Anambra And Imo Marriage

I have a problem marrying outside my village, because I don't want to travel more than 1km to do the wine-carrying and visit my in-laws. You see, you can always create a problem that will validate restricting yourself to a particular area. It worked for me. 

my dear,whats your peoples view about it.you know in iboland,a lady gets married to the whole family not only the man so look before you leap.takia

LOL, i don't believe this

My friend never said she won't marry an imo man because of divorce, da divorce was another analysis if u maall it that, and yea, were u will marry is your choice and at da same time love,

u've left the idea that igbo love money to say Anambra people , money and rituals, what about the okotoko people or wuteva they call them, loving money os not a regin or state thing as well as da ritual thing although I don't believe in that shit, as for me, whereva love takes me, I go as far as the guy is the God chose for me, PERIOD

Can you be a little more legible, so older folks like us can understand what the hell you're talking about.

@hotstepper

i can see your good at defending your people so much irrespective of what we all know are the facts
but the basic truth is simple outside the ibo community the rest of nigerians see us as ibos and they get jittery when talking with us

well it may not have happen to u but it sure had happen to me a couple of times when people expecially yorubas find out your ibo or even see your ibo name they tend to shiver and start becoming carefull - well i have learnt to live with that  and for u from my back yard  stabbing me thats what i can't live with

the average ibo man has one detail about the other based on what ever and where ever they r coming from . for instance

nnewi/akwa - less educated, very rich, good bizness men, love money so much they can kill for it

orlu - same xteristics as above but higher educated %

oguta- a bunch of strange intelligent people that love stayin ontheir own, most times people wonder whether they r form imo or not

mbaise- plenty, highly educated, use to oppress fellow imo state members  with their education thats why the phrase came out -' between an mbaise man and a snake prefer the snake to them"

umuahia- expensive marriages men u think they r selling their children

abriba- show offs- like braging with wealth than with education and their neighbours Ohafia prefers to brag with education as to wealth

ebonyi- considered at times as outsiders because men that their language does not sound like igbo language

asaba - pallies well with people from anambra state but people form imo state still considers them as BENDEL- u can ask your parents hwo they see bendel people even if they r split between edo and delta

now this may not be an extensive generalisation, there might be more. i don't claim i know all

but what am saying is simple when lov is involve u have tos tand your ground and tell your parents what u want
we have to move up from segregational idealogy and move into the realms  of reality and accept people for who they r and not where they r from

infact u can't tell me 100% of people from your own internal family are saints - because they r not and u know it

an average imo parent will tell u don't look towards anambra they may not be as educated and can be fetish

average anambra parent will say the reverse those imo people act strange , I.T.K and can jujucious

well if u sit and allow the parents have their way they would draw up so much boundaries and u would remain single for alonger period of your life if not forever.

i am from imo state actually one of my brothers wanted to marry some one from abia state. my father brought up his theories but we saw to it that the marriage took place now after some years infact after the wedding the man changed his mouth and started saying the girl is a good girl .

now the basic problem of an ibo man is segregation and internal competition, for us to move forward we have to stop  that and learn to move each other forward don't forget other tribes in nigeria don't really like us as much. it is only in unity we can survive it and move forward

and its hell unfortunate that even with the hatred or disdain other tribes have for us we can still be rated as properous more than any tribe in nigeria combine 

@kaecy5, I am not defending any state or my own state. I am a very netural individual. Poeple would tell you that imo people, aba etc r more into juju etcccccccccccccccc, itz just how you see it and u say it. I have no issue with any state, Even letz say within Anambra State or Enugu per say, u will hear people saying they will not marry 4rom other towns within the same state, The analysis u mentioned regarding how eachtown is known is well datz generalization of people, all said and done, am happy 2 have parents who doesn't kare where u find a wife or husband as far as they are who you have chosen

Imo Women Have many Bad qualities. i doubt If I could go with an Imo woman even if their people give her away for as Cheap as the price of a bottle of Softdrink.(Fanta)

I live in the states, and I have a friend who is from imo and whose family doesn't want her to marry her Anambra boyfriend, I just wonder what will happen if she brings home a black american. I mean at least she is with someone who speaks the same language and have similar culture.

Uche, what town are yo from in Anambra?

Nnewi to Uga to Aguluezechukwu

That is the genesis of most marriage problems and I agree it is a big problem.However,I know what my parents want in a daughter in law and I would try as much as possible to factor in that when taking a wife.Having said that I am the one that is going to be living with her and so my feelings would have to be topmost on the list of priorities.Problems always arise from friction bw the mother in law and daughter in law and that is not mindboggling as women are known to be highly jealous.So I would try and treat my wife as a wife and also my mother as my mother,,,,noone can replace the other.And,tho unfortunately,the situation whereby the couple live far away from the paternal home also helps to diffuse tension as the mother and daughter in law get only to meet occasionally.And if my wife is sensible,which I hope she will be, she can be able to comport herself during this short period of contact even if they utterly despise each other.Altho these are all situations which ideally one is hoping not to encounter.

hahahahahha, oh well, datz history, haven't heard of your town before, ama ask ma mom ,

is it nnewi that u've not been to or your town?lol