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graciella (f)
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[b][/b] Girls, How do you punish your guy
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luxoire (f)
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PUNISH  - no need to !! although i know most women use sex (refusal) as a punishment for their guys - lol  |
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izeek (m)
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when he is sleeping, tie a rope to his privates and fasten it to the ceiling fan.
that shud do it.
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graciella (f)
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I need serious answers. Pls no jokes here.
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bblacky (f)
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na sex na
@ izeek u wuked arh
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patwhizkid (f)
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Re:
« #5 on: June 03, 2009, 02:12 PM » |
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Sex, & by adding otapiapia to his food; a drop of acid on his thing.
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izeek (m)
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@bblacky,
but sincerely wat else Will u do that will leave an indelible mark on him?
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bblacky (f)
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na wetin u go do sha bt arh its bad now too bad to land u to kirikiri
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sistawoman
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No punshment neccessary.
I learned a long time ago those things backfire on you quickly.
My advice is to talk to him. Really talk to him.
Tell him what is bothering you and how it makes you feel. Be sure to talk in I statements and dont jump to any conclustions.
Now is the time to vet him properly for marriage and to see what kind of husband he will make. By talking to him about your problems/concerns and seeing how he reacts will tell you how your r/s will proceed.
Punishing him will only make him what to punish you and then you him. Do you see how this cycle will never end? And what happens to the problem? it is never resolved.
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izeek (m)
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no fear, e no fit cut, go just twist like twine.
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bblacky (f)
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ebi lk say your g don tryam b4 on u, abi? but come how u go dey tie sometin 4 person body him no go know, even do e dey sleep lk, wetin i go calam sef
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izeek (m)
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he wud thik he is having a wet dream shikena.
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izeek (m)
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am barely stating what u told me in private.
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bblacky (f)
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wake up izeek wake up, wat r u sayin, i guess your still in your dream   |
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izeek (m)
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okay am awoke, sorry awaked, ehm is it awaking?
not soo sure sha. ani which ways i don wake up.
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graciella (f)
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@ Sistawoman
But how do i start talking when i am tired of talking?
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sistawoman
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What exactly is the problem?
How many times have you talked to him about it?
What were the resolutions/promises that were made before?
Is this a deal breaker type of thing?
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oyeleyet (f)
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If i neglect my guy for 3 days,without calling him and picking his calls,he would almost run mad.
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graciella (f)
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@ Sistawoman
WE are supposed 2 meet 4 a discussion. he sayd he wold call me l8er.
SInce its 2 days now and am still w8ing 4 the call
and i tryed calling him, hes not picking
he switched off the phone
Meanwhile, this isnt the first time, he always does it.
Any punishable advice/.
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izeek (m)
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ever tot if he is in some kinda mess?
well just be patient, he will come out of the shell.
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sistawoman
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If this is a repeat of how he handles disagreements then you need to wait it out.
Wait until he comes to see you. If he calls first act normal not annoyed. Let him believe that his tactic of avoidance has worked.
let him come see you.
Get him in the house
If you normally kiss him when you greet him do that. If you normally feed him or prepare a drink for him do that. Act very normal.
After he is comfortable then you talk to him
You make if very clear that the way he has behaved is disrespectful to you and your r/s. That if he wants to act this way then you should part ways (or whatever it is that you are willing to do).
Take this time to get your thoughts together. take this time decide if avoidence is what you want in your mate.
Punishing him will do no good. if avoidance is his way of dealing with confilict then he will always deal with you this way.
let him know how much you love him. Let him know how much you cherish your r/s. Let him know that you want to grow with him and the only way for love to grow is thru communication.
Dont yell, dont accuse, just ask for clarity. Ask him how does he think conflict should be resolved in your r/s. Ask him how he would like for you to bring up things that bother you? Ask him how yall can avoid this in the future.
Lead from behind.
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izeek (m)
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@sistawoman,
u def come across as a lady who will kill her man smiling.
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sistawoman
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@sistawoman,
u def come across as a lady who will kill her man smiling.
I just know how to stroke a mans ego. If a woman learns how to do that yall are putty in our hands. You have to lead him to where you want him to go but all the while allow him to believe he is leading you. |
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izeek (m)
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yeah! making him think he controls all when in truth he controls none.
sha ease up with your man b4 we say nah jazz u dey use for am. just kidding.
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Secretz (f)
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I just know how to stroke a mans ego. If a woman learns how to do that yall are putty in our hands. You have to lead him to where you want him to go but all the while allow him to believe he is leading you.
That is VERY VERY true. My brothers told me this. lol  |
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stillwater (f)
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Put soldier ants on his bed.  |
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graciella (f)
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@ Sistawoman
It seems like he is avoiding me due to the fact that he asks me how do i think he feels each time i am about to return to school. Its like he says hes gonna miss me, but how does running away help? because anytime am about 2 return 2 school, he avoids me. even if i offer to send him money
Pls help me
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stillwater (f)
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Do you ask him for money? Or have you ever asked him for money?
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sistawoman
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how soon before you leave?
how old is he?
How old are you?
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graciella (f)
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@ Sistawoman
I am leaving on sunday
i am 21
and he is 26, But why do u ask
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sistawoman
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Just trying to gage his behavior.
Did you have a fight before he stopped talking to you?
Did you request something from him that he says he cant give you?
what exactly was your last conversation with him?
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