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nferyn (m)
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@ da808cutie
I fail to remember when I have been judgemental about individual catholics for their faith. I do have criticism on the institution of the Roman Catholic Church, but I am not judgemental on individual catholics for their faith, not in the least. You're mixing up issues here
I also have not used any irrelevant descriptions of people being reaped in their arse, if I remember correctly. Way to go if you want to give a poor sould advice over something that is already troubling him
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damygurl (f)
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I still don't understand y anybody will choose to becum gay!! I'm against it 100 percent but i don't discriminate against them. They r peoples too even if i don't like their way of life!!
Ok now to da guy o well seriouzly i can't really advice u to tell them. i know how Nigerian parents can be i mean if your parents r americans now that is another matter but NIgeria?!! i sure don't want to be there d day u tell them. On d other hand i can't advice u to keep something so important like that away from them so it all cums back to u and what u feel is best for you!!!!
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nferyn (m)
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@ damygurl
It's not a choice. Believe me, most of them would choose to be straight if they had a chance. Their lives will be far more difficult as gays that as straight people.
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emtien G (m)
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Friends, we can't always have what we want or be what we want to be. Let me illustrate, a friend of mine grew up always attracted to armed robbery and terrorism. He finds fulfilmenents in watching and doing it.Even though he always fought the feeling, yet it wont go away. Even when he fasted and prayed it wont cease. Recently he met a group of terrorist who are working on bombing some places around town and hijacking planes. And for once he felt fulfiled and he wishes to resign his high paying job to join them. He has asked my advice. If i go by what some of us are saying, then i should advice this ficticious friend to go ahead and be himself. Imagine if your dad or mum or relative is in any of those malls they plan to bomb. That is how those things are borne from a desire and a diplomatic advice like the ones given here. Imagine this guy is your brother or dad or even falls in love with your boyfriend, brother or dad. Remember 9-11, those guys were fulfilled doing what they did. The same for wife beaters, child molestors, rapist, fathers who abuse their daughters etc. They all had urges all their lives they couldnt control and eventually gave in to. I think they should be allowed to be themselves as long as they find joy and fulfilment. What do you think?  |
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nferyn (m)
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@ emtien G
So you're comparing homosexuals to all of this?
Could you tell me where exactly homesexuals harm other humans?
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emtien G (m)
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How?...
lets see. Just lie to your dad, mum, sister, friend or fiancee that you are gay and give them one week. I can assure you that one of these parties will develop high BP and pass on i.e. if they truely love you.n imagine your son walk up to you and tells you he's gay. How will you feel. Thats an emotional Bomb blast meeen!, thats what i'm saying.
Come to think of it, We are thinking of where to find more males for the numerous unmarried female singles and here goes one eligible, comfortable material, not only making himself unavailable but creating an extra shortage, going on a brother. Are you with me? Please say "I"...
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nferyn (m)
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How?...
lets see. Just lie to your dad, mum, sister, friend or fiancee that you are gay and give them one week. I can assure you that one of these parties will develop high BP and pass on i.e. if they truely love you.n imagine your son walk up to you and tells you he's gay. How will you feel. Thats an emotional Bomb blast meeen!, thats what i'm saying.
You're not harming anyone. If they feel bad about it, so be it. There are lots of things on this earth that make you feel bad. If someone would tell me my daughter has cancer, I would feel bad as well. Now just suppose my son would tell me in couple of years he's gay. I wouldn't immediately feel thrilled about it (especially because that means a decreased chance of having grand children), but I would accept it and support him going through some rough times, especially because society would view him as some sort of freak. Come to think of it, We are thinking of where to find more males for the numerous unmarried female singles and here goes one eligible, comfortable material, not only making himself unavailable but creating an extra shortage, going on a brother. Are you with me? Please say "I"...
Why don't you go and work your whole life for a charity without pay. The needs of society are so big that that is more usefull than thinking about your own well being. Why don't you? |
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da808cutie (f)
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@ nferyn....y then d'yu feel its your responsibility to dig up history, y not just let catholics believe what they do. i've got lots more to say, but i can't be bothered. ciao!
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nferyn (m)
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@ nferyn.y then d'yu feel its your responsibility to dig up history, y not just let catholics believe what they do. i've got lots more to say, but i can't be bothered. ciao!
I only dig up history when it's conveniently forgotten or when people speak of eternal truths without knowing where these truths came from. And actually, I'm usually not really addressing the Catholics with my interjections. Usually I'm countering arguments from Protestants, Evangelicals, Pentecostals who are right now repeating exactly the same mistakes the Catholics made in the past. The Catholic Church in its current form is generally a positive force. |
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damygurl (f)
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i don't think people r born gay. i think they choose to be it!!
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sexydoll (f)
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please ,please,please you need to let your girlfriend known that you are Gay immidiately so that she can move on with her life. on the issue of telling your family, it is really up to you but incase you still want to tell them about it make sure you think about their health i known that you wouldn't like any of your love ones to have high blood pressure because you Gay.
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timmy (m)
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now this our friend wants to change is name to "chuck".. anyways all gays guys should beware of gays  . run when you notice a whink  |
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Zizi (f)
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Dear All, I have read your comments with avid intrest. You all made good points. My dear plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz for the love of God tell your girlfriend the truth. There's no need toying with her heart when you don't love her. Besides she's at risk of contracting STD. So please free her ok.
My dear am one of the people who do not support homosexuality/lesbianism. I do not know if you are christain but if you are God does not approve of it. It's not something you would overcome easily but be rest assured that wheather you like it or not, there's a sister (moi) who has picked You up as a prayer point. YOU MUST CONQUER THAT DEADLY VICE. God bless you.
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timmy (m)
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Amen.. |
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Luminus (m)
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Brother please,
Even if you can't tell your family, you at least have to tell your girlfriend. You can't hold her destiny in limbo for ever or do you plan to marry her and then let her find out after you're married? Anyhow, I still think you should tell your folks, 'because one way or the other their bound to find out and it'd be much better if they heard from you first.
Peace Out.
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tunku (m)
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You must really be a naive guy to think you can tell your family that you are gay and think they won't disown you on the spot. I do believe you should embrace who you are but Nigeria is an extremely homophobic country. People blind themselves to the fact that homosexuals exists within the culture. I witness a couple of gay guys in Ondo when I last visited it but I can tell that no one wants to know it nor are the guys interested in telling anyone their secret. You are in a privileged position I would move to london and try having a happy life there if I were you. To Timmy and all the other close minded gay bashers on here, grow up and open your mind. Homosexuality is not a choice just as you can't help but feel attracted to a pretty girl. Just because you wish it not to exists doesn't mean it is going to go away anytime soon. Oda nokun is the only one that thinks like this.
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prettyH (f)
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honestly i don't think you're gay sha? your story seems too composed especially for someone in a dilemma. anyways u must be a nigerian for u to ask our humble opinion because white countries don't seem to av a problem with been gay.
in my view sha, don't dare tell because u will either die as a result of the castigatn or be forced to relocate. but if you're bold enough to trouble sleeping waters, then go ahead and tell the world but really be prepared . for your girlfriend , better tell her because the chic thinks shes found one correct guy o and don't waste her precious time on your deceiving a*s*s and let her move on.
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Luminus (m)
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@ tunku,
This is not about being naive man. Even though I don't have one iota of sympathy or support for gays, I try to stay open minded, so long as they ain't shitting in MY pot. I still say he should tell his folks because, everybody's saying he should tell his girlfriend, which is the only humane thing to do, but have you ever considered the fact that this girl is close to his family seeing as they've probably been dating a while and once he tells her, she's going to go crying to them to tell them what their son has just said. Sure, they may chase her out of their house with a big stick and tell her never to show her face in their crib again for trying to spoil theire son's name but whether you like it or not it'll be in their minds and they'll set out investigating. So, think what it'll be like if they find out on their own.
If he tells them, they'll go mad and say all sorts of stuff, but it'll be in the open and if anyone else tells them it's no longer news. By all means move to London and all them otha suggestions, but that's still my take on things.
laterz y'all
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prettyH (f)
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@luminus
welcome aboard bro
da thing is that telling his parents or not is a decision he has to take. no matter what he is still their child whatever they say. but why put a girl through all that. if he'll still come out and say it. why not put the girl out of her misery now let her move on. If she goes and tells them and they start investigating, it doesnt change who their son is but only hurts deeper that they werent told beforehand
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obj (m)
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i think u a total disgrace to your hardworking parents who labored to nurture u and put u through school. is this how u will repay them?and embarass and humiliate your siblings and relations? what on earth will make a man want to have sex in another mans anal cavity,the outlet for human waste?what a waste of manhood!am appalled by homos.they make me sick.please don't bring this shame to your decent family.let them enjoy their old age in peace.
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timmy (m)
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@Tunku: i hear you. since when did becoming a highly rated sick man, become a choice.. for God's sake there is nothing like that. mother nature didnt create a blend for gays.. well i guess ill just shut up for a little while until someone posts another outragous comments. see chuck or what ever your name is, if u like be a gay in fact if you come home for x-mas and decide to get jiggy with your old man thats your business just let go of your girlfriend but tell her your dated her to get to her brother .. |
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prettyH (f)
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see chuck or what ever your name is, if u like be a gay in fact if you come home for x-mas and decide to get jiggy with your old man thats your business just let go of your girlfriend but tell her your dated her to get to her brother .. abi now |
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Luminus (m)
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if u like be a gay in fact if you come home for x-mas and decide to get jiggy with your old man thats your business just let go of your girlfriend but tell her your dated her to get to her brother Grin.. timmy, you are one crazy brother. I feel you on that one man. prettyH, thanks for the welcome message. Y'all stay safe and stay out of trouble. And in the words of Steve Jobs - "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." |
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WesleyanA (f)
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timmy, you sound like a guy whose girlfriend has a crush on a gay guy. are you jealous or what?
don't you think you're spending a little bit too much time trying to get tdave to notice you/ your posts.
take it easy . . it's not that serious okay? you can be anti-gay for all i care but don't irritate others with your obsession or should i say fanaticism?
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the guy's asking you guys for your opinion on whether he should inform his family about his sexual orientaion not for criticism about his sexual orientation!
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moi (f)
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Guys I am so sorry if I sounded judgemental, I guess I let my emotion take the better part of me, but I still believe we should be who we are and have our various beliefs and ideaologies.
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Renike (f)
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wow..
if u think it would be a wise idea to tell them, go for it
but like odas said, let d ghel go
and true, people are not born gay, they choose to be..
g/luck bro...
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WesleyanA (f)
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people DON'T choose to be gay!
it's just what you are!
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Renike (f)
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well, i guess we have to agree to disagree
because when God created us..He created Adam and Eve..not Adam and Steve
**no offense intended**
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WesleyanA (f)
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and you and Eve are look alikes aren't you? anybody who sees you would say "oh you look and act just like your mama Eve" right? everyone's different/ special.  |
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icingbaby (f)
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someone can't be born gay, you choose to be gay. say this to you self ever day, say i will not allow any man to f**K me in my ass and I will not f**K any man on his ass. say it in the morning, afternoon and night, for one year. that will stop the gayness. but if it doesn't work write me back and i will tell you an other way to stop this gayness, and make sure you do what i told you.   |
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WesleyanA (f)
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what would you do if a gay girl came to you and tell you "she wants to give you tips to stop being straight"?
those saying "because adam and eve weren't gay, people who are gay should be shunned" are kind of saying "because adam and eve weren't handicapped, those who are handicapped should be shunned"!
that's just my opinion.
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Renike (f)
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WesleyanA u are so missing d point... point is it is male and female not male/male..if i have to break it down am not saying i have anything against them...infact, am indifferent ofcourse everybody is special but gay people are definitely not created that way my opinion |
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