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TheSeeker (m)
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@Debosky
I agree with you 100%. You just represented my exact opinions and doubts about the girl. I often ask why girls are like this anyway.
@Poster
It might not be what you want to hear but I sense your girlfriend is on to some games right there. How could she have been comfortable enough to go into a legal binding with you but not down with telling you her ordeal at 17 until now? Why did she wait so long?
Why the sudden urge for sex? Where is that coming from? I think she's trying to plant something on you. I do understand you love her but she's either lying to you or trying to test your faith in her --- more so to find out if you are into her because of her virginity status but I highly doubt that because she's trying to have sex with you. It's true that some girls don't know what it is like when they are virgin or not, but come on, what's with the hidden secret? In my opinion, it's one of the fundamental things she should have told you as long as she was able to tell you she's a virgin-- that was the next thing she should have said(Just as a woman would tell a man she has a kid)
You should be able to apply some intelligence in this regards and work your way through this mess or if you can't handle the pressure have her see a gynecologist and the rest is easy but in what light will she see you if actually the doctor certifies her a virgin? What do you intend to do if she isn't certified a virgin? Let me add that "fingering" can't and will never break a virginity. My point is you'd find out why she's lying and not dwell on the sanctimonious wish that she's a virgin
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topup
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Ooooooh, now that I've read the story I understand.
If I was in her position I would say that I was a virgin, because there are so many different technicalities. She has never had intercourse so under some definitions she is one, however, the finger may have broken her hymen (if it hadn't already been broken), after all not every woman bleeds.
It gets harder and harder to tell if a woman is a virgin, but to be honest, there was never really a definite technique, I feel sorry for all the women who were virgins but because they did not 'produce' the blood were cast out as whores and liars.
Back to the original topic, yeah it's possible to be a virgin and be unsure, sometimes people consider you one if you've never had intercourse, whilst others insist on the hymen being in tact.
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topsy25 (m)
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When are our ladies going to put an end to their deceitful nature    From the story, it is very very clear that this lady is NOT a virgin. First, her sudden question of whether he wanted to marry her because of her virginity is very suspicious. Why didn't she ask the question 5 years ago or better still be4 they went to registry Secondly, y the sudden rush to UK for sex Sex she didn't want to have 2 years ago  Tell me something else. From my point of view, this girl could not hold her body and has eaten the forbidden fruit Worst still, she might be pregnant for the sharp dude and want to push the pregnancy to this innocent virgin. Daughters of Eve  @poster, you'll be better off without this deceit of a lady. In marriage open truth can not be exchanged for anything. |
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Romeo4real (m)
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@Poster - Unfortunately, there is not a lot u can do, as u are already married. It is impossible to know what her motives her for telling you this story at this stage, but we can safely err on the side of caution, and say it is extremely "fishy" to say the least.
I always say, when in doubt, take the worst option - This means that you have to accept the possibility of infidelity.
Definitely do not engage in sex with her at this stage - she may be trying to tie a pregnancy to you,or evn the so called "lost" virfinity.
Be extra cautious, and vigilant like you've never been been before. Check and double check things you have never checked before. Remember - It takes a monkey to catch a monkey. If she is doing, or has done anything, there will always be signs. You do not need to see "hard" evidence to prove something has happened, all you need are the "signs".
Also, you may never be able to prove infidelity, but you can at least show her that u are not stupid, and will not be taken for a ride.
Best of luck.
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finemocha (f)
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i know i shouldnt laugh but your story is very funny. chicks are soooo interesting. well ummmmmmmmmmmmm yeah im not sure what she is either. she technically might still be a virgin clinically, but spiritually she isnt.
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Druss (m)
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she is funny - has she had sex and is now tryin to redefine her statement or find an experience to protect herself for when u penetrate and find out that she is 'loose'
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pureminded (m)
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E ya a , Oma se O  |
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