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Ekpoma1
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I've being looking forward to this day as a member.I believe being here on the romances section will broadens my heart on issues that concerns the heart,which are very sensitive in relationships for effective commucation and understanding of the opposite sex in order to know the basic things which are love,trust,patient,tolerant,sacrifice etc needed for a happy relationship.What makes your relationship a success?i'll be glad to learn.
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german007
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@Poster.
Very interesting question.
Im 28 yrs old and currently engaged.
Iv been with my partner for 7 years. 7 long years.
Il cut a long story short.
Be honest and open with your partner, Never make them mistrust you. Learn to be forgiving and understanding. Be a good listener. Be like your partner's best friend.
Hope that helps.
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Ekpoma1
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@Poster.
Very interesting question.
Im 28 yrs old and currently engaged.
Iv been with my partner for 7 years. 7 long years.
Il cut a long story short.
Be honest and open with your partner, Never make them mistrust you. Learn to be forgiving and understanding. Be a good listener. Be like your partner's best friend.
Hope that helps.
thank you sir.it surely do help. |
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Musty450 (m)
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Finally, Someone asks a truly constructive question, NLanders please share your thoughts on this with us; For me i think Communication (even though it may sound cliche-ish) is one of the factors that has really helped to make my 6 year old relationship a success; obviously we being human and all means that there ll always be some sort of misunderstanding between partners but as long as the lines of communication are open; and you re both open minded; a solution will always be at hand.  of course there are always cases which are exceptions . . . |
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german007
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Yes Very true indeed.
Communication is a very important factor.
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Ebonyeyes (f)
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Cliche but communication and honesty is the key to a good relationship.
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Kenny_G (m)
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love, committment, honesty, communication and most of all must have common interests or things they enjoy doing together,
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Ekpoma1
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Thank so far for your comments.besides all those things mention,are we not leaving out something here, i mean puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.
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Ebonyeyes (f)
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Thank so far for your comments.besides all those things mention,are we not leaving out something here, i mean puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.
Yes that is very important as well. |
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Ujujoan (f)
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Thank so far for your comments.besides all those things mention,are we not leaving out something here, i mean puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.
I think God has too much on his plate to worry about our relationships!!  |
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iice (f)
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Communication, understanding, compromise, honesty, will and honor 
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Ekpoma1
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Communication, understanding, compromise, honesty, will and honor is it possible to have all that above in a relationship? |
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iice (f)
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is it possible to have all that above in a relationship?
But of course. . . |
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Ekpoma1
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But of course. . .
oh, God pls see me through. |
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german007
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ekpoma
What exactly is your current predicament sir?
What is your main concern?.
Regards
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Ekpoma1
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ekpoma
What exactly is your current predicament sir?
What is your main concern?.
Regards
Nothing actually, you see alot of break up here and there.Is really a thing of great concern for me, I just want make it right when is time for to cross that bridge. |
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Kenny_G (m)
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well we've given u enuf tips, although not exhaustive
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posakosa (m)
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Nothing actually, you see alot of break up here and there.Is really a thing of great concern for me, I just want make it right when is time for to cross that bridge.
Nothing wrong with break ups, but there is something wrong with bad break ups- and thats as a result of initial evil intentions, if your goal is to only strafe a woman but then dont you lie to her that you shall marry her only because you want to phuck. Often times, thats what most men do. |
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yorke (m)
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i think puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.
you couldn't have been more right. |
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TheSeeker (m)
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It doesn't really take a lot to make a relationship work but I think the main thing is commitment. You need to have that before your relationship can move any close to working. Commitment will make you go the extra mile to put in your best in a relationship.
When you have commitment, you go for communication. You obviously can't communicate if you're not committed because you could care less. After this comes honesty. I want to believe that when you communicate, you do so in all honesty or it won't be a hearty discussion.
Another is patience. Dealing with a partner -- young or old, mature or immature -- is like having to do with someone you have never met just as it was back in your elementary school days. It takes a lot of them for some people to adjust to who they are dating and it could be pretty short for some. You have to know also that the comfort-level of each person varies, and the rate at which others integrate perfectly into their new dates depends on a lot of factors. Don't get mad when you have to repeatedly spell out your do's and don'ts to your partner, and don't lose your patience when your girlfriend wants you to pet her all the time, both when necessary and unnecessary.
Commitment, communication, honesty, patience, then comes another, sacrifice.
Sacrifice can mean different things to different people in different and diverse situations. The most important thing is, in every relationship make good use of your head and do what's right. Your heart at some point may not convey a correspondingly valid message with your heart. Right at this juncture, you'll need to use your brain to fathom what's right. You can't possibly ask your girlfriend or fiancee to drop her dreams of wanting to be a nurse because you think she may not have time in the future for the family (you and your kids), and it'll be foolish for her to walk out on her path to a rosy career because of what 'harm' you think it might do to the future you both are planning.
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Ekpoma1
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Thank you the seeker, that's was a long one, your points are well noted.
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blandyne (f)
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It doesn't really take a lot to make a relationship work but I think the main thing is commitment. You need to have that before your relationship can move any close to working. Commitment will make you go the extra mile to put in your best in a relationship.
When you have commitment, you go for communication. You obviously can't communicate if you're not committed because you could care less. After this comes honesty. I want to believe that when you communicate, you do so in all honesty or it won't be a hearty discussion.
Another is patience. Dealing with a partner -- young or old, mature or immature -- is like having to do with someone you have never met just as it was back in your elementary school days. It takes a lot of them for some people to adjust to who they are dating and it could be pretty short for some. You have to know also that the comfort-level of each person varies, and the rate at which others integrate perfectly into their new dates depends on a lot of factors. Don't get mad when you have to repeatedly spell out your do's and don'ts to your partner, and don't lose your patience when your girlfriend wants you to pet her all the time, both when necessary and unnecessary.
Commitment, communication, honesty, patience, then comes another, sacrifice.
Sacrifice can mean different things to different people in different and diverse situations. The most important thing is, in every relationship make good use of your head and do what's right. Your heart at some point may not convey a correspondingly valid message with your heart. Right at this juncture, you'll need to use your brain to fathom what's right. You can't possibly ask your girlfriend or fiancee to drop her dreams of wanting to be a nurse because you think she may not have time in the future for the family (you and your kids), and it'll be foolish for her to walk out on her path to a rosy career because of what 'harm' you think it might do to the future you both are planning.
If i understand you clearly, u mean without commitment a relationship can't work or succeed. What is commitment to u? The reason i'm asking it's because nowadays people have different definitions for commitment. Some says commitment it's when the man actually propose to u and make everybody know that you're the one he wants to marry. Other sees commitment as when a man agree to date you and only you even though he did not propose yet. Nevertheless i'm so glad to read your post. Most men dont understand it, when a woman say the word commitment to them they perceive her as being possessive, desperate, wanting to drag them down the aisle no matter what. |
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follypimpi (m)
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Lastly Good sex too.
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iice (f)
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^^LMAO, true that
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TheSeeker (m)
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If i understand you clearly, u mean without commitment a relationship can't work or succeed. What is commitment to u? The reason i'm asking it's because nowadays people have different definitions for commitment. Some says commitment it's when the man actually propose to u and make everybody know that you're the one he wants to marry. Other sees commitment as when a man agree to date you and only you even though he did not propose yet.
Nevertheless i'm so glad to read your post. Most men dont understand it, when a woman say the word commitment to them they perceive her as being possessive, desperate, wanting to drag them down the aisle no matter what.
Commitment is having a goal set and a considerable willpower to push it through to attaining that goal. If the goal of the relationship is to have sex and break up later, your will to make it happen is commitment. If you're planning to take it to the aisle, your determination to make it happen is commitment. Everything you do has to revolve around bringing to reality whatever dream you have forecast for the relationship.
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blandyne (f)
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@ Theseeker Thanks for your reply. You're so danm right. Like i always say you must have a goal in everything you do, even simple tasks as drinking water which your goal will be to satisfy your thirst  |
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TheSeeker (m)
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@ Theseeker Thanks for your reply. You're so danm right. Like i always say you must have a goal in everything you do, even simple tasks as drinking water which your goal will be to satisfy your thirst |
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tunyus (m)
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sex sex sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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eyonigger (m)
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You can posses all of the stated qualities to sustain a successful relationship, but if you cannot nack your baby well, omo mehn you'll lose later.
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dizzywezzy (f)
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On a serious note is sex rily rily important? Can a relationship work without it? n on a scale of 1-10 hw important is sex?
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yorke (m)
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On a serious note is sex rily rily important? Can a relationship work without it? n on a scale of 1-10 hw important is sex?
very important, A good sex is another foundation for a successful relationship says my friend OBJ. |
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