Should Married Men Have Single Female Friends

Please NL,

I want to know if married men are allowed to have female friends.

Please candid opinion please, no jokes.

@izeek,

I dont see anything senseless there because if you say he is a grown man or collleague all  does your excuse, but why are they always agressive when their female counterpart has male friends and they start suspecting you having sexual relationship with them.Are we not all human.

no every guy is so pls stop generalising. Quit hanging out wit bullies and babies and try real men.

I would suspect most people posting here are not married, so they cannot really claim to understand the issue. This is a valid and highly sensitive topic amongst married couples - especially as it goes both ways.

This issue is always about 3 things - Insecurity - fear of losing something you value, Reassurance - Need to have confidence restored and apprehensions dispelled, and Control - Desire to exert influence over your life, relationship and circumstance. These are all normal things to feel, want and seek in your relationship.

A married man, or woman must thread a very fine line between all three - Trying to understand the insecurity, offering the  reassurance the partner seeks, and balancing their need for control of their circumstance, against the partners.

Bottom line - If your friendship with the opposite sex causing an issue in your marriage, you need to re-asses those friendships and implement some changes. A good marriage is more important than any friendship - At least that's the way its suposed to be.

The poster must have scooped this topic from the article below:

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/user-post-should-married-men-have-single-female-friends-482337/

@Izeek - U don't have to be married to know how u "want" your family to be, but u do need to be married to understand that the realities are often quite different. In a marriage, you don't always get what u want, and if you do, it's not necessarily the way you want it. This is where the work is in the marriage.
A Girlfriend is not a Wife, and as such the responsibilities and expectations are totally different. The realities of what u "want", solely based on YOU, and what u "get", based on YOU and your WIFE, are totally different.

These are a different set of circumstances,with different responsibilities and expectations. Only a foolish man will not have different policies. Even girlfriends who are not yet ready for marriage will reject the responsibilities expected of a Wifey if imposed upon them.

If you read my post properly, it says - If your friendship with the opposite sex is causing an issue in your marriage, you need to re-asses those friendships and implement some changes.
Surely this must be reasonable advice for anyone.

Yes, for men like u who let their wives have male friends without any boundaries - all b'cos of "trust".  Trust has very little to do with this, as part of it is an illusion we create to feel better; Yes, u can partially trust someone based on their actions - the rest, u have to manufacture urself. This is the illusion.

i wu love nothing more to answer this postbut my attention is far more divided as it si, and i know i wont be giving my all.

not to go without a say,
i dont believe the girlfriend is diff from a wife.
this is the same l;ady u dated for years exclusively.
what difference does that now have against a wife.
is she now a mrs cos she has to change her whole view from when she was  a miss.

now the reason why your marriage will not go the way its supposed to, is csos
they lady u took some many years to court andunderstand, now meets a brand new man in the house with brand new set of rules,
cos she is married.
i tot the only way to make your marriage last, is to be the same dude/lady u were when dating.
marriage only becomes burdensome cos we allow it.
am not saying there are no challenges in marriage,
there are also challenges in r/s too, but how u manage or handlethem matters.


yes about your friendship with the opposite sex coursing some kindarift bwt u nand your spouse,
u def have to reconsider.
but we all know no body goes jealousing if they dont have good reason too.
u must have had a past to trace such issues with, or some kinda closeness or bond is beggining to form btw u and your friend.



if ther was need for extra experience before u went into marriaqge, am sure we wud have seen it written somewhere.


so your being married dear dont mean u have soo much authoority on how to handle things.
a much younger boy would handle his home better than u do.

they key is understanding.

@romeo,
am sure u wud know dat right?

Should Married Men Have Single Female Friends: It's irrelevant. You don't choose your spouses friends ( Male or female) and neither does he do the same for you.

Being a girlfriend and a wife are definitely very different (even it you're still with the same guy!) - perhaps its a status thing or expectations on both sides but when the ring slips on the finger I believe it all changes - FOR BETTER by the way!!!

@OP - its okay for your husband to have female friends in my opinion - as long as they don't overstep any boundaries and as long as they are not being hidden from you.