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COOLWATER (m)
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Do i have anything to worry about if my fiancee earns more than me? she works with an oil company. although she has not shown any sign of arrogance.
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Ebonyeyes (f)
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Its all on you, do you think you may develop a complex in future?
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netotse (m)
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ebonyeyes is kinda right. . .
but i hope u sha earn enough money for the basics? so she doesnt have to pay when y'all go out and stuff?
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casfrapee
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bros just pray to your god to give you a better job.after i do,greater percentage of women will bring out their true colour.she may not really be who she is now especially if she is the one paying the bills.goodluck broda.
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izeek (m)
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dude there is nothing to it,
as long as she knows u hard working and got dreams dont matter who earns more.
afterall u still got the basics like some1 said.
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z-murda (m)
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Live with it, enjoy it. Don't think of it.
Dwelling on it leads to problems. Try to make your own stash, remember though its not a competition
Peace
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TYTAN (m)
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Keep your role as an african man with pride, try to ignore her salary , please dont let complex set in.
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virgie (f)
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If she does not show arrogance/pride over her earnings, then u have nothinh to worry about, just deal with it.
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CrazyMan (m)
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Don't tell me that you're the kind of guy that gets intimidated by a successful woman.
If you love her, and you're 100% positive that she feels the same way, then there's nothing to be afraid of.
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sexyLeamon (f)
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If you use your knowledge and invest, you could use her money wisely, and increase both of your incomes. work together I do not mean eat over her head
As for your insecurity, tell her in bed and I am pretty sure she will comfort you.
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genetokky (m)
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it is very simple,change yaa job.
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whitelexi (m)
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Well, dump her and get yourself someone that earns less if u cant live with it  |
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sparta (f)
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you have said it all!
She has not shown any sign of arrogance!
Thats all folks!
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DaudaAbu (m)
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well dis is b4 d i do.
After that i wonder who would pay 4 the children sch fees. who determine d sch they go to,
the kind of house u guys will live in and all?
Guy use that money beta urself and seek for a beta paying job b4 things change
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frank3.16
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u see a woman
like her
ask her out
married her
live with her
and yet you come out here to ask nairaland if there is a problem because she is earning more than u.
do u really know what marriage is?
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Sexyuhlala (f)
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Kini bid deal?
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Sexyuhlala (f)
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Kini big deal?
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manikki (f)
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It depends on your level of maturity. Her`s too. As long as its clearly stated at every point that u`re the man in the relationship, u`ll not have too many problems. Have fun!
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Yumi (f)
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Thats really not bad, try to look at the positive side of things, that means there is less pressure on you to provide and you can help each other more. Don't worry about it obviously she doesn't mind or she wouldnt have engaged you. I hardly remember a guy I have ever been out with that earns more money than I do. So its not something I think about or care about anymore. As long as he can provide for himself and has goals in life works hard and is honest that is more important. She probably appreciates that in you.
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donaremu (m)
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@Poster, As an African man, we may think it is a problem especially if she is proud and arrogant. You value as a man in the family is not because you richer than her, Understanding is the key, Who know happen will tomorrow? you may be richer than her tomorrow, Riches in the hands of a good person is a blessing,  |
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waooo
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dump her & get urself a full time house wife who will depend on u for even common maggi cube if dat's what u want.
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Pancs (m)
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It's simple, if u gays really love each other then all u have to think about is love and not who is richer  |
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Ani Lee (f)
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I think there is nothing wrong with that. Esp when you have said she aint arrogant. That means she still considers your contribution and role just as important and of relevance as would any other couple where the man earns more. You are still you, and that she understands. Her attitude towards you displays her reverence and respect for you.
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sayso (m)
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try and do your duties before she knows,let her be a helper not a provider.will work out well
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Drunk
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OK. Thanks for the Information
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chiejik (f)
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@sayso, your thinking, na waa ;d ;d ;d ;d ;d ;d
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dominic tj (m)
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yori yori, luv am o dey are very few of the 4 market
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bebe4u (f)
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@ poster, that is why i said i will not disclose how much i earn to my spouse, you are not even married to her , yet her earnings is already a big issue to you. People who are speaking of openess in marriage concerning finance, here we go with people like coolwater , i appreciate a little discretion about my earnings, is there anywhere that is written that women who earn higher than their spouse are always arrogant ? abeg, get pass that and focus on her other strengths, if you cant deal with it. allow the lady to move on with her life. Men and their fragile ego   |
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orisebawo (m)
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Poster,
I dont see a problem in the fact that she earns more than you, it should be a motivating factor for you to continually improve yourself, as long as you are able to take care of all the baisc needs without having to depend on her, it is really none of your business what she earns except in helping her to double her salary or invest it wisely, gone are the days when a man must always be the higher earner in the family.
As long as you remain the bread winner, then you should be happy that you have an industrious fiancee.
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whiteroses (f)
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leave her and marry a poor woman wey fit devour your little money then abi wetin be the question again |
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big-ben
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@topic
no real big deal or else if you have an agenda :-Xmust we always quantify everything,where lies the real feelings.Is it a case of no money,no love,little money,little love ???my man wake up and go
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iz2much (m)
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i think u will have a prob. so quit.the problem will come form you
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