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kimba (m)
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Hi Guys n' Gals in the house, this is difficult for me to decide whether to get married to her or not.
Qualities
1. She's very pretty
2. Intelligent
3. Caring and loving
4. She's God-fearing
Defect
1. She can't cook
2. She's not from my tribe
3. We are of the same age
4. She doesn't know how to make love.
What would u do if it were you. Please be sincere. eh yah, I'm so sorry for you. If you have gotten to the point of marriage in life and you are just discovering that she Defect
1. She can't cook
2. She's not from my tribe
3. We are of the same age
4. She doesn't know how to make love.
What would u do if it were you. Please be sincere.
You have wasted your time. So you mean all the while SHE WAS YOUR GIRLFRIEND, you never asked her about her age/ her tribe or whatever? You are funny. I think youre the one who has a 'Defect', not the girl. |
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kaecy5 (m)
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Hi Guys n' Gals in the house, this is difficult for me to decide whether to get married to her or not.
Qualities
1. She's very pretty
2. Intelligent
3. Caring and loving
4. She's God-fearing
Defect
1. She can't cook
2. She's not from my tribe
3. We are of the same age
4. She doesn't know how to make love.
What would u do if it were you. Please be sincere.
you're just trying to generate excuses to convince your self that you're right so u can leave the girl the excuses u wrote are nothing 1 she cants cook- teach her or pay for her to be taught 2. not from your tribe- u can't say u did not know about that from the begining. what has tribe got to do with love u better grow up maybe ur lilly livered to contest her with ur parents  3. u are of the same age. what of guys that marry girls older than them, as long as she respects u then what 4. she can't make love. then u also teach her. most girls that are God fearing as u say don't really know how to u teach them and they become gurus- if she was extra good in bed u would give it as an excuse that she has tendencies to be sleeping around then u wont still want to marry her fromt he qualities u have listed about her 1 it is difficult to see a beautiful girl that is God fearing caring loving and intelligent. think about your children would she be a good mother? i klnow she would so teach her the other thigns and i bet u u woul dnever regret it be a man for once u sound childish how old are u if i might ask, because she outscaled the basic requirement of a woman maybe ur still a student shey? |
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whitelexi (m)
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For me, it matters oh! Good food is something a woman should be able to prepare and my wife will be no different. Infact, her cooking will make me admire her more, because it is the fastest way to a man's heart  |
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Seun (m)
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Well it's not the fastest way to my heart, so all men are not the same. (If food was the fastest way to my heart, I'd be going out with those girls at Mr. Biggs) What I have to say about this: - If your fiancee is not a professional cook, hire one. If she wants to learn, then teach her. - If your fiancee is not a whore, then hire one at a motel. Otherwise teach her how it's done. - The other things you've mentioned are ridiculous. Do us a favor and dump her on our appreciative laps. See also: If Your Wife-To-Be Can't Cook |
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sisisisi (f)
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my advise Grow up and learn to face ur responsibilities as a man. Has she refused to be taught how to cook? U didn't talk about the effort u put in to teach her and by that,u mean,u don't care because u have already made up ur mind to jilt her. SEX?  ?? hm hm hm. Teach her dude,She is ur wife -to- be so do the job and be glad u found someone innocent and stop watching porn movies.They'll destroy u and ur marriage in no time. |
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tianshie (m)
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@topic Like everybody said dude you ought to get your head re-wired Anyway I know a good replacement for her, but this girl doesn't like men who gripe,so I guess,things won't work out,sorry.  |
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Pain
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Then I Guess U R Left With Nothing.
Summation of all Variables(Qualities, Defects)=0;
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mrmayor (m)
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Seun, Well it's not the fastest way to my heart, so all men are not the same.
(If food was the fastest way to my heart, I'd be going out with those girls at Mr. Biggs
Holy Moses,so you have a sense of humour?  this is most revealing.Just when I thought I knew Almighty Seun,you come out and suprise me! Emmyz, I thought the Tribalism thing is over in Nigeria! I guess I was wrong.I have dated women who are not Nigerians or even black and I now know that It Takes Two To Tango.If you want to dump the girl please don't use the excuse that she is not from your tribe,you knew that from the very beginning,she probably turned down men from her "Tribe",because she Loves You. , She can't make love! Nobody is born a lover.In my experience,what I knew and how I performed sex now is way different from what I did 10 years ago.I've had a few "Teachers" along the way.If you don't communicate with your girl what you like about sex and don't like,it will end in disaster. She can't cook.brother pu-leeze  Even if she cooks like a Chef,fu-cks like a Pornster and comes from your village,it doesn't guaranty that there is Love in the air and you would be happy |
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hustler (m)
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@ Seun Nice 1.u had me laffin my ass off.lol. @Emmyz Don't u think the good qualities are far more useful than the defects u pointed out??? If not then i think the ideal one u r lookin for is a girl who's 10 years old, from ur village,who wants to make a career out of owning a "BUKA" and being a professional pornstar abi.lol.A lot of men would die for ur girl's qualities I love Nairaland and i mean it. |
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soulpatrol (f)
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na wa o. some guys are just looking for ready-made girlfriends/wives sha. whatever happened to just teaching someone what they don't know how to do? nobody is born with the complete package now. if she no sabi cook, teach am. just because she's a woman doesn't mean she came into this world knowing how to cook or because it is expected of her. sheesh! nigerian men! |
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chistiana (f)
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you're just trying to generate excuses to convince your self that you're right so u can leave the girl the excuses u wrote are nothing 1 she cants cook- teach her or pay for her to be taught 2. not from your tribe- u can't say u did not know about that from the begining. what has tribe got to do with love u better grow up maybe your lilly livered to contest her with your parents 3. u are of the same age. what of guys that marry girls older than them, as long as she respects u then what 4. she can't make love. then u also teach her. most girls that are God fearing as u say don't really know how to u teach them and they become gurus- if she was extra good in bed u would give it as an excuse that she has tendencies to be sleeping around then u wont still want to marry her fromt he qualities u have listed about her 1 it is difficult to see a beautiful girl that is God fearing caring loving and intelligent. think about your children would she be a good mother? i klnow she would so teach her the other thigns and i bet u u woul dnever regret it be a man for once u sound childish how old are u if i might ask, because she outscaled the basic requirement of a woman maybe your still a student shey? I think this guy as just given u a good advice, on how to move on with ur future, ur future is so Important and well enjoyed when u have a wife that cares so much about u, a wife that's God fearing, A Mother who will teach ur children and leads them to the way of the Lord. @ emmyz, don't ever think of living this Virtuous woman cause she dosnt know how to cook or she doesnt know how to make love. why don't u seat and think, if u don't have sex for some month will u die. cause u want to satisfy ur own pleasure, then i think u must be selfish. U have more life to live and more things to do for ur self not start thinking about cooking and sex, ( I think u don't Love her cause if u do u, u wont start thinking of that shit. |
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Busta (f)
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the fact that u're both of the same age makes it a defect?
How?
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frankiriri (m)
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Well it's not the fastest way to my heart, so all men are not the same. (If food was the fastest way to my heart, I'd be going out with those girls at Mr. Biggs) What I have to say about this: - If your fiancee is not a professional cook, hire one. If she wants to learn, then teach her. - If your fiancee is not a whore, then hire one at a motel. Otherwise teach her how sex is done. - The other things you've mentioed are ridiculous. Do us a favor and dump her on our appreciative laps. See also: If Your Wife-To-Be Can't CookSeun, I feel u. Cooking and sex are not as important as understanding in a long term relationship. ( Though I'll personally prefer to forgo food than sex). For me its how she treats me that matters. Serve me saw dust lovingly and I'll eat it and leak my fingers. Serve chicken peri peri in an off hand manner and I wont like it. Sex with someone whose heart is not the relationship is not my thing. I may as well paying for it. My guy teach the babe |
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katherinae (f)
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God fearing
that should matter hte most she gets a posittive there
bad cook, ur mother will teach her well so its amendable.
bad lover, well kamasutra from barnes' and nobles, amendable.
age mate, u guys get along great, unless u want a younger girl who is immature, and u can boss around.
different tribe, well has it been workin so far, seems like it if u want to marry her, trust me in this day and age, it's workable.
You, it depends whether or not u love her, personally she seems like a catch, u two can work on ur problems together
she could easily say that u suck in bed because u can't be a man and take charge, or u have lousy taste buds because u don't enjoy her cooking, or because ur tribe is inferior to hers she should dump u, or she needs a more mature and successful man who is older.
so dear dear think things true really hard before u make this decision
I was sold on God fearing
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davidylan (m)
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Hi Guys n' Gals in the house, this is difficult for me to decide whether to get married to her or not.
Qualities
1. She's very pretty - Any guy would wish to be in your shoes right now
2. Intelligent - Many guys wont mind switching places with you
3. Caring and loving - Excellent
4. She's God-fearing - You've got a gem
Defect
1. She can't cook - teach her
2. She's not from my tribe - when you were "toasting" her, didnt you know?
3. We are of the same age - And what problem is that? Like i said earlier, where you not aware when you were professing to love her before?
4. She doesn't know how to make love. - Neither do i! She can learn! Infact girls who don't know how to make love are the best, they can be easily taught what you want them to do!
What would u do if it were you. Please be sincere. - I would assume you had found someone else you like or cheated with and you're grasping at straws to justify dumping your girlfriend! If i were you i'd go beg the poor girl to find a better man, men like you are not responsible enough to be married!
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penmoveh (m)
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@emmyz wellu have heard it all for me i think u already have it in ur mind not to be faithful yo her so u need an excuse that will make u to dumpo her but if i were in ur shoes like u have heard men this present day nigeria INTER TRIBAL MARRIAGE is fast gaining ground so wake up and more with it COOKING u say she can't what about u do u cook better than her SEX my brother is not the world there aremore to gettingmarrige than just humping ur wife all day look at the bright side u have a nice cool lady and u want to throw her because of what u think. MY ADVICEEMMYZ be A REAL MAN because u have a rare germ in ur hands  |
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dominobaby (f)
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Me thinks you don't even care for her let alone love her, all these excuses are down right flimsy and i guess you are try to justify your move of jilting her. Grow up man, you don't deserve her, And in later relationships, you had better work on yourself, because you don't seem like one who's ready to help a mate!
Gosh, you dated her this long and its just dawned on you you are age mates and she's from a different tribe? Abeg!
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Radiant (f)
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I would assume you had found someone else you like or cheated with and you're grasping at straws to justify dumping your girlfriend! If i were you i'd go beg the poor girl to find a better man, men like you are not responsible enough to be married![/color]
Damn!!! |
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nay_low
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Just as you have highlighted all your fiance's faults so would she have a few or maybe even more uncertainties about you. But a question bro, was this an arranged relationship? I ask this because you make seem as if you've only just realised her defects.
If she is lacking in some areas then teach her. You say she is bad in bed but more often than not a man who is a good lover can bring out the freak in his woman. This problem may be her fault after all but yours.
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kkutecolo (f)
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y don't u just come out right with d fact that u've found another girl? am sure u were aware she wasnt from ur tribe before u asked her out, so also her age. what the heck about her cookin anyway? u guys can get a cook or sumtin, then she will sure learn. bad at sex? . respect her and wait till u are married, den u can teach her because i don't agree wid sex before marriage.
wait guy, did u propose to her, as in , ask her to be ur wife. ur answer deternines what i think.
flimsy excuses, i think. be wise because a bird at hand is worth two in d bush, so d saying goes.
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omogenaija (f)
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what does not knowing how to cook and sex have to do with the love that u have for her, if ur love is true then u must find a way to make things work,
anyways @ least u realised the problems before she becomes ur wife , good luck
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tinard (m)
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Do us all a favour especially your fiancee and dump her. She's better off without you. You don't sound intelligent or matured enough to be a husband let alone a father
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luvlexxy
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Well you listed 4 Qualities to her credit and 4 to her Defects, fine:
when called upon to open up her own side of the story, I am almost so certain that she would have only 2 Qualities to your credit and those are EATING & SEX DEMANDING, but 20 or more to your defects ranging from been selfish, to tribalistic, coward, egostic, unfaithful, unromantic, inconsiderate, stingy, infact the lists are endless,
and guess what Brother she still accepts you with a positive believe that you will change with time just because of the unconditional L-O-V-E has for you, did u feel the same for her?
It would be wise of you to broaden your mind and start thinking positive of her from this moment on if you are sure you are not already in another relationship.
Best wishes!
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nana (f)
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From what the author of this post wrote,it seems na only SEX and FOOD you want.
If u're hungry,why not go to the kitchen to prepare something for yourself?U can also teach her tho'.If u love this girl and want her to be a good cook(if u sabi cook yourself),just look for a way of teaching her,maybe,u both will prepare a meal together but u will be the chief cook.
If ur sexual activity aint satisfactory enough(if u active yourself),why not introduce some techniques to her(am sure she will be glad u did).
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PDF
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She does not know how to make love, ummmm!!!
She told u that? if yes, u believed? and posted this?
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U tried it and she didnt fare well? if yes? what's your definition of God-fearing as appertained to her.
oops!
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PDF
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it's kind of strange to accept the genuity of ur story if it's critically considered.
U called this gurl ur finacee. Not ur girlfriend.
Of course before she graduated to being ur fiancee, u had been friends and she later became ur girlfriend. And all along, u never considered her being of the same age with u or her tribe as a hindrance or threat to a probable matrimony between u two. I'm not sure who popped the question between the two of u, but if it was u, what were u thinking before u asked her to marry u? (or can i get a better definition for the word finacee?). Be real guy. u can pick up some veritable advice from the aforementioned.
wish u the best. u've gat ur choice to make if u can't cope with the defects u highlighted because u r not married yet.
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Proton (m)
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Did you all notice the poster disappear. Now, he is reaching for a pacifier(like a baby).
Men like this, makes a character like mine look questionable to a loving eye.
Am about to throw up.
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dominobaby (f)
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Oops! Lmao. please don't throw up proton. *between, seems you are new, welcome.*
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Proton (m)
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No. not too new. I just don,t post for the sake of posting. Or letting the keyboard be my brain like one poster I know.
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iice (f)
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Funny guy lol. All i can say in your complaints, what is your role? Was she supposed to come to you perfect? Or as a couple moving towards marriage, shouldn't you have helped her develop? Anyhow, its your wahala
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