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biggaboy
Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« on: September 02, 2009, 01:50 PM »

Consider family setting , is it ideal to disclose the actual salary you earning to your spouse?

MyPeace (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #1 on: September 02, 2009, 02:19 PM »

my hubby knows exactly how much l earn.  He even knows my ATM pin and l know his.  We operate joint and separate accounts.   He is into private business, l might not know exactly how much he makes a month but l have idea, as long as he contributes his quota to the joint account and fulfills his obligations at home, no qualms.   

Theres no need to hide your earnings.   People hide when they feel their spouse will take advantage of it.   l think if u have a financial plan for your home, there wont be need for 'financial hide and seek game'
r231 (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #2 on: September 02, 2009, 02:21 PM »

Quote from: MyPeace on September 02, 2009, 02:19 PM
my hubby knows exactly how much l earn.  He even knows my ATM pin and l know his.  We operate joint and separate accounts.   He is into private business, l might not know exactly how much he makes a month but l have idea, as long as he contributes his quota to the joint account and fulfills his obligations at home, no qualms.   

Theres no need to hide your earnings.   People hide when they feel their spouse will take advantage of it.   l think if u have a financial plan for your home, there will be need for 'financial hide and seek game'

You are right

@ poster

YES, it makes life easier
Fhemmmy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #3 on: September 02, 2009, 03:10 PM »

Yes, it is ideal.
biggaboy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #4 on: September 02, 2009, 03:35 PM »

thanks  for the candid answer,
posakosa (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #5 on: September 02, 2009, 04:36 PM »

@ OP of course,



Having a joint account ? Hell naah!
Fhemmmy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #6 on: September 02, 2009, 06:37 PM »

Quote from: posakosa on September 02, 2009, 04:36 PM
@ OP of course,



Having a joint account ? Hell naah!
Lips sealed
posakosa (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #7 on: September 02, 2009, 06:41 PM »

Femi, werrin happen na ?
Fhemmmy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #8 on: September 02, 2009, 06:54 PM »

Quote from: posakosa on September 02, 2009, 06:41 PM
Femi, werrin happen na ?

Just that the joint account things is a different ball game that when i see, i get goose bumps
MrCrackles (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #9 on: September 02, 2009, 06:56 PM »

Yes kini big deal. . .  Cool
Fhemmmy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #10 on: September 02, 2009, 06:59 PM »

Quote from: MrCrackles on September 02, 2009, 06:56 PM
Yes kini big deal. . .  Cool

Dont mind them jare
mohawkchic (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #11 on: September 02, 2009, 07:17 PM »

~I cannot begin to comprehend why people are still asking this question in this day & age of our Lord!!

~Another reasons why couples are working against each other instead of working together!
No2Atheism (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #12 on: September 02, 2009, 07:18 PM »

@topic


why not if not
chiogo (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #13 on: September 03, 2009, 04:01 AM »

Of course, he should know and vice-versa.

MrCrackles (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #14 on: September 03, 2009, 04:05 AM »

Quote from: chiogo on September 03, 2009, 04:01 AM
Of course, he should know and vice-versa.
Hummm. . .That easy Chiogo Shocked Wink
chiogo (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #15 on: September 03, 2009, 04:17 AM »

Quote from: MrCrackles on September 03, 2009, 04:05 AM
Hummm. . .That easy Chiogo Shocked Wink
I'm talking husband here not boyfriend. of course, he should know.
No joint accounts though.  Lips sealed
Naina_S (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #16 on: September 03, 2009, 11:26 PM »

Yes, both my partner and I are aware of exactly how much the other earns.

I plan to model my marriage finances the same way my parents did i.e. 75% of each of their salaries went into the marriage/joint account. Everything from buying a car, paying school fees, paying for the help etc all came from that account. The remaining 25% of their salaries went into their own personal accounts for them to do with as they pleased.

I think it would be somewhat unhealthy to not disclose this information in a marriage. How can you then plan, budget, invest accordingly if you don't know how much each person is bringing to the table?!?
Fiona0007
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #17 on: September 03, 2009, 11:31 PM »

@post
Is it a question?
I thought it is a normality that both partners know how much they earn each month ( doesn't matter who works and who stays home) and work out together for the budget.  Are you suggesting leaving your spouse in the dark? Does trust has a place in the marriage?
jamace (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #18 on: September 05, 2009, 07:05 PM »

Civilisation has spoilt the marriage institution  to a greater extent, that is why the spate of divorce is very high. Too much independence of each other makes a marriage look more of boyfriend/girlfriend affair. Spouses no longer have full trust on one another because the marriage has no solid bond. That is why we have more of official houses than family homes these days.

I have seen men who feel happier when on posting away from their wife and family. I have also seen women who prefer that their working husbands stay far from home. Too bad. As far as I am concern, these are no marriages but co-habitation. That is why divorce is easy because both have no bond of love between them.

At the rate the marriage institution is going, in the nearest future there will be nothing like marriage again, but contract.
xstdreason (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #19 on: September 07, 2009, 04:43 PM »

D biggest mistake i eva made in my life is to let my spouse knw hw much i earn,
biggaboy
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #20 on: September 08, 2009, 08:27 AM »

 
Quote from: xstdreason on September 07, 2009, 04:43 PM
D biggest mistake i eva made in my life is to let my spouse knw hw much i earn,



Can you pls shed more light?
Rogo
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #21 on: September 08, 2009, 08:47 AM »

yes period or which family you talking about, disclose and have your happy home.
G-reycells (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #22 on: September 08, 2009, 12:00 PM »

Sure! Total disclosure in cases where the couple engage in financial planning, nothing short of it.

diehard1
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #23 on: September 08, 2009, 12:02 PM »

yes oh! she even knows when i have salary increase. wetin i wan hide? if she wan make we finish de salary in one day and drink water for the remaining days of the month, na her hand e dee. i even wan make am joint account with me being the only contributor but both of us can withdraw. If i come kaput one day na other people go chop de money we i don work 4. my salary big well well oh and i wan my family to enjoy am
jodeci (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #24 on: September 08, 2009, 12:10 PM »

 
I disclose every dime i earn to my wife even when the salary is raised.It makes life a lot easier for me and helps me in planning.It also reassures her that God is answering her prayers each time my salary is raised.

Donvilo (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #25 on: September 08, 2009, 12:23 PM »

Yep, sure! Smiley
pek (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #26 on: September 08, 2009, 12:27 PM »

that is the most ideal and logical thing to do.
ayomidej (f)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #27 on: September 08, 2009, 12:32 PM »

Yes of course, if you want peace and love in the house. Grin
floriana (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #28 on: September 08, 2009, 12:33 PM »

This is like asking if I will make love to my wife during honey-moon. Of course i damn will!!!  Grin
Oluschenco (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #29 on: September 08, 2009, 12:35 PM »

Not when my salary is increased, she will know the former one.
utotomixxx (m)
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #30 on: September 08, 2009, 12:40 PM »

It depends. You can never trust a lady when it comes to money.
sandee575
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse?
« #31 on: September 08, 2009, 12:43 PM »

She should know otherwise you dont trust your wife.
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