Nurse In The Building: Sexual Health

Hi to everyone in Nairaland!!

I am a sexual health nurse currently working in a private clinic, and also in training to qualify as a family planning nurse practitioner. I signed up with Nairaland over a week ago and noticed the ammount of questions reguarding the sexual side of health, and how many there are. So I've decided to give free advice to anybody who has concerns, questions or even myths that need busting about sexual health (with disclaimer).

Hoping to hear from some of you!!

Hell Nurse,

Could you please advise if there is any permanent remedy to premature ejaculation, in this case the victim has suspected this since teens i.e being emotionally active for seconds without any female but just a thought,

Moreso, is there any negative effect to all this penis stimulating drugs being sold along the highway?

Reply to ollykay:

Premature Ejaculation (PE) tends to be commoner in most men (Especially younger men), which is not surprising, as there's a distinct tendency for it to improve with age. Men generally get better control as they grow older. Some men climax even before they enter their partner. If this is the case, then the victim in question may have the most severe type of premature ejaculation. In cases like these there are allot of ways to treat Premature ejaculation, I'm not sure about permanent treatment, as most of the treatments given are adapted, for example with training and techniques, and some with medication. Before a treatment option is offered, your problem must be diagnosed correctly by a professional Urologist. In general, practice and relaxation should help deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts to avoid becoming excited too fast. It is still important to seek consultation from a professional urologist, because they can then recomend methods or treatments that would best fit the description of his problem, as his case is a little more severe.

Personally I don't advise the purchasing of any Penis stimulating drugs along the highway (especially if it hasn't been prescribed), as sometimes, some of these drugs would not directly solve the problem.

Even when some of these medications consist purely of herbs or some chemicals, which they do not consider "harmful", there can still be interactions with other drugs. It is a mistake to think that some of these medications are healthier or will not cause any side effects, especially when some of the contents of those drugs, are not known. So it's always advisable to seek medical help in cases like these, as these professionals can prescribe/recomend better treatment or drugs, which best suits the problem!!

Replay to MyPeace:

Your welcome!!

in case if it ever happened again, which I doubt, you might want to try using water soluble lubricating gels, as water soluble lubricants do not interfere with the natural PH balance in that area.

Reply To Libra38:

Hey Libra!, I'm guessing your a guy concerned about his lady right? (Well from what I've been reading lol)
For me to better understand the problem, does this "whitish" discharge come before, during, or after intercourse, and does she have any discomfort, or any itching down there?

Reply to Libra38:

In that case,
This discharge is actually a natural form of lubrication produced in the vagina. The cervix produces a moist solution, the secretion flows down the walls of the vagina, lubricating it on the way, also special glands called the "Bartholins glands", produces extra lubrication. It's purpose is to reduce painful friction during intercourse. When the female is sexually aroused, this discharge during intercourse, can be released in minute quantities at a time, and it's clear and has a slippery consistency. But when highly aroused, a more denser discharge is released and the colour appears more white, and a tiny bit more thicker, the consistency is also slippery. Might not look sightly against pubic hairs but it is meant to make intercourse for both you and her more comfortable!!.

As a teenager I never had or suffered painful periods,i could jump as high as i wanted,stretch and move about without knowing i was having a period. Then my mid twenties heralded a new begining in my menstral cycle,there was a time my periods went for 9 good months.I wasnt even having sex at that time.But believe you me, the pains I experienced for those months were out of this World and out of body experiences. The GP gave me some strong pain killers and advised me to take two when the pain gets unbearable. My people i was poping those pills like M and M's. It felt like my insides were being pulled out with a hanger like that scene in  the other side of midnight by Sidney sheldon. During this period I went for all manner of tests. There was one I went for that a rod like device was inserted into my privates with a gel and i could see my insides and from what the nurse told me I had a polycystic ovary. There were little rosary beads sort of growths around my ovary(s) Cant make rememebr if it was one or two. Anyway after this excruciating months, on a summer's day while poping food into the mirco wave my period decided to make an appearance.

I jumped and was pleased, the pain only subsided, and i still take pain killers.
Sex has been in the cooler for quite a while now, but when it happens and an  overly enthuisatic thrust hits  the wrong place, every sense of pleasure dissipates. The pain is left to linger on. I take personal health seriously, was thinking of going for a pap smear. How help ful will that be and of what use to the situation.

Dear nurse:
Is it normal to have a backflow after sex?ie,Sperm flowing out of virgina after sex,and how can it be prevented?

@Nurse
What are the risks/benefits of ovarian cysts with regards to sexual reproduction?.

Hello, please can you help me calculate  my ovaltion day cos i need to get pregnat
my last period is 11th of may -15th of may 2009

secondly any time i have i do have retrun after sex
i did HVS and the result is candidas alibans

pls help to translate dis i was given one tablet to insert into my private part for 6days today is d last day

does sex really improve body system

Welcome back nurse, Sorry about your arm. Thanks a lot for the 'pro bono' advice.
Was nice of you.

Reply to 9hmo:

Hey there! Yes I know it's a late, but I will still respond.
Most women will find that semen runs back down the vagina after intercourse, especially if they get up right away, due to gravity and muscle contractions within the vagina. The vagina is open-ended, so some of this fluid comes back out with a cloudy (thin), liquidy discharge, which may sometimes last for a few hours, and yup! it is perfectly normal.
Although I am typing this to you; you need to take on board that many sperm cells find the cervix and gets into the uterus to start their "egg hunt" within minutes, so this lets you know that some of the semen and the seminal fluid remains in the vagina. This also lets you know that if your not married, unprotected sex is always a risk, and you should make sure that you are ready for all the responsibilities that come along with being a parent (Sorry I had to break it down to you that way! ). You can't prevent semen coming back down, but you can prevent it altogether by wearing protection, also as a responsible adult, I find that it is sensible to discuss these kind of matters to the person you are involved with, it is always good to talk about things like these, because she might not know why things like this issue might happen, and she could feel embarrassed; so it's nice to be open and talk about it so that she knows that you are aware and that it's not something to be embarrassed about. I hope this helped. 

Reply to 9hmo:

If anyone has read this already, yes I have modified it 
Wow! Congratulations on your marriage! 
Counting between each of the dates you gave me, your wifes cycle is on an average of 32-33 days. The majority was 32 so I calculated the dates with a 32 day cycle. So here are the fertile dates for you and your wife! 

8th August 2009 to 13th August 2009
9th September 2009 to 14th September 2009
11th October 2009 to 16th October 2009
12th November 2009 to 17th November 2009
14th December 2009 to 19th December 2009.
Hope this helps.