Long Distance Relationships Good Or Bad

patience and more patience.  both of u reside in naija you should be lucky.

if he is worth waiting for have hope with phone now easily available it should be easier

I dont believe in LD relationships. They usually move frm conventional to open to non existant relationships. If u don't see urselves being in the same country/state in the near future, then let go. Save urself the drama!

Tanx guys u re all making me feel better already.

@ GEW

Tanx bro, wld keep dat fact in mind. wat wld i have done without people like u.

@ touchmeder

I am really grateful 4 wat u wrote. i normally do all u mentioned ie calls mails etc.

and i can assure u its not 4 d  faint hearted. Tanx

@poster, i can tell u emphatically that it aint easy!!!. I've been into it overtime, some didn't work out but i came out unscathed in the most recent one.

The most recent one was when my babe went for youth service in the nothern part. Initially, i thought it wont work out but it did. It did work out with a lot of contribution from both of us. I was calling her from time to time and i even travelled down to see her when i couldnt bear it anymore. She came home a few times too.

wat i'm saying in essence is that it's a two-way thing. Some could live with it while some wouldnt try it. It has to do with individual personalities. if u love him for real, i will advise u give it a shot but it's going to be demanding on both of u. Futhermore, both of u have to beef up your level of trust. There's nothing that creates/puts more doubt in one's heart than a distant relationship becos it's always hard to blv your partner's word when he/she is far away.

So, hang in there. Hold on to him, love him and pray that it works out.

best of luck.

Has to do with commitment, if u truely luv he or she can b nywhere n it wont matter, i knw wht m sayin

Wow, in a nut shell, u have just described my present predicament

u really have been dere, nd d only excuse i always get is work,work and more work

its so terrible.       

Its not easy but it is very doable. It takes most of all patience and trust. But you also need to keep in mind, how long you all plan on being apart. You all need to reach a compromise about when (somewhere in the near future) you all will meet. Because holding a relationship on without plans to meet soon can become draning. Not to mention, both parties would get tired of it much sooner than later. You all need to make plans, not only to meet but to know where your  relationship is going and figure out who will move where and when.

Good luck, its hard yes, but its doable.

sis. it ain't easy @ all,,, cos am presently in 1 rite now,  even wen we both reside in lagos,,, there is still this distance thing going on in our relationship,,, i do the communication thing the most,, send him mail, try to be the faithful,, patience, girl,, but he still complains alot,  so i think understanding is the main thing in a distance relationship,, if the both parties understands each other,, there won't be a prob. @ all.

u must be a man after your name. your name says much about your xter. u are basically after what u'll eat as in gain.
hairat i understand how u feel. it cld be very difficult loving some1 from a distance especially when u begin to consider the fact that u are not sure if d person is being faithful. but i implore u to follow your heart. u knw him-if he is really*10 worth the stay, then stay but if not, then look no futher, im here