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davidylan (m)
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It is well my sister. If a guy is taking too long to ask you out then he's probably not into you. If a guy wants you bad he will speak up no matter how reserved. Get yourself another dude. |
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stillwater (f)
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Nah. . . . .I think she got tired because she belatedly realised the dude wasn't as solid as he made out to her initially.
The OP wouldn't mind the dude's buddies that are more LOADED.
Woooooohhhhhh. . .and the forces that revolve around you revealed this to you? Tell them I said Hi. |
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pc guru (m)
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@yumi you said you'll wait what if he never calls.Don't you think the waiting kills.Just find out yes or no then skip the chapter.You know you gotta through shit b4 you embrace the prize.
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r231 (m)
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30 yr dif dammm  |
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~Sauron~
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Woooooohhhhhh. . .and the forces that revolve around you revealed this to you? Tell them I said Hi.
They are saying hey to you too. Won't you get fed up if every single time he talks about the same material thing?
Haba, Is that what relationship is about?
Partially. It is about appreciating what one has got. Some women will die to be treated this way. |
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TOPE2000! (f)
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Won't you get fed up if every single time he talks about the same material thing?
Haba, Is that what relationship is about?
Like the sauron said i think the poster isnt really saying it all cuz the poster claims the guy has a good career so for some1 with good job i dont know where he gets the energy all the time to take his gf out just show her off? There must be times where they both stay indoors n chill |
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Yumi (f)
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@yumi you said you'll wait what if he never calls.Don't you think the waiting kills.Just find out yes or no then skip the chapter.You know you gotta through shit b4 you embrace the prize.
It does but I can't do it, cause of what he said he has to be the one to break the silence. If he doesn't I can't I really don't think he is bothered he has had a hundred opportunities to say sorry baby I realise now I was hard towards you its just this and that happened and I felt pressured or whatever. He was too hard with his words so I can't go to him anymore honestly till he breaks it. Am going to move on very soon, I gave him a week in my mind. Its been past a week since he called me and almost a week since he last texted me. Tommorrow I can move on as I haven't heard from for a week so I will know he doesn't really care. |
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stillwater (f)
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They are saying hey to you too.
Partially.
It is about appreciating what one has got.
Some women will die to be treated this way.
She's not those women. Besides, there are men that will show you off but still have alone time for you. Nothing wrong in wanting that. |
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~Sauron~
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She's not those women. Besides, there are men that will show you off but still have alone time for you. Nothing wrong in wanting that.
She should realise she cannot have everything she desires. What is to say the next man will have everything she wants? If she gets the attention she seriously craves, she might not be appreciated. |
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Yumi (f)
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It is well my sister.
If a guy is taking too long to ask you out then he's probably not into you. If a guy wants you bad he will speak up no matter how reserved. Get yourself another dude.
Well its kind of gone beyond that. I agree we have been seeing each other and have run into a problem so we are beyond the initial asking out phase. I agree though thats why I gave him a week to come through and communicate. If he really cares he will speak. |
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stillwater (f)
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She should realise she cannot have everything she desires.
What is to say the next man will have everything she wants?
If she gets the attention she seriously craves, she might not be appreciated.
Don't take out the possibility the next guy would be right for her.  |
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pc guru (m)
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@yumi you know you almost convinced me "love can exist" but if love's like this i think am beta off by myself.You can't let go and you can't call him/shouldn't call him.Feels like you in a loop. This performance, you sing? Best of lucks goodnight.
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~Sauron~
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Don't take out the possibility the next guy would be right for her. If only life is that simple. . . . . . .  |
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~Sauron~
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So how many men did you dump to find the right one? |
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pc guru (m)
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@yumi i feel your dilemma.Deep down i feel some guys don't want to be happy.Speaking from experience spent my 4years in uni observing pple with destructive pattern.Pple unconsciously are addicted to pain
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Yumi (f)
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@yumi you know you almost convinced me "love can exist" but if love's like this i think am beta off by myself.You can't let go and you can't call him/shouldn't call him.Feels like you in a loop. This performance, you sing? Best of lucks goodnight.
Well if he loved me he would have called so it lets me know exactly where I stand so a bit of waiting is useful in the longer term. He doesn't love thats why he doesn't call. I can let go and I am cause I can't go to him after what he said and he hasn't come to me as he doesn't feel for me. So I have to get on with other things and forget about it. You will have to find the one that loves you too and not get stuck in loops with people that don't. Thats the tricky part but your a clever guy I am sure you will manage to figure it out.  I don't sing. thanks though good night |
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stillwater (f)
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So how many men did you dump to find the right one?
I don't dump.  |
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~Sauron~
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I don't dump. I see. . . . U don't dump. . . .U get dumped?  |
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Yumi (f)
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@yumi i feel your dilemma.Deep down i feel some guys don't want to be happy.Speaking from experience spent my 4years in uni observing pple with destructive pattern.Pple unconsciously are addicted to pain
Yeah its hard and his life at the moment is not really good. In terms of the way he is living and the things he is doing. He is caught up in a mess but I can only support him to get out of it and be right with himself if he wants that. He doesn't seem to want that he prefers to live a lie and orchestrate more lies. So its best I let him get on with it you can only liberate those from a prison of lies that want to be liberated. |
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stillwater (f)
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I see. . . . U don't dump. . . .U get dumped? Yes o, they say I'm too stubborn. |
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~Sauron~
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Yes o, they say I'm too stubborn. Tsk tsk!!!!! |
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TheSeeker (m)
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You want to dump a guy because he's showing you off to his friends? Silly! Find a better thing to say, because if you think we're fools here, we ain't. If he's not proud of you now, you'll be making empty-barrel-noises that he isn't. As for the guy, hasn't he been with a beautiful woman before? Disgraceful element!  And you, the poster, I heard you say he 'used' you? So boasting of you within his circle of friends has amounted to 'using'?
All these foolish akatas sef. You won't leave Naija boys alone and when they do something that's not in line with your bossy wishes, you come to Nairaland to cry like a little chick with a broken leg. And all of you are usually new posters! How do we know it's not the same old anti-Nigerian posters that are doing this? How do all of you just know Nairaland? Oh, google, right? Please spare me the bullshit! I'm not falling for it.
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tundejayz
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30 years older than you ,na wah? anyway which of this numbers is not correct?
Things Women Do That Drive Men Away?
1. ACTING SWEET TO GET A MAN, THEN CHANGING
2. NOT GIVING ENOUGH SPACE - "She watches my movment every sec because she thinks that every minute I'm not with her I'm fooling around."
3. WANTING TOO MANY THINGS
4. NOT SAYING WHAT SHE MEANS
5. THE THREE B'S OF SEX .bad, boring, battle sex (Using sex as a weapon because your man did something you did not like , resolvin it nko after sex,
6. CONSTANTLY TALKING ABOUT OTHER MEN
7. BEING A DRAMA QUEEN (always nagging about something)
8. BEING HARD AND COLD - "I work as a security man at atan cemetery,yaba (night shift) I don't have to be at home with my wife because the house is always as quiet as the cemetery ." - baba bimbo
9. CHEATING - Some women will maintain that when a woman is cheating it's always the fault of a man.
10. ENGAGING IN A POWER STRUGGLE - I can't stand it when a woman always wants to prove to me that she's smart, tough, and independent -Dr Phil.
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TheSeeker (m)
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8. BEING HARD AND COLD - "I work as a security man at atan cemetery,yaba (night shift) I don't have to be at home with my wife because the house is always as quiet as the cemetery ." - baba bimbo
Baba Bimbo is a crazy man 10. ENGAGING IN A POWER STRUGGLE - I can't stand it when a woman always wants to prove to me that she's smart, tough, and independent -Dr Phil. That Dr. Phil just sounded like a typical, old-fashioned African man |
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Ani Lee (f)
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U definitely a trophy dear according to my diagnosis, I also dated a similar idiot once. He was a local of the country i was residing in at the time and so i was the foreigner. He seemed much more interested in showing me off to his male pals (which he succeeded cause all they used to talk about was me which irritated the sh*t out of me!) And so I jus reached a point, got sick of him and walked out. Apparently, he also lied to me about his age. Which I later came to discover and didnt take the matter lightly. Why lie if it doesnt matter as he said? Anyway, I got tired of being polished up and displayed all the time. And I think you have approached the same point. My vote is, leave the guy, if you really want to. Your feelings are valid and justifiable from my pov.
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brein
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So you left all the handsome, well mannered, god fearing, fun filled young men in your age group to go and date a man possibly 30yrs older than you.
Some of you girls can be silly at times. true. |
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okeey (m)
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well,comfirm is age again
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echezz (m)
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Now I'm pissed. You've broken up the relationship and your here with your long story. What do you want us to tell you? Dump him; you have done that, go back; you say you are not comfortable with his showing you off!
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Gekko
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hmm! how did he manage to hide 20years from you?
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sayso (m)
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page 3 and the poster is no where to be found,don't you guys think she dosen't care what you all yabbing abt.
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sayso (m)
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@TheSeeker your pix,wahala dey there ooh.no smiling faces
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