Live-in-lover/loser

Is that why such relationships last longer than most marriages?

Personally I don't think I would do it because I like my space, like when my ex used to come over and visit me, sometimes it'D be several times in a day/week and I'D end becoming very irritated talkless of this person being in my face 24/7 because we live together, the only time I'll probably be willing to do that is when I'm ready to get married

However it works well for others and I admire that. Good for them, Why should anyone look down on others because of how they choose to live? such ignorance. Not everyone is obsessed with the concept of marriage like in Nigeria. You see those moronic females getting married to just anyone just because they need that marriage validation in their lives then they end up in a horribly hopeless marriage. It's pathetic.

Most guys don't like girls all up in their space all the time so if he actually allows a situation where you two live together, that usually means he loves you. Just because he doesnt immediately propose marriage doesnt mean he doesnt. Infact that's how most people are able to tell whether they are truly compatible in dealing with everyday things before they decide to get married.

If it's not for you, fine but it works for others so no they are not "losers.". The real losers are those who rush into marriage and end up regretting it.

i don't think its right to move in with ur boyfriend as a man not until u are married.because u are just dating.because every move he makes will bring suspicion.he may be working late but sine u are alone at home u start building up some crazy imagination that he is with a girl,but if u are with ur girls hanging out that time and he calls to tell u he will be home late.the company of ur friends will help u beleive him.when we are alone as humans we start thinking both positive and negative things about our lover but which stays?the negative or positive.and if both of u are true christains u know sex before marriage is against the will of God and it will be difficult to avoid sex because u both see your nakedness.i don't like to sound like a preacher but its the truth though.

@topic, its OK if ur partner lives in a house with many rooms and u can't afford a house in the city say New York/London
 
Seriously, i would not approve of a live-in lover  under normal circumstances, but if Yawa dey, Then maybe she can for a short while

what is "bride price" in 2006/2007? I'm confuzzled.

Um yea.

I don't believe the whole bride price/drowy rubbish is still being practiced however

u don't av 2 b a live-in lover 2 be a wife-material. just finished readin Pastor Bimbo Odukoya's new book-  The single life. She said"A man doesnt av 2 buy d cow when he can get milk 4 free" and i agree wit that.

 Thief of heart sorry o i thought this was naira land o maybe i skiped the dolar and euro named after naira that was why i talked about africa what you wont do don't advise or encourage someone else to do just because they feel comfortable with it if  its wrong then its wrong if it was a good thing to live in with a lover then the world wont have anything called marriage we all will just grow up and move in with the man we deire to be with for me oh i don't support live in lovers especially the babes as a ladymyself i believe there is dignity in marriaage .As you aid even married men bring in ladies or cheat on there wives at times but when this happens the woman wont feel ashamed or embarassed as will be the case of a free giver girlfriend.I only said babes who want true commitment should not stoop low to live with a man not bold enough to walk them to the altar. I will say this again and again I don't SUPPORT LIVE IN LOVERS.

David you sound like those crotchey old people who talk about the "good ol' days" and constantly complain about Western Civilization 

There was this couple, a celeb couple, can't remember the names right now, they've been living together for over 15 years, had children, all that, a year after they decided to go ahead and do the marriage then, they broke up. I remember finding that to be so weird

Anyway I believe marriage isnt for everyone so again, I'm not going to judge people based on what works for them. How is it affecting my life? In other words, people should mind their business

@ TOH

na me be crotchey old people?

Come online, i've got a few mins to spare. yeye girl!  

lmao @ wrongest.

I swear Nigerians have issues. The fact that they try to make people see things from their boxed mentality is always so funny. Why can't they just accept that not everyone considers things like you do? Is it really that hard?

Keep in mind that this man that you supposedly staying with in hopes he'D want to marry your ass can EASILY cheat after getting married or even decide to bring in another wife. EVER considered that?

yuck Catholicism 

@topic

don't think its right as well and like u said, women got more to loose than men in such relationships.

i strongly believe it's wrong to move in with a guy that you aren't married to. Ladies often come out losers. Many would attest to the after effects of such an action.

 mordern thief of heart why don't you wake up to the fact that no one is thanking you for understanding different people and their way of life most sane people know  that a wife is different from a live in lover so get the message and stop taking personal suggestions made by others you are not alone in this 21st century i bellieve the fact that people do it dosent mean they will encourage their sisters to do the same.people do it yes but it dosent make it right.

Why are all of u sounding self righteous?
will u marry someone you don't really know?
how many of u girls have not moved in partially or fully with your guys?
u are all protecting your turfs and playing holier than thou here
give some of us guys some space u loose big tyme.

lol