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Aderonke (f)
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i don't what to believe esp when u don't know yourself, r u sure u really know what you're into?  |
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prettyH (f)
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timmy, how do u know, av u been to one?
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timmy (m)
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one? many (well tv show's anyway) and they all soun alike, most of their advices are ficticious.. they don't always work mariages do well with out councelling at least our parents are examples, they did no councelling they they are living well... its just a quick way of chopping money.. another thingy is that if u folow their guides it wont bring up a natural marriage, all your life would be based on a manual guide  , do this, na don't do that, let this go this way.. thats not life, life should be ruled not be ruled by life |
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Prospero
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Timmy, common, what do u mean you don't know yourself, you already described yourself, this is who you are; before now was just feeling a liitle bit inferior about the relationship(Not anymore),you are in a relationship with a girl who is very beautiful, fresh and well kept.
You use to be a normal lagos boy working round the streets of lagos looking for a company to design a website or fixing a bad HDD to buying a new motherboard for a client.
You once Just decided to keep away until "you meet up" . Well now you are big, fresh, got a good account, getting a car soon and now clients beg me. And even more...
Can't you see, you are all you need to be presentable to any reasonable parents, you are a survivor, a man, a true man, a successful man, what parents want for their girls. I urge you to go on except you on your own side is not ready.
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pretysmile (f)
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Asking for your girlfrd's hand in marriage frm her parents is only common in d eastern part of Nigeria..Since it is an agreement between u n your g/frd dt u love each other, your g/frd should b d one to tell her parents.You'll then be asked to come n meet them not dt u'll go str8 to her parents n start tellin them u love their daughter.So i think it isnt a hard thing to do.
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timmy (m)
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@Prospero : whaoo!! iv never felt better before, you wrote some sence innto my head.. tanks  well i get over the inferior thingy and get my a$$ to her house.. hopefully during xmas |
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prettyH (f)
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come timmy man, i thought u said u wern't ready for marriage abi. But it seems most of the post r directed at u. So if prospero no yarn , u know for even know how far. Na wa for u o. Bro u need to boster up some confidence o before u go meet the girl. Wish u luck  |
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timmy (m)
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im not going to meet her parents for marriage, just a formallity, they need to see what i look like. thats all
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yeepa (m)
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I think if you are really down for the intromimo, you take a confident and trusted friend along so that you have enough confidence when speaking and I know evry other thing will fall in place if the girl truly loves you
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omogenaija (f)
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don't ask your girl's parents. ask her. because the parents can mess it up for you.
thats my opinion.
do u and let me know the results.
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Ndipe (m)
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How about the girl ask the guy's parents for his hand in marriage? Afterall, what is good for the goose, is good for the gander. Yeah, pay your way to the village of the guy, talk to the father of the guy that you are interested in becoming the spouse of their son and that you were seeking permission. Afterall, in most cases, women are the ones desperate to get hitched, so why can't they just take the bulls by its horn?
Y'all see my point?
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r_o_b_b_y (m)
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you can do it the old fashioned way like taking your dad or uncles, and go to the girls house. the type where the uncles will say "we saw a beautiful flower in you garden and we have come to pluck it" or "we saw a very pretty bird which we wanted to catch and we saw it fly into this house". That really works u know |
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emiley (f)
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you can do it the old fashioned way like taking your dad or uncles, and go to the girls house. the type where the uncles will say "we saw a beautiful flower in you garden and we have come to pluck it" or "we saw a very pretty bird which we wanted to catch and we saw it fly into this house". That really works u know girl, there are so many birds in the sky. |
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r_o_b_b_y (m)
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The parents will understand what you are driving at. they aint going to tell you there are many birds in the sky. I know u white. This is african tradition. and by the way i am not a girl |
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laudate
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Asking for your girlfrd's hand in marriage frm her parents is only common in d eastern part of Nigeria, Since it is an agreement between u n your g/frd dt u love each other, your g/frd should b d one to tell her parents.You'll then be asked to come n meet them not dt u'll go str8 to her parents n start tellin them u love their daughter.So i think it isnt a hard thing to do.
Um, don't think that's strictly true. Those in the South-west do it, too. First, the guy has to propose to the girl & then if she accepts, she tells her mum or closest female relative who then breaks the news to the dad, or head of the family. Usually, some kind of investigations are conducted into the guy's background, before the girl's family finally gives their approval. A day is set & the guy is asked to bring his family to formally ask for the girl's hand in marriage, in an informal introduction, jocularly tagged "knowing me-knowing you', in the native language. |
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Wendydoks (f)
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bia how do i check my private messages and compose one on here? this site sef sha  |
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macgozy (m)
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Guys & Lady's in d room, I thank the originator of this platform where issues are raised and answers are given. I share the same problem with some malefolks out there. My girlfrnd wants me to meet her parents because age she say is not on her side and I just graduated from school nd I have younger ones who look up to me for assistance and she understands. But the issue is that I can't take that step because my dad is against it because she is not Igbo by tribe. so please room do advice
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creamdream (m)
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if you are a responsible person.just be yourself.
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