What Do I Do To Win Back His Trust!

michelin, by their Fruits, we shall know them. we guys in this Forum don't need to be told that you are a slut by supporting the poster.

michelin or tyre or wateva your name is, i aint desperate to keep a rel infact my rel is destined from above and its working out without much effort. but let me put this tru to u, both parties have to invest in a rel equally, if a guy is trying and the girl isnt at all,then ii will say they beta quit but not on stupid grounds.
  

my guy respects me and i do him too, i am not a desperado but i tink u are in denial, u are making look like u dont care but i tink u do thats y u even tink am a philosopher cos u know am correct about u

michelin89 I think you are more than a bitch or rather slut as you rephrase it.Can you tell me what a girl will be doing in a man 's house early morning without going to work.
 What do you mean by nagging, why would she cut the call if she is not hiding sumtin.

@ michelin, i think u are jus one tough lady and i wont be surprised when  u fall in love and be the mumu later in life cos its obvious now that u despise guys[b][/b]

   The lady is suppose to be at work, why in a man's place and she keeps too many guy as a friend.why would a lady be gaving too many male pals.
  

michelin tyre, May your head lead you to nonesense.I hope you use your head in thinking and not your in between.
 You should start your morning with gossip instead of being at work.
 Even if she has to meet the pal, why must she start AMEBO  L'ARO KUTUKUTU.with all being said I think you and the poster are  of same kind.
  So you will cut your man's call while in the company of other men.What is your guy cut call when you call him and he is also with other girl what will be running through your mind.
   Mumu full here  no be small, It is your type your boyfriend go keep for house and beat you red and blue, if you ever call your brother.

@ Poster,

Why are you bothering your mind, believe me, u are better off with this your so-called guy ,  why does he wants to know who u are with, are you not old enough to go whereever you chose,  the guy even wants to know the name of your friend ,  i sincerely think a line has to be drawn somewhere.

I think its best you let your man live his life because i can bet my life if you go back to him, he will make your life a living hell, cos the dude will be a control freak.

I really dont know what is wrong with these nigerian men, they think because they are dating a babe, then the babe has no right to privacy and must be under their control.  Insecuritiy is a sad thing.

Hey dipstick, try using your head once in a while.  Your girl is at some random dude's house very early in the morning.  You call to find out where she is, she has nothing to hide, but she quickly hangs up the phone because she didn't want to have to explain to you.  LOL


It's not about Nigerian men, but about a stupid girl playing games. 

I have been in a relationship with this guy for sometime now,we really meant business in this relationship cos we designed to marry each other,at a point i became careless with the affair cos of reasons I thought were reason enough ,he spoke to me severally over my actions but somehow I just didnt see myself listening ,partly because i was inexperienced and partly cos i thought there wasnt any need for the talks cos part though a very little part of his talks have been bothering on his being able to trust me with my male friends which am 1 million percent sure i have absolutely nothing with them,I mean I love this guy but i would accept i was careless.The last straw that broke the carmels back was that one  morning he called me,i was supposed to be at work but was just chilling with a friend(male) nothing was going on,he asked where i was i said i was with a friend,and he asked could he know my friends name ,i found myself cutting the call,he called severally i kept busying the call,somehow i felt somehow telling him my friends name while my friend was there and knowing fully well that he wouldnt let go untill i tell him whom i was with and knowing him,he could possibly ask to speak with the person, am not doing anything with these guy i was with he was just a friend, but this has destroyed my relationship with the man i love, am not saying i was right in my actions but i dont know what to do to win him back, i suddenly realised all he has been telling me, everything now makes sense, i cant imagine throwing away the dreams we shared ,the plans we made , this thing is killing me, please advice me , what do i do to get him be the loving, caring and patient guy he always was.

I assume the poster is telling the truth. This is what I think:

1. Her boyfriend shd not have asked to speak with d guy. Is he hounding her or what? and they are not even married yet. I dont see why he shd monitor everyone d girl moves with. I dont want to think he's insecure.
2. Please, let us give our girls a break, and for once treat them like people who have a mind of their own. That is the young girl of today, sensible and independent. Let us stop seeing them as weak-minded lazy individuals who sway in whatever direction comfort and material wealth dictates.
3.As for the poster, i think dat she MUST talk things over with him so that they reach an amicable compromise. If they cannot trust each other, let them please seperate as quickly as possible. Marriage is not child's play.

he doesnt even call me to know whom i was with,that day was the first

I was careless there was one  occassions like when I used the words sweetheart and honey with a guy and accidentally he heard me

his main argument was that i should be careful cos of my inexperience people may make me do what i do not want to do, and it makes absolute sense cos i have experienced it

like sometime he did put up a write up on the wall of my Fb ''MY ROCK'' I found myself deleting it Asap

one  morning he called me,i was supposed to be at work but was just chilling with a friend(male)