Please Help Quick Ejaculation

hello pls i need someone to advice me i spend not more than 1minute wit my gfrd in bed and not more dan 1 round wich i can go pls wat can i do thx

am 24

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" Ultimately, it was the "stop-start" method that pushed my fiancee, Tara, over the edge. What with so much stopping and so little starting, not to mention all my various instructions "Slow down, easy, easy, okay, go ahead, stop, I said stop!" she finally blurted out, "Dammit, are we having sex or parking a car?"

As she jumped out of bed and reached for her clothes, I pleaded, "Wait,  you can't just get up and go."

"Why not? That's what you do every time we have sex."

I stammered and said something about lasting 10 seconds more than last month. She said something about menopause and how maybe we'd be able to have sex for a whole minute by then.

"I'm so sick and tired of saying, `It's okay, really,' every time we have sex," she yelled. "It's not okay! This is your problem, not mine. And if you don't get it figured out by the time I get back from Hong Kong, the engagement is off!" Premature ejaculation (PE) has been, without a doubt, the single greatest factor in the formation of my character. Whenever someone asks me why I pursued a PhD in clinical sexology and became a sex therapist, I always say it's because of my struggles with PE and the years of quiet desperation I endured. I still remember when my varsity girlfriend first went on the Pill. I was terrified.

Until then, a condom lined with lidocaine (a numbing agent that rendered me barely able to feel my penis) had been my first line of defence. The sex wasn't pleasurable, but at least it wasn't totally humiliating.

Now, however could I go it alone?

The first time we made ungloved love, I was overwhelmed by the sensations: the slippery warmth, the wetness of being inside her. It felt so amazing; I wanted desperately to savour the experience. But it was out of my control. On my very first thrust, I went in, but I didn't make it out. And as I lay on top of her defeated and depleted I cried.

I wanted to make love like a man, but I was a little boy, incapable of controlling my own bodily functions. I considered PE my tragic downfall and believed myself cursed with an Achilles because, frankly, that's what it is: an immature way of doing things that largely stems from the way we're taught, or rather, not taught, to masturbate in childhood.

Most young men, fearing discovery, masturbate furtively and quickly, unwittingly exploiting, and simultaneously hardcoding, their natural propensity to rapidly achieve gratification.

Weightlifters talk about "muscle memory". I believe that premature ejaculators experience "penis memory". No wonder the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey observed in his book Sexual Behavior in the Human Male that the average man can maintain penetrative thrusting for only about two minutes. (However, Cosmo readers said the average guy lasts 10 to 15 minutes.)

We've trained ourselves to ejaculate quickly and we need to relearn the process of sexual response in order to last longer.

At first, like any overexcited teenager, I dealt with PE in the usual ways: masturbating before going out on dates (which helps, but becomes less effective as you get older and requires more downtime between erections); downing beers and donning double, even triple, condoms. I even tried to delay orgasm in the heat of the moment by distracting myself with cricket statistics or images of dead people and let me tell you, thinking about corpses during sex: definite mood killer.

Later, I graduated to herbal remedies, topical ointments and miracle creams advertised in the backs of porn magazines. On one occasion, my little experiments led to an acid burn of my penis in the men's room of a Japanese restaurant.

In yet another doomed effort, I put the Errol Flynn method to the test: a dab of cocaine on the tip of the penis. The matinee idol once explained that it could be helpful "if you're quick on the trigger". But it didn't work for me and I doubt it really worked for Flynn.

He claimed to have slept with more than 13 000 women in his lifetime. Now, how the hell are you going to do that without being a premature ejaculator?

The day Tara left for Hong Kong giving me three weeks to shape up or clear out I spiralled to an all-time low. In a desperate attempt to keep that ring on her finger, I tried every type of radical therapy. There was biofeedback treatment, in which an electrode was inserted where I least wanted it, and I was encouraged to engage in an activity once thought to cause blindness in teenagers; self-hypnosis tapes that lulled me into such a deep trance with its sounds of water being stopped and started that I woke up soaked in my own urine; and a session with a German "masturbation specialist" who sternly observed and critiqued my methods of self-pleasure, all the while keeping time with a metronome and commanding me to "stop, start, squeeze; stop, start, squeeze!" By the time Tara returned from her trip, I was a complete mess.

I didn't know if I was coming or going. Or, for that matter, if I'd be coming and then going after having sex with her. And as she emerged from the shower and came to bed, naked and glistening and very expectant I was so nervous, I didn't just prematurely ejaculate, I spontaneously ejaculated.

True to her word, she left me. Don't feel bad. I don't. (Anymore.) And don't worry, either. According to the Men's Health survey, less than 10 percent of women say their reason for dumping a guy was because he was quick on the draw.

Shortly after Tara and I broke up, I began working with a really terrific sex therapist and, ironically, overcame PE within just a few months. I used a process that involved six techniques and was so transformed, and inspired, that I decided to change careers and go down that path myself.

Today, I continue to learn about PE, which is exactly what the late sex therapist Dr Helen Singer Kaplan advised in what is still considered the definitive guide to conquering PE, titled How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation.

My struggles led me not only to my passion in life helping others through sex therapy and writing about sex but, " for more information check other thread on this and i`m not promising u but as soon as i have an E-book ii`m lloking for i`ll surely email it to you, 

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