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omorewa (f)
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You are still not getting the point, the topic says "Got Married To Him And Discovered He's Hermaphrodite" and my problem is why wait until i marry her before she tells me the secret?
If i was born with it then i will tell whomever i am with my situation and hopefully they will accept me the way i am and if not tough so they love me for me and no surprises.
Lying (not telling before they got married is classified as lying in my books as i want to belief i was conned into marrying a different person) brings serious distrust which tends to lead to major problems in relationships.
What will you do if you discover your husband is impotent the night of your wedding? I don't want you i will forgive bullshit. God forbid but will pray for his healing and build on faith. You said bullshitt again, so being impotent makes everything over. What about if you are woman and after you left him , he prayed and got delivered with 4 children and becomes one the richest in the country what will you do while with no husband at age 46. |
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onyinwanne
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it is sad to read people condem gay men . it is hypocritical not to accept wat we can not change.
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jay bee (m)
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God forbid but will pray for his healing and build on faith. You said bullshitt again, so being impotent makes everything over. What about if you are woman and after you left him , he prayed and got delivered with 4 children and becomes one the richest in the country what will you do while with no husband at age 46.
No point trying to enlighten you as you have proven beyond reasonable doubt that your religious belief will always override your albeit little common sense. |
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luxoire (f)
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wettin you dey waste your typing energy? @Jaybee
don't you know reason and other people's opinions can never find their way through in the face of fundamentalism?
unless you get power to dey repeat yourself - you have said your piece and made your point
it is either taken aboard as another opinion to be viewed or tossed aside
as for me i have said my piece true to myelf
variety is teh spice of life - so a chaqu'un ca vie!!
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nethacker (m)
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i dont knw y religous bigotry will attract so much importance wen reality of life is being faced  .A hermaphrodite kept this from u and u still believe in love? . love nonsense!!!!  .For me oo.If a lady lie to me and i find out on wedding day,then she will make me believe that our love frm inception was not built on solid foundation of trust and sincerity. i will ----------->>>>>>> find an exit door immediately<<<<<<------------ The reason y we marry is for procreation.Even the pastor for the church wouldnt have joined them together if he had known this fact,  |
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omorewa (f)
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No point trying to enlighten you as you have proven beyond reasonable doubt that your religious belief will always override your albeit little common sense.
little common sense pshh, pls dont run away and answer my question. wettin you dey waste your typing energy? @Jaybee
don't you know reason and other people's opinions can never find their way through in the face of fundamentalism?
unless you get power to dey repeat yourself - you have said your piece and made your point
it is either taken aboard as another opinion to be viewed or tossed aside
as for me i have said my piece true to myelf
variety is teh spice of life - so a chaqu'un ca vie!!
stop compromising your christianity be real |
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tpiah
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tales by moonlight. OP why not tell the one about the guy who married a woman that used to be a man.  |
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Busy_body (f)
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it is sad to read people condem gay men . it is hypocritical not to accept wat we can not change.
Hmmn, we don come again  |
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spikedcylinder
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You got stuck with an "herma"? You lucky sod!
Whats wrong with a bit of both worlds eh? In fact I think you're even bragging sef, trying to rub it in our faces. 
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Igwe.
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no two ways about it, seek for divorce, secretly! 
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skyone (m)
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LWKM
meaning plz |
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spikedcylinder
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Laugh Wan Kill Me.
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omorewa (f)
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no two ways about it, seek for divorce, secretly! think plz |
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skyone (m)
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tales by moonlight. OP why not tell the one about the guy who married a woman that used to be a man. well if you've transformed yourself into a woman (batti) you are free to post the process on nairaland and will surely give our opinion. Cow |
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topup
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What that would mean to me is that I married a man who either;
a) Loved me too much and was too afraid to tell me, so he omitted to tell me,
b) Was happy concealing the lie so that he could get married to a woman who was very much in love him, hoping that the love she claims and the bond of marriage will prevent her from leaving him, forcing her to work on the marriage.
If such a situation happened to me then I would be more upset that he didn't tell me earlier, I might have strong suspicions that he could also be hiding things from me. To honour the marriage, I will give it my best shot, but first I would have to know if he was fertile, that would be a huge deciding factor, also I would advocate surgery to remove or close the female part.
It's not worth all the hastle, if any woman stood by a man like this, I am sure he would feel indebted to her, which isn't an ingredient of a healthy relationship.
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Outstrip (f)
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I will not stay. He was dishonest. He should have told her about it so she can decide if she would be willing to spend the rest of her life with him.
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posakosa (m)
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^^^^^^^This obsession is serious oooh Mrs Crackles
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LadyT (f)
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How can he have both male AND Female genitals? isnt one internal?
Someone like that has no right to decieve people. Its like keeping your HIV status secret.
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bluespice (f)
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i was about to reply but i took the dignity of reading replies first.
poster, your translation of religion has beclouded your reasoning and so, i'll not post anything here
and yes i'm a christian
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