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ajiboyet (m)
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let go of the girl first - by hook or crook means
you can sort out your family later
and have you thought of the fact that your family members can stumble upon this thread?
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pearldrops (f)
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let them be plzz
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SUKANIGHT
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You don't have to tell your family secrets like this have an ugly way of coming out what seems to suprise me is how the house members are taking the issue of you been gay i mean for God sake this is Nigeria not the state you should be stoned to death in tradition and culture it's abomination and everyone in the house is worried about the girlfriend life will definitely move on for her but what about this guy our brother's son, uncle's are not safe from these breed of people i don't understand really i don't
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allonym
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and have you thought of the fact that your family members can stumble upon this thread?
Hmmyeah. . my family members stumble upon this threadand somehow figure out who I am based on my SN? Profile? Very doubtful. |
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bodegideon (m)
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well,i think this Gay thing is now becoming complicated in this new world, if men are those you are attracted too,fine, be what you want to be,and find a girl who understand the word G-A-Y,who knows the ups and downs,and the whole gay stories,let her have your baby,and find your way through, its life,and i wouldnt advise you to tell your father, mothers are always a sweet heart,unless those freaky ones who are dangeously crazy, tell your mom,and i know she will be fine, and i think she should have figure out your sexuality all these while,lol.
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allonym
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seriously. . . that's like saying - if you like having sex, fine, but find a girl that understands the word A-D-You-L-T-E-R-Y and let her have your baby. Then while you're screwing other women, the two of you can work it out.
It doesn't work that way. Typically, people want exclusive relationships. It will be unfair to ask anyone to sacrifice that.
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fun4me2 (f)
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hi room, i think d guy in question needs to pray his way out of his situation, its unheard of,please am not condemning u but we all know its bad, i advice he goes to Mountain Of Fire and Miracles Ministries for deliverance They can help him and he will lead a very normal and straight life back. Thanks.  |
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Omo Eko (f)
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hi room, i think d guy in question needs to pray his way out of his situation, its unheard of,please am not condemning u but we all know its bad, i advice he goes to Mountain Of Fire and Miracles Ministries for deliverance They can help him and he will lead a very normal and straight life back. Thanks. damn of all church in the world why Mountain of Fire and Miracles. @the topic Don't tell your parents u're GAY because they will disown u, and that type of thing could put your parents health at risk too, and has for your girl friend tell her so she won't think your are her dream husband.
BEEN GAY IN NIGERIA IS A SIN EVEN IN THE BIBLE, ANYWAY You NEED REAL DELIVERANCE |
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danniecool (m)
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You have to tell your parent, they might be embarassed at first but they will still come down.
They are the only people that can assist in overcoming that demonic spirit in you.
both in spiritual and physical
Tdave u need DELIVERANCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CHANGE IN JESUS NAME
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LadyT (f)
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Please dump the girl you are with you are wasting her time!!!!!!!!!!!!  |
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cute-ass (f)
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@ tdave Its been over a year now since you sent this thread asking for some guidance and advice, so do you mind sharing with us turn out of the event, or is the whole situation still untouched  |
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Radiant (f)
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Where's fynwaka?  |
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Egenti (m)
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TDave my brother, I call you brother because I feel so much for you in all that you are facing and the fact that I believe there is still hope for you. You prayed and fasted and yet there was no respite for you. I want to begin by saying that I think you should talk to someone but you need to be very careful who you talk to so as not to worsen the situation of things. I think you're in dire need of spiritual rebirth and i mean every word. All the responses i've read so far have majored on what you should do to keep your happiness. What we have failed to realise is that if the spirit is not right with its maker the body can not experience geniune peace and joy. Please know that Jesus Loves you and is more than able to help you out of this iniquity. All you need is to geniunely surrender to him and attach yourself to a mature and geniune christian leader who will help you out. God bless you real good and may His grace abound to you in this matter. Shalom! After reading this if you feel like you could reach me on herbygee@yahoo.com |
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candy (f)
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I just don't buy this story,sounds more like one or two gay stories i've read on internet.
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JustGood (m)
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na so them dey come lie for internet just to present some kind picture for people
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Free (f)
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Should I tell my Family that I am GAY? no oooo keep it to yourself |
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JosBoy4Lif (m)
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Tell then so they can shun you?
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Ayeisha (f)
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Oh my, This is an interesting one.  Whatever you do not tell your family or the girl you are gay! But tell the girl you cannot continue the relationship. But don't tell anyone you are gay, Please.  Your family might not like that one bit. And if you tell the girl she might let others know and it might somehow get back to your family and people who you do not want to know! If you were here in NYC then I would say go for it and come out of the closet! But is it socially acceptable where you come from? I think not! Keep that to yourself and keep it in the closet. Be who you are if you must but that is nobody's business but your own. People don't have to know your personal business all the time and if it would hurt your family or possibly your career and social life, keep it to yourself and just tell the girl the relationship is over. If she asks why, then tell her you are in love with someone else and that you are moving to London! She will be hurt but you don't have to tell her the real reason so she can broadcast it! That won't be very wise  |
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pearldrops (f)
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whteva. do as u please
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BIKINI (f)
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if you're anigerian, i 'll advice u to remain bisexual because my brother the stigma here @ home(Nigeria), is terrible . we never civilize reach like that .it will even affect your unborn children if it's openly comfirmed.  and make sure u stop decieving that girl ,fast! |
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mazaje (m)
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remain a bisexual in case you might want to return to nigeria else be what u are if you want to remain in the white man's land where they are more open minded and free, there are a lot of gay people in nigeria and every where but the supress the feeling because they know they will never be accepted, i will advice you not to tell your parents because they will never understand you no matter how much you try to explian to them, they will feel very very BAD and DISAPPOINTED and i know you would'nt want that to happen. that just play along and i hope you find happiness and confidence about your sexuality because i believe you can't choose your sexuality.
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I.Gabriel (m)
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Telling your family members will not solve the problem,The answer is in the word of God.The bible says "sin shall not have dominion over you"Rmans 6:14, but are u willing to stop it, or ve you descided to continue with d mess. visit this site it will help u( www.christembassy.org) |
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