What Is Compatibility?

I'm a new nairalander :-) and I must say I'm impressed with what Ive seen so far.

Ive a problem weighing on my mind to share with the house. Heres how it goes;

I recently ended a relationship with a guy who said he wasnt ready to commit himself to 'a future' with me (thinking of gettiing married in the next 3 years). I also found him quite insensitive and sometimes very immature. On the upside, we share a common passion for films, books and music, and generally, we always had sthng to talk bout. Hes also very smart, sophisticated and witty. There was a strong sexual connxtn as well (ps don't blush, lol), he cd never do wrong by me, kissing or being intimate.

Part 2: Ive been friends with the second guy before I started dating my ex, it wasnt until a few months back that I realised we had feelings for each other. We've decided to start dating now. Its really intense I tell you :-). Hes so generous and very caring, and religious. Problem is, hes so emotional (gets hurt easily), and very efficoish lol. Hes a homebody, has zero interest in music, books, movies arrrgh, I'm trying not to rush into being intimate with him but the sexual affinity doesnt seem to be there (yet?), even though Ive known him longer than ex, and he is even more handsome than him. Weird, I know,

Sorry to bore you guys but now I'm thinking, what is compatibility really? can I teach the new man in my life to develop an interest in the things I like, and will I ever be truly satisfied with someone with no common interests as myself? and what if he was the most loving, caring, generous and romantic man in the world,

My ex has said hes not against a reconciliation, but why would I go back to someone who doesnt appreciate me as a person the way I want? even though we enjoy the same hobbies?

Tryin to get my head around the situation, and friends arent helping with conflicting advice :-)

I can't mess this up please, guys your comments/suggestions are really welcome.

Peace.

Really matters of d heart cn be frustrating n I always ask myself why d right person luvs u wrong. Thers 1thing i always say sha;itz better to be with a guy that loves u than a guy that u love,besides i think guy 2 may be a chance to have relatnship that is objective n nt blinded by passion or d fact dt u share common interests. If he really likes u,he may take interest in the things u love. My sister's husband is nt really a music person bt he's started appreciatin music because of her. About the attraction part dnt rush it,it would grow wit time. I dnt advise u stick wt a guy that won't appreciate u

Thanks to nikegenius and sayoh for your thoughts.

Well, theres a twist in the tale. Mr Effico turns out to be not so 'nice' after all. He has said he doesnt want a relationship any longer. So I'm back to square one. 

The reason I left my ex is because Mr Effico said, I will treat you so much better than he does, and I really care about you bla bla, Little did I know he was going to be singing a different tune a few months down the line.

I know that if Mr Effico really loved me as he claimed he did, he would have never hurt me so badly. So it seems like even though I'm compatible with these two guys, it doesnt mean I stand a chance with them!! Ah, life, you never know whats round the corner. 

The moral of the story is, even the guys you're compatible with may still treat you badly. I was ready to compromise on love, but you know what, compatibility without love is like tea without sugar, and I have a sweet tooth. So, please pass me the sugar!!!

Peace