Why Men Don't Wait For Sex

Yea it is good to wait but the reason y most men don't wait is simply because they feel the only thing a girl can contribute to the relationship is that.have u ever noticed when going out with a girl,u spend your money,time etc and all she does contribute to the relationship is ?open her legs.i beleive if you dating a girl u love,and who is intelligent and contribute to your life believe u might not think about sex but if she is the other way ,nothing to contribute then sex mite be a substitute.what u think?

listen when you give a girl an idea that you want her i don't think she will want to wait for the sex especially if you are good looking, but you find women that degrade themselves and make men think that all of us are the same, then you find stupid *%#$@ that would go for anything that has a privates,

Na the babes dey cause ahm manytimes now, so fussy, feisty, saying things they aint meaning and meaning things they aint saying, lottsa gees and relationships would have been saved the stress if girls themselves had discovered themselves, defined boundaries and stayed within them, instead of running all off with romantic thrills and later coming to cry because the guy was wise enough to duck in their hosieries when the chance came and bailed when the time came too, ladies, why flirt it now if u knew u were saving it for marriage in the first place.

When the girl aint in too much into a relationship and is taking your time, energy, attention, dough and scrillaz, ol'boy, u no go demand some pay through her own god-given pay-pal account? especially if she's even flaunting it? Na so o!!!!

I'm not denying the fact that guys play but i believe girls who keep good head on their shoulders and use it (instead of just going with the flow) have  better chances at not getting 'banged' for n othing, ladies, u go a long way in determining how a guy sees u or interpretes what's happening between u and him, so, let's get real and stop pretendin we didnt what could happen if all we did was played with our chastity-strings all night long!

is always the girls fault when will dudes accept that they are wrong sometimes

ok, i think the topic itself is making men seem  like sex monsters (though thats the way it looks in the real world) but i personally feel that ladies are as very much interested in sex as men and i even feel they tend to enjoy the act more .The one thing is just that they are a bit pretentious about it and they are very unlikely to make the move for it.
All the same , i feel when it comes to conviction and all, men are generally more principled than ladies because most ladies tend to flow with wot the man wants which i don't think is best.Ladies should try to define themselves!

I totally agreed with seun, the fact is that when a guy love a babe and see that this lady can contribute something positive to his life, he will be less bother about SEX, because he knows the kind of material and quality the lady is made of. But of the most ladies are not the visionary type, so the only thing they can contribute in a RELATIONSHIP IS SIMPLY " SEX". Guys should not be blame at all because we can control our SEX EGO, but Ladies they can't and if u dnt give them they will think You RE THE LAZY TYPE.
Ladies should be more visionary in a relationship so that guys can accord them respect.  

Thanks for concurring twinkle but anyway, its Esan

cheavroi are u tryingn to say that its only men that enjoy sex? is sex now a way of degrading girls? i don't blame some people just because women are generally steroetyped as the weaker sex? but the last i checked sex is satisfaction for two parties and not one. so if u spend all your money on a girl and she offers u sex, take note, even if she doesnt want others to know, she has enjoyed your time, money and the sex (if it was good).

osegwu n his friends!!!
you guys be Omata or Olagbo!!  wetin you want a girl to do for you. plan your life? na companionship. from the beginning of the bible.
As for me a girl beauti sex all that plays a role.  so u guys might also suggest a girl going out askin different guys out,  shhhh. and later on you guys will call her prostitute.

Talk about a bunch of guys looking for a reason as to why they can't Keep away from having sex.

Before i go on talking. I want to ask, how long do you consider as "waiting"?
Are we talking about having sex after two weeks, three weeks or what?
If you think that all the girl wants to contribute to the relationship is JUST SEX, then it must mean that that's what she's contributing. That is, you've already had sex with her.

And if you've already had sex with her, then WHAT IN HELL ARE YOU WAITING FOR AGAIN?

You said, the reason why most guys don't wait is because they feel that the girl has nothing positive to contribute to their lives right?

Well excuse me, You are dating a girl for say 1 month, and you haven't had sex with her, If you feel as if she's not contributing anything to your life, or that her purpose in your life is ZIP/ZERO, why not just pack and leave?

If you see that she's not contributing positive to your life, PACK AND LEAVE. You would be the BAD GUY, if you know that she has no purpose in your life and still went ahead and BANGED her. You would know within a month if someone is a pest in your life or a blessing in your life.

I want to believe that, PEOPLE LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WOULD TAKE TIME TO KNOW Their patner before they Go ahead and have sex. If you have sex with a girl the first night you meet her, and you ask her to be your girlfriend, HEY, DOn't Blame her if all she gives your ass is sex. Ask yourself a question: What did she give me the first day i met her? Ohh you got the answer didn't you??? IT IS SEX.
SO why complain if all she's giving you now is sex?? If you want a real relationship, if you want a girl that'll contribute POSITIVELY to your life, TAke time to know her  first, know if you would want to see yourself with her in the next at least 5 months.

You only know if a girl is not contributing anything but sex to your life, IF AND ONLY IF, you've had sex with her numerous times. And if you've had sex with her numerous times, THEN YOU AINT WAITING FOR SHI!IT. Do you get what i'm saying?

Maybe im getting this all wrong, but i think this is just a way for you guys who lack self control to boost your ego and make it seem like the girl is at fault.

I'm not going to stay here and fake the funk. Some girls really are nothing but "SEX contributors" to a relationship, But like i said earlier, take time to know the girl you are dipping your head in before you dip your head in her.

if you want a fling, Go ahead and have sex with whoever you want. But if you want a real relationship -- _{i assume you do, because you want a girl u can be with, a girl who will contribute positively to your life} -- Take time to get to know the girl more. Yes some girls act so good in the begining and after having sex the first time they turn into a 'sex me all the time machine' -- that i wont say i don't know.

Basically, im saying, It's not true that men don't wait for sex because they know all the girl is going to offer is sex.
For pete's sake, the guy is not psychic. You make it sound like Men are psychic. "They don't wait for sex because they know all a girl has to offer is Sex".  You only know if all a girl is going to offer in a relationship is sex based on how the relationship started.

This "waiting for sex" term doesnt sink well in my head. If you say "the reason why Most guys don't STAY in a relationship is because MOST girls have nothing other than sex to offer" , I might reason with you.

P.S: If you are a guy who wants someone to contribute positively in his life, i guess it'd be wise to eliminate anyone who isn't contributing positively to yourlife. If you substitute A girl who isn't contributing positively to your life with her giving you SEX all the time, I don't think you know what you want yet.

Have you ever heard of someone who died of not having sex? I didn't think so. If you don't like that all a girl is contributing to your life is sex, the please LEave her. You want positive things right?? Well Wait for the positive to COME!


@ topic starter, I actually want to agree with what you said about if a girl contributes positively to a guys life, the guy would think less about sex. If she's just the "collect and collect" type, i wont blame you for not wanting nothing but sex from her.
But if you really are a guy who wants something better i think you would hold on till the right thing comes. That is you won't settle for less and substitute Having the intelligent, smart girl who would give you a moderate amount of sex, for a girl who would make you go bankrupt but gives you good sex.

Yeah hot-angel, i've actually seen a couple of guys dead because of not havn enough fcuk from their pals, can u dig it?

No Hot-angel, the point is, Is it essential in a relationship or not.

Lets face the naked truth, we live in a very modern world, If the girl aint ready to grind, then when the guy starts messing up, let her not complain.

If she knows l8r, she's going to do it, so why wait and put the poorman through such agony, u dig?

Honey, you don't quite understand me.

I didn't say that sex is not essential in a relationship.

Yes we live in a very modern world, but we are not talking about whether or not sex is important in a relationship.

The dude that created this thread is putting the blame of his inability to hold back on having sex on girls. He's saying that men don't wait for sex because all the girl has to offer in the relationship is sex. Is he pyschic or something? How would you know all a girl has to offer you is SEX when you haven't had sex with her?

If you've had sex with her, Then you are NOT "WAITING FOR SEX". You only wait to recieve something you haven't recieved.

And uhmm naija4life. Just so we are clear, there are girls out there who can give you sex, and still contribute positively to your life.

BLACKMAMBA,you are suppose to be a PASTOR,i like youR preaching NA THE  VERY LEVELS!!!!!

@cheavroi,

good thought. You know what, ive been thinking along these lines too, but in a different manner.

Quoting Seun

My view:
The problem is more of how children: boys and girls are brought up. Lemme speak of the Nigerian/African society. The mother advises her daughter right from day-1, her young age never to allow boys near her, never to allow anybody to touch her. (NOTE: IM NOT SAYING SUCH AN ADVICE IS BAD O, please don't get me wrong, )

Good child training is good and approved. But see: we boys were brought up to know that we have an organ for urinating,  no further explanations, i mean urinating plain and simple.  Abi, is there any guy here, as a child advised by your parents to slap any girl who tries to touch your ?, ofcourse not. (put aside the idea that male children are mischievous). Its usually the other way around. I remember the "doctrines" my own parents were building into my own younger sister.

You could see a boy walking with his mother and who wants to urinate, pull down the damn zippers and let the liquid fly. Ive even seen a mother with her son in a danfo bus(in traffic - hold up), with the boy standing at the door step and right in front of the whole wide world, the guy was leaking.

For the girls, their mothers would look for a hidden spot, near a bush and sort of cover up the girl child "so that all eyes would not see", whatever, as such she feels she has something "so important" that nobody can get near too. Unconciously, she concludes that she can use "the thing" as a bait and a weapon.

In one way or the other the female child comes to understand that after her virginity is lost, that could be the end of her. That is her initial childhood understanding. So she earnestly protects and guides against it. When she grows up, she feels "this thing that daddy and mommy have been talking about, its like I know that this is what the boys are looking for anyway, maybe I can use it to attract them". In another way or the other, she concludes that sex might be the only thing that men want, and the only thing they are thinking about when they(men) see her(women).

So at the end of the day, if starting out in a relationship, the girl/lady now feels that having sex with her man is that ultimate gift, ultimate sacrifice, ultimate contribution and ultimate everything that she could offer to show her man that she loves him. Some might even deceive themselves that after they have sex with their BF, then they are in love with him and or he would be in love with her.

On the other hand, the man feels and thinks that after sex, thats when "we might begin to think about the relationship", why because, the way he was brought up was to think that there was "something he must not do with the woman, and the day he does it, his life is kaput", ok, so the guy feels, let me even do it sef and see how far.

Now putting 1 and 2 together, the girl feels the best she can give is sex to her man, and the man feels the least he can take is sex from his woman. When both feelings don't hit the same spot, its trouble.

Some ladies might be so desperate in a relationship and even in an early stage, they make sexual advances to their man or even to other guys hoping it would get the guys attention. When did sex and attention become synonymous?

As far as I know, Men and women just differ in reproductive , which means we(male and female) have a lot in common, other than the sex thing. Unfortunately and by default we don't see other things to do together(male and female) other than sex. Thats why some guys talk to their other guy friends of sex with their girlfriends. Girls also do the same.

Conclusion: its more of a wrong sexual orientation, passed down from generation to generation.

To be a woman is not all about sex. There are many women with a lot of sex to offer, there are not a handful with GUTS.

In fact, from the original purpose of the woman, sex wasn't in the picture. If I remember right, even the Bible said "help meet" before "reproducing and filling the earth", is there any pastor in the house!!!!.

SEUN,i know say na you be owner of this site,but, now you dey speak like ADVISER TO THE PRESIDENT FOR WOMAN AFFAIR,
abeg,let those girls know, so them go learn their lesson, afterall, WOMEN PLENTY PASS MEN.