My Husband Says I've Changed From the Person I Was

Alheri, It's funny how you always call "that thing" wrestling. I'm trying to picture a husband and his wife wrestling...makes me

Early morning is always the best!
Especially after a morning shower,it da BOMB!!
All this women them go dey form like sya them nor like wrestling
minwhile,them like am pass us,see them yeye gals!
lolol

I tire for Warry boy oh! Anyway, na so them dey yarn.......

Abeg gals before you people start the confederation of nigerian wrestlers -- I hope say referee dey there to seperate when the fight come tough.
Alheri,
am happy to hear about your love-filled weekend. Happy birthday n advance to your baby.. are we invited for the wacking and licking?
Fabian,
how far now.. the bachelors are seeking for more lectures on this wrestling thing abi, have you gotten PHD? help please.

Ok.. now to the reason why I asked those questions..

there have been several topics raised, and many a post on the issue of pre-marital sex... especially as it regards the "appropriateness" of it... Or as it regards both partners getting to know one another on a very deep and personal level.. more or less getting to understand the nature of their partners and their needs and requirements..

I now went through the posts on this very thread with these thoughts in mind.. Would it have possibly helped that partners get to know themselves on such an intimate level before tying the nuptial knot?..
Or would such intimate knowledge prove to be the undoing of such a potential relationship??..

In addition...

For marriages where sex was a very minor (albeit "unimportant") issue, would you hold the husband to blame if he wasn't as interested in sex as the wife, since that was not one of the main attractions which he considered when choosing his wife to be.. All things considered, most of the sentiment from many posts and discussions on this topic point to the direction that most people consider pre-marital sex wrong (for a variety of reasons)...

Most responses and sentiment favour the situation where the man is "patient" regarding sex before marriage, and also expect that after marriage, the man automatically transforms to the insatiable sexual beast willing to wantonly transfer all his agression to his newly wedded wife.. (I'm sure here the "wrestling" metaphor comes in quite handy..  )..

This I believe is an illusion perpetuated by those that want to make their point about pre-marital sex being proper.. Hence playing to the concept of man "hunting" down his prey (woman), while she teasingly, tauntingly and temptingly avoids being caught until she eventually becomes ensnared by his charms and agrees to marry him.. the "anticipation" of the final capture providing the mystique and setting the mood for the nuptial night..

Now in the case when a man and woman get married, and the man doesnt consider sex, and all its trappings (the cuddling, the kissing, etc etc..), an important ingredient of a successful marriage, would the man be at fault??.. Especially since it wasn't that "important" an issue prior to marriage..

Please note here I'm not refering to instances where the man is impotent, or a closet homosexual, or not a loving and providing husband.. Just one in which he doesn't necessarily consider sex that important..

Your views would be appreciated.. 

chillin: I don't really understand what's 'wooing' you.  He only asked a question!

Yes, a man that refrains from premarital sex can be a sex machine:
- A sex machine that has a pause button.
- That is, a sex machine that won't start wrestling other women whenever the wife is unavailable.

If your husband says you have changed, then you have!

Congrats on your weekend rendezvous!

Star, is it something you ate? You've been making me chuckle ever since you logged in!

@Alheri
I believe by now u and your husband had made up for good. I am cock sure the sofa wrestlings can't be for just fun alone but for the betterment of the marriage (if possible for Junior's sake  ). Thanks so much for sharing with us and thanks again for been REAL (yourself), I respect a woman that is always herself and not some of these ladies here that will tell us they are virgins, meanwhile they are not Vaaaa let alone virgin
Congrats for your daughters birthday. I wish her a happy birthday in advance. I promise to send my gift to her through this thread.

@Fab
Thanks so much for your advice and I think as from now on, I will always give u a due respect, afterall, to be a Ph D holder in Marriology, isn't moimoi. Congrats for the three years of marriage in advance.

@Star
I gbadun you, u always make me 

Congratulations on your weekend rendezvous, and your daughter's birthday!

@loveth.

 hi there.........i agree with seun u  know u really have to devote time for your husband before he starts misbehaving  at least then u can take fabians advice but for now u really have to  watch things u do at least towards him now that he can say that  ure changing.

alheri is about three to four weeks after the birthday bash and you have not fulfilled your promise. My sister, I can't wait to see those pictures.

Ciao.

How was your weekend?

my brother am so sorry about that. Ive been so busy, you know how christmas period is. Ive been working even saturdays, so ive not been able to get the pictures scanned yet. Will post asap!

of cause its for everyone!