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bondxie (f)
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Is it quite advisable to Kip your ex-lover as friend?
Cos I ve a load of them as friend after break-up and
nw my partner doesnt feel comfortable with it . As
for me i dnt c anytin wrong in it but i guess i have to
toll the line of my partner because i want er happiness
and mind you,am about walkin dwn the aisle with er.
What is your opinion?
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Free (f)
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well yes maybe they are not good boyfriend/girlfrnd but maybe a goof frnd i think theres no harm in keepin em as a friend  |
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ima1 (f)
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No because they are exes for a reason, and u shouldn't impose them on your new partner, its just wrong, if i stay friends with my ex, it will be on a HI - HELLO basis
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Free (f)
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ermm just because dey was your ex- don't mean noting it dnt mean ya'll cnt be good friends still |
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Nikegenius (f)
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Yeah, keep them as friends but plsssssssssss, not too close for your patmers comfort. She knows wot ladies are capable of doing so i understand her view. Just friends is OK for me. gives me a chance to let em know i have the best thing they cldnt handle.
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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nope cause in such situation its really hard to consider your ex a friend.
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bondxie (f)
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Hey guys! Where are You at?
your opinion count tooooooooo.
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kingjoe
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noo, don't keep them as friends but neither as enemies. i tried to keep but when i had a flashback on the good times and found her more beautiful than before ,i fell.we are humans .especially when you separated for trivial reasons
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candylips (m)
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u can be friends if you are both comfortable with it
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iice (f)
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u can be friends if you are both comfortable with it
Yup true that. Most of my ex are my friends, we still yan and gist till today. |
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sweetlinda (f)
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i think it a good idea but a fresh ex of mine can't be my friend thats for sure. i ll hate him too much for a friend
but give years i
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Freestyl (m)
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I think i'ts a welcome idea but depends on how good u people were
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LoverBwoy (m)
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Theres nothing wrong with having them as your friend especially if you broke up amicably But you shouldnt be seeing/visiting them as frequently as before, no long chat on the phone at night  Just explain to your wifey theres nothing there anymore  |
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joyblinks (f)
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as for me, there is no need keeping them as friends, because i feel anything can happen at anytime. u can make other friends elsewhere but not with your ex.
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tochi (f)
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Absolutely not! Because your ex once had a spot in your heart, you will always be vulnerable around them whether you believe it or not. Besides your ex should not have a place in your present relationship at all!
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chumas (m)
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I don't see anything wrong with having your ex as a friend. However if your current partner is uncomfortable with it then I suggest you keep them at arms length. I will not advice u to have anyone as your enemy, u never know who might help u some day. I once missed a connecting flight in Maryland and had to rely on my ex. She picked me from BWI (airport) and took me back to board my flight in the morning. You never know where u might need some one. If u however have some strong feelings for that person and u know it, then please DO NOT GO THERE!!!
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CheeMoney (m)
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For real o, everything is bad about it lets face the fact. Just friends line is an excuse for either the guy or the lady to want to eat their cake and still have it and also cheat on their partner. I have loads of experience on that. You once had a thing going reall good and for one reason or the other you both walked ways andit could even be for a flimsy reason. the point I'm trying to make here is that, the ex-factor doesn't stop the old flame from being ignited giving a favourable condition. Except that condition never presented itself. People, say the truth. I know some folks in here has done it for old time sake. Spill the beans people  But I no go lie o. Its soooooooooooooo sweet because it provide you a good time with someone your heart once or still melts for but this time with no strings attached. |
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og2711 (m)
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Of course its not right.1st of all,anything can happen,after all,they weren't always exes and breakup doesn't mean complete dissociation of feelings.I have flings with any of my exes i come across whether or not they presently have relationships as i know where to hit them.So it is with any ex.this person knew intimate things about you and can always use this to get to you.think about your girl hangin out with someone who used to give her orgasms and tell me if you'd be comfortable with i.Plus there are friends everywhere if na that one you dey find.It is necessary for a man to always define relationships with ANY woman he meets and you just can't do that with exes.CHURCH
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osegwu (m)
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There is nothing wrong with it if the intentions are pure and honourable.
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rhamz
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as long as u play safe & let d past be then there will be so much more u can achieve 2gether .but mind u it will take d grace of God 2 fight d temptations,  |
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katherinae (f)
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now bodxie at 30 i don't think u should even be asking that question ok. u know very very well that u shouldnt keep them whether or not u have a gazillion chiquitos or not do ya hear me. so throw away that little black book or donate it to some of your guy friends who are less shall i say lucky. since they arent married yet. |
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bondxie (f)
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@ katherine,
i ve spell it out clearly that i dnt c anytin wrong in it and
i guess it is not that bad to seek for opinion.So no vex if
we dnt share the same tots.
Anywa, thx all d same,
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diyobdw (f)
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No quams at all i still got intact communication with my ex'(s). Guidelines: Dont: share intimate gist about your current relationships run to them when my relationship has issues get friendly when they are with other girls no physicals- at least not more than handshakes, hugs & pecks Do: Get over the relationship Ensure you are on the same level of understanding -the past is in the past Be understanding Be blunt! Keep them close enough because they just might come in handy you got nothing to lose |
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babadee (m)
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@diyobdw
wells said!!!
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Radiant (f)
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It all depends on how we broke up. My current r/ship can't determine who I keep as a friend!
If my partner starts getting uncomfortable with my friends, then he might want to make another decision. My friends are more important to me than just a single guy. Except I'm married, then I can adjust a bit.
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crazykid (m)
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I don't advise that.
both of you have once dated so anything is bound to
happen. if you've got another lover, stick to that person.
concerning your past lover, you can still be friends, but avoid any form
of contact such as phone calls and unnecessary discussions,
co's anything can happen. you might just wake up one day and fine him/her
so charming and you won't be able to control yourself.
it happens we are all humans
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angeltolly (f)
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YEAH .Nothing is wrong with it. .IT SHOW UR MATURITY. YOU don't have to bone eachother 'because of the heartbreak
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iice (f)
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It depends on how you guys broke up, what were your feelings during the relationship and what were your feelings after breaking up but importantly its knowing yourself.
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naija4life (f)
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Dating an ex pal is very bad news. It brings back fond memories and gives room for comparison. Run away from it as fast as you can.  Know because been there  |
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choco4life (m)
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u cud b walking on a tight rope so beware,
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