Is It Ok To Sleep With your Partner In Courtship?

  @ThiefOfHearts
 Why u so worked up now?Try relax.
 Some peeps don't think it's ok to have intimacy in courtship n' u get all worked up.If u bother to check my first post in this thread all I said wz "No it's not ok" only to come back n'find all u free intimacy advocates tongue-lashing others who dared to dissent from your view.
 Mind u it's a free world;everyone's free to back their stance with facts n' if these facts happen to be religious what d'u have against that?
 What amuses me is the fact dt u keep shouting the words "hypocrites" to the high heavens.Girl take a chill pill.Are u 100% sure everyone's doin the exact opposite of what they say?U are not.Period.For anyone who's had even a cursory exposure to psychiatry courses in school it's easy to read btw your lines.

  Cee ya.

Thanks bolarge.

@ eddie, don't even try to start to justify a general thought or action with what you 'think' happened in the bible.

@naija4life

TOLD THEM

Yes!!

premarital intimacy is not good, not godly. but then its only the strong one that can hold to that, because feelings run deep and can't be held so u got to express what u think sumtyms. that includes wondering hw your to-be hubby or wify will be in bed. it depends on what u believe anyway. sum do it while sum stay away. we all pray 4 d grace to overcome temptations.

his good sense deserted him 'i was not trying to avoid u' he said huskily. 'if it seemed that i was- and i am admitting nth, u understand? perhaps it was because i find u too appealin?'
he did shock her now, he could see it in d face she lifted up to turn to him, but what the hell, he did shocked himself too and that was far more disturbing.
'you don't mean that' she said
'i do mean it', he said, ' u are berautiful and enchanting and i wudnt be a man if i don't find u desirable, mi amore
'
her lips parted then, and thogh he sensed  that she was uncertain of d good sense of what they were doin as he was, she didnt move away.instead she came a little nearer, her toes brushing his, those clear brown eyes searching his dark ones. almost involuntarily, it seemed, she lifted her hand and stroked the roughening skin of his jawline, and he could no longer control the instinctive hardening between his legs.
          ' so - do u want to kiss me?' she breathed almost inaudibly.
          ' cara ', he said hoarsely, and even then he thot he might av found the will to resist her.yet when her hand dropped to d open neckline of his shirt, . . . . . . . . . .  .

They going against the will of God.

There is time for everything, God who created intimacy had a reason for it. After courtship You will have enough time for intimacy even if you want it everyday.

intimacy during courtship brings pain and regret after the marriage. so beware

i agree with crazykid we are all humans and is blood that flows in our body.it takes GOD'S intervention for us not to.but if you can keep to that you will sail through.

Speak 4 urself.You're the reason why pre-marital intimacy is bad.Who told you everyone's afraid of gettin banned?O.K,me i'm not.I'm not gettin paid.get that into your skull.

Nor mind me oh! I'm neva serious. Who's seen Titanic?If Jack no cain that girl and he die like that,Na Hell fire str8!!!!! That's a good reason to do it on time

laughssssssss, i pity u.
bros,i wuld av bn pleased if your post was written based on your very personal blieve and understanding.
u sincerely nid not apologise to guyz in da houz coz "U R ON your OWN" (Oyo- lo- wa- men)
u n your babe go paka am out.

@topic,
its not encouraging.

and that is???  hey mp007,  wat r u still doing at this ungodly hr

According to the Bible, its sinful and i know the holy Quran too will say the same thing.
But, me im human, i cant wait till we get married.

Even now, i cant count the number of times ive slept with my her, but ill marry her by Gods grace.
Ill beg God for forgiveness

The first and most important thing is to keep the Bible out of the bedroom. The Bible is the worst of all evils when we are talking about sexual relationships and is responsible for most sexual hang-ups.

Marriage has nothing to do with a healthy sexual relationship either. We should replace the word 'marriage' with the word 'commitment'. Marriage is an old fashioned, out of date concept anyway.

If you are committed to one another, singing a few silly songs in a church, paying for all your relatives to gorge themselves o food and drink and wasting all your hard earned money on a silly dress is crazy. Most of all, btaining the all important Government license is meaningless and has the value of a piece of cheap toilet paper.

If you both feel like having sexual relations with each other there is nothing stopping you. Not even the book of fairy stories (The Bible) which after all was written by man to control man. Another crazy myth is that you need a marriage license to have intimacy with your partner.

Heaven and Hell are man made products used to manipulate your thoughts and control you. Listen to your own body, and if you would both like to have intimacy then there is nothing to stop you, not even the pathetic rantings of the many Bible bashing sin mongers contained within this forum.

After all, what you are about to do is the most natural and basic of all human functions. It has existed from the beginning of human kind (and not the 6000 years that the Bible would try and make you believe)

So close your ears and eyes to the rantings of man-made books and the bigotted beliefs of the blind and deaf brainwashed religious freaks.

Make beautiful love to your partner today, or maybe the whole day. OK, stay in bed the whole week and have a sensual loving and kinky time.

Can you think of anything else that gives so much pleasure and is for free?

Na Roving Reverend 

Anyhow I am fully for people doing what feels right. As long as you are not drunk or drugged, and are not doing it to use the other person, intimacy in a relationship should be about consent and emotional connection. Nothing to do with licence or ring.


@Siena - I hear you about the virgin claptrap. Like inexperience wins awards.

But your views on the holy books are not really well considered. You may detest how people use them but you cannot dispute the wisdom in them. You may not find some of it applicable to all situations but there is truth and wisdom therein nonetheless.

Why once in a blue moon? If you believe it's a sin (as an aethist, I don't) it's either 100% abstinance, or all the way. You're either a sinner or not, you can't sit on the fence as a partial sinner! 

"Legally authorized?" I don't get you - by whom?