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smilingjee
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It is generally believed that men can’t wait for sex: I think there is more to it than that. We all have a part to play here the following could as well be contributing factors:
Television adverts: what we see in adverts about ladies is highly suggestible and depicts them as sex objects. This does not only strengthen gender stereotypes but sends ideas and pictures to the males who just sit back and relishes such thoughts. u'll readily agree with that such repeated exposure to sexist ads is a contributing cause of treating them as sex objects and when a guys turns to a lady for a relationship he expects not to wait for sex.
Environment: we live in a country where men are depicted as success object and action figures and women as sex objects. That’s why in a relationship the general idea is that the guy has to spend and the girl reciprocates with sex. So when such idea or concept infiltrate into a relationship then what do u expect, the guy sees waiting for sex as meaningless.
Ladies: most ladies are to blame here, when in a relationship all they do is demand and contributes little or nothing to that relationship well if the guy sees that point of view in u then he has no option than to resort to having sex with u all the time.
But one thing still stands out, that in a relationship both parties know what they want and how to get it. If built on love and respect then sex is worth waiting for but if the opposite is the case then its up to u.
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Orikinla (m)
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Another sex topic and Kimba and Hot-Angel are already composing essays!
I went without sex for over seven years and ignored all my hotties.
Only guys and men who lack self-control cannot abstain from sex for weeks or years.
You can make love to your lover without sex and she can be even happier than the gigigi.
Before you know it, this thread will soon be longer than the journey from Shagamu to Ore.
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naija4life (f)
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Medical reserchers has proved that sex is very necessary for human longevity. In plain words, people that engage in constant sex are liable to live longer than their counterparts that abstain. Whaoh, health education can be atimes, hahahah  |
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BlackMamba (m)
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I'm moving beyond the sex part of this discussion. The respect we accord women in a relationship is the bigger picture for me. Love fades, Sex go stale, so ladies, you must strive for attributes that will sustain that respect and want in a man over time.
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Oba-j (m)
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because we re built like that
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henro4all (m)
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Well in my own, I believe every guy that love any girl to any extent I mean really love, will never ask her for sex so long as the guy trust the babe If na lie ask any bobo. Now listen I mean the babes let me tell you one secret any boy that ask or demand for sex during relationship do not truly love the girl. You find out that, that relation ship will not last because after sex the boy will not see you as any thing again and instead he will start looking for another adventure (the girls!). At most times, when the girl refuse him sex he will threaten to leave the girl and maybe the girl really love this guy and will not afford to loose him so all so has to do is to let him have sex with. Well if you ask me I think it is wrong to force a girl for sex. For example One girl in Lagos has a boy friend and the love this boy so much. So one day this boy demand for sex although the girl is still a virgin and she promised herself that any boy that will disvirgin her will be her husband but the insist that for the girl to pay for the things he has done for her, she has to have sex with him. An believe me she did not after a two weeks, the guy left her for another girl.  what a pitty!! |
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rawlings (m)
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Well like one love seminer i went to,omeone said that making love to a girl makes the relationship concrete,at least when a relationship is started wether the guy loves the girl or is being infatuated he desires to make love with the girl.My first girl freind,we stayed up to 3 months,i desired to have sex with her withing a month bkos she was so damn sexy but i was afraid that when i ask her for sex she might run and think that it was love making i had her for so i have to wait till i can't wait no more nand we made love,but we respected the fact that we are not in the relationship for sex,The relationship lasted for good 3 years but we had sex for only 7 times,how do u feel that.So i think making love is like a Salt in a dish,  i only blame guys that knows from thire inner mind that they go for girls for sex.Well i don't blame the girls to bkos some are afraid of lossing the bobo for another girl instead they give in, Well lets be moderate in love making and let it not control our affaires. |
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esoneek (m)
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omo , i throwaway maximum salute for some people here , see as them write long long epistles esp these female folks.I think i might post a topic sometime soon, '"Why are women so defensive when it comes to sex issues".my african kokonets make una no vex o.  |
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ajiboyet (m)
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LUST!!! That's all.
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bumbaby (f)
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First of all Girls contribute alot in relationships. 1.our emotion 2.i f u notice, when a guy gets into a serious relationship,he tends to be more level headed, so we contribute to making him a responsible man.
Yes I agree that in most relationships the guys contibute the money,but money isnt everything,us girls try to make u guys happy and by making u happy i don't mean sex. We try to look nice for u, we are always there for u when u need to talk or you need help. so i do not appreciate the fact that some of you think that girls don't contribute to relationships so the substitute should be sex
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Tixzydipsy (f)
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first of all, i want to comment on somn, and that saying that a relationship can not last without sex which is a lie , actually most of the relationships i know, when there is sex involved, there is nothing else to expect from the girl except sex, and guys stop blaming girls if u can't control yourself, waiting is a personal choice and not because you had sex with your girlfriend means there is nothing positive she can bring to ur life, you have already decided in your heart to believe she is all about sex and that is all u get,
and guys there are some girls that don't give a damn about what u have in ur pocket, only the materialistic ones, because we are pretty young and yet to build a life of our own, if a girl can not accept u for who u are, she can never accept you period, if she only loves u for what u've got in your pocket, what happens, God forbid, when it is all gone, what is left, but my main point is, it is all up to u to trust who u have , don't go into a relationship with a negative attitude because at the end of the day, there will be a self-fulfilling prophecy, i don't think sex is the most important part of a relationship becuz u don't get to develop who u are and at the end of the day it ends in disaster
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naija4life (f)
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LUST!!! That's all.
Roger that, aiiight  |
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Bigtee (m)
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Dicey one(this topic). I beleieve is a "understanding" thing. I believe its worth waiting, But if thats all the girl can offer, then the relatinship can't last, because "why buy the cow, when u can get the milk for free(or at least next to nothin)" but common, there is more to a relationship than sex, its all about focus!!knowing what u want.
Mind you some girls go for a relationship all for the sex.
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naija4life (f)
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Whether we like it or not, sex is very very important in any relationship so 4 those of u saying, wait tilllater or don't rush it. If you know at some time ur going to give it up him, then wait and allow da man go through such agony.  |
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cassidy06 (m)
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@kimba,
woher hast du das wort "kaput" becommt? Sprechen sie deutsch?
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naija4life (f)
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@kimba,
woher hast du das wort "kaput" becommt? Sprechen sie deutsch?
"NAZI ALERT" |
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Geolalisa (f)
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i don't want 2 believe that most of the guys in this site are so shallow minded like the guy that sent this topic.how can u say that the only thing a lady can give in a relationship is SEX,that shows that all u want in your relationship is SEX. shame on u!!! all i know is that so many of us out there can give a handful of ideas other than SEX.so my dear,spread your hands and feel the waters before u conclude.cheerio.
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naija4life (f)
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@Geolisa, why wont he think about SEX, what else is there to think about  |
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Pastev 1 (m)
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Well, all the option and opinion are ok, but I, PAPA-STEA observed that, sex is an evidence to prove for men about the amount of love a lady has.
You know, if there's love, a lady may even free her self very well and proper so as for you to know about the capacity of her love as the only contribution she can offer.
Meanwhile, that might not be the case, because if a girl loves you, she will like to share with any thing she had such as biblical discussion, educational support, and all other sort of contribution.
Finally, sex must be apply for the guy love's satisfactory. sex is must,
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naija4life (f)
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Well, all the option and opinion are ok, but I, PAPA-STEA observed that, sex is an evidence to prove for men about the amount of love a lady has.
You know, if there's love, a lady may even free her self very well and proper so as for you to know about the capacity of her love as the only contribution she can offer.
Meanwhile, that might not be the case, because if a girl loves you, she will like to share with any thing she had such as biblical discussion, educational support, and all other sort of contribution.
Finally, sex must be apply for the guy love's satisfactory. sex is must,
SEX IS A MUST PREACH!!!  |
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diddy4 (m)
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i can't say nothing much, but to all those that said "sex is required in a r/ship cuzz thats the only way a girl can show she loves", you guys are all perverts.
let me tell you one little thing about women. when they love, they are ready to die for you and sex is not what u need to know that a lady loves you.
guys that think all a girl has to offer is sex in a r.ship should rethink that statement because i think what u have is a fu*k mate not a girlfriend that you found based on love.
even if u must have sex, it shouldnt be seen as the only thing. you guys should stop thinking like bloody perverts for ones and think like men created for a purpose.
for those that say "girl" this, "girls' that, please knock it into your head that not every girl out their is a damn sex object; so when u making a point, put "some girls" and not "girls".
my mind.
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sirwebs (m)
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And when they give you the sex, they act as if they'v contributed more to the relationship.
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funmise (f)
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@ black mamba
Ve been following ur post n i noticed that u r talkin bout some other things that can d contributed into a relationship. what r d attitudes u r talking about.
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Geolalisa (f)
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naija4life,i can see u r really inlove with this new post,as far as i am concerned i hv made my point clear, is now left for u to do the right thing.safe.
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babadee (m)
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men don't wait because sex is an act while for women, (most women) its a sort of special event
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dennylove (m)
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Na waooooooooo,almost all the LADIES are BOILING UP to this topic, GUYS,what have you done to the ladies |
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Gentlebabs (m)
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Sex is an act which can be taught, perfected and enjoyed if its laws are followed.
Actually, most men cannot wait for sex these days cause they are not informed. Remember, to be uninformed is to be deformed. Matter-of-factly, statistics reveal that ladies mak themselves available for sex even before men ask. I am saying this because it has happened to me on two seperate occassions.
Let us remember that mosterous enemy of human 'AIDS', so let us wait till we are married, i you can't wait. Go get marred.
Cheers,
Gentle Babs.
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jimmiebone (m)
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i believe all what you guys have said are personal views, but i will like to say this: Girls that offers nothing but sex in a relationship have made men to generalise it to all women. Most girls these days have now resolve to giving sex to men even if the man in question doesn't want it at that time. They believe that will lure the girl to give them whatever they requested for from him. I think it's high time both sex (male & female) stand up to address this issue to help build more happy home in the future. Discuss this topic with a brother & sister today. One love  |
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DJ_DeBlaq (f)
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i believe all what you guys have said are personal views, but i will like to say this: Girls that offers nothing but sex in a relationship have made men to generalise it to all women. Most girls these days have now resolve to giving sex to men even if the man in question doesn't want it at that time. They believe that will lure the girl to give them whatever they requested for from him. I think it's high time both sex (male & female) stand up to address this issue to help build more happy home in the future. Discuss this topic with a brother & sister today. One love I actually agree with u, WELL SAID!!
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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@naija4life intresting could you tell me where you heard that from  |
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