRL]N I'M PLANNING TO HAVE 4KIDS.I WOULD ALSO LIKE THE OTHER KIDS TO B BOYZ ONLY JUST LIKE URS COS I'M BETTER OFF HANDLING BOYS THAN GIRLS ANYWAY CONSIDERING D FACT THAT I GREW AS A PROPER TOMBOY

I USUALLY END THINGS D WAY I STARTED IT,IF HE FEELS THAT BAD ABOUT IT THEN HE SHOULDN'T HAVE ACCEPTED MY REGISTRATION N WELCOME ME IN COS MY NAME'S IN CAPS N BESIDES THERE R LOADS OF PPLE WHO WRITES IN CAPS TOO ANYWAY.BANNED COS OF WRITING IN CAPS[THAT'S GOING 2 D EXTREME]

Though i don't have my own kid though but i have babysitted kids before

spanking should be in rare case because they get used to it the it becomes useless.

Depriving them from what they love or
isolating them while the program they love to watch is on TV ^{but you still leave the TV on so they can hear it!}

Most of all talk to them Kids these days have to be communicated "with" and not "TO".
Do what they don't expect when they are wrong._{Like let them ask are you no going to beat me  ?}

whenever u punish your child make sure he/she knows the reason why.don't make your child get scared of u.but make sure each punishment matches the offense committed and also suitable 2 the child's temperament i hope u got one or two things from this

Quite an informative thread.
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