Don't Know Why Guys Do This

Don't know why a guy will lead a lady on and later he starts misbehaving.

I've been friends wit dis guy for a long time cuz we went to the same school, but recently we bumped into each other and we sort of connected (so i thought).  He would come pick me up to church, visit me regularly, we would talk for hours and he tells me everything, he told me he liked me n i kinda did but i wanted to b careful,dont want to rush into nytin.lately he started acting up,he wud call n say hes comin to take me out n he ends up not coming n den hel come up wit silly xcuses y he cudnt make it,it hapnd 3 times.

theres dis girl he said he had sumtin wit but it wasnt serious n i knw her (hes single)d last time he said he was comin to visit n he did not come,wen i called he said he forgot n dat he was with someone,lo n behold it was d same girl he said was a fling a long time n he wanted me to say hello to her,when i spoke to her she sounded like o y r u callin him,n she says she will  come d next day with him to visit me.im like(after tokin on d fon)ok so wot msg is he tryin to pass,i mean u need to have seen dis guy on my case,ny girl wud fall, havnt done nytin wit him yet cuz my mind told me to wait a lil longer,)i rili dont knw hw to xplain beta so u guys wud understand,but d point is he led me on tinkin dat he wanted to be serious but i guess cuz he did not get wot he wanted n he knew he wasnt going to get it quick he had to move,n d painnful tin is i was beginin tolike him very much.

somehow iv bin waiting for his call to explain what that was all about but he hasnt called,its 3days now n he hasnt called n i dont want to call n ask him.iv actually takn my mind off him.

haha very funny,all these yrs i did not imagin.he totally led me on!!!!!

Only 2 things can happen positively you either play the waiting game or you make a move by calling him!

i think il play d waitin game,cuz i dont want to call n get d same ol stuff.n dis is d 3rd week now,n d writn english was on purpose.

@pringles

First of all i would like to say that u should try and 'organize' your posts into paragraphs if they're long. I had a difficult time reading through but i get the whole gist.  

To your case:

1. Such a thing happens to guys as well. Girls lead guys on and at the end of the day they guys are left behind  

2. There must have been something that made him behave the way he did.

3. I would say you should just hold on and see what happens next. I don't think you should call him though cus that would mean extra attention for him, except of course you haven't taken your mind off him  


Ready for wat? To get down? Perhaps so  


Don't u think calling him might make him think she's too into him (even if that how it is)?. If that's the case, then she has more to wonder about.


Reminds me of a line in one of J-lo's song "Time is of the essence/Why spend it alone"  . I don't think that's the state of the poster at the moment 

ebila u so right!!!

dr lorenzo,im not thinking of callin cuz my mind is made up,its a gud tin he did it now.

thnx guys,im so relieved

you are welcome dearest _{yet another satistied customer}

The truth is he loves the other girl; even tho he may have told you how he felt about you, he probably wasn't referring to you but to that thing in-between your legs.

I'm glad you didn't allow him in or else you would have been in so much pain by now, and I doubt if you would have had the strenght to start this thread.

Truth is most guys do not feel committed to a girl or feel they can confidently call a girl theirs until they have been intimately involved with her. That is how it is. It is clear from what u said u had fallen in love with this dude then why pretend when he wanted to sleep with u?

Sweetpain is married to the most wonderful wonderful woman in the world with whom I am living a dream-existence. The story of my life would have been very different if she had said no to me one friday afternoon during our courtship.

dunno y a guy will lead a lady  on n later he starts misbehaving,iv bin frnds wit dis guy for a long time cuz we went to d same sch,but recently we bumped into each oda n we sort of connected(so i tot)he wud come pick me up to church,visit me regularly,we wud talk for hours n he tells me everything, he told me he liked me n i kinda did but i wanted to b careful,dont want to rush into nytin.lately he started acting up,he wud call n say hes comin to take me out n he ends up not coming n den hel come up wit silly xcuses y he cudnt make it,it hapnd 3 times.
theres dis girl he said he had sumtin wit but it wasnt serious n i knw her (hes single)d last time he said he was comin to visit n he did not come,wen i called he said he forgot n dat he was with someone,lo n behold it was d same girl he said was a fling a long time n he wanted me to say hello to her,when i spoke to her she sounded like o y r u callin him,n she says she will  come d next day with him to visit me.im like(after tokin on d fon)ok so wot msg is he tryin to pass,i mean u need to have seen dis guy on my case,ny girl wud fall, havnt done nytin wit him yet cuz my mind told me to wait a lil longer,)i rili dont knw hw to xplain beta so u guys wud understand,but d point is he led me on tinkin dat he wanted to be serious but i guess cuz he did not get wot he wanted n he knew he wasnt going to get it quick he had to move,n d painnful tin is i was beginin tolike him very much.
somehow iv bin waitin for his call to xplain wot dat was all abt but he hasnt called,its 3days now n he hasnt called n i dont want to call n ask him.iv actually takn my mind off him.

doubt it

ok.dont want to argue

You are on point man! You deserve a bottle of beer 

no arguments whatsoever, just discussing d issue at hand.

Sorry if I sound argumentative. I feel pained to see a lot of relationships-with-prospects being painfully wasted on account of warped perceptions. I think you are goin through a phase in your life and u will have a lot of stories to tell a few yrs from now. Meanwhile enjoy.

The way I see am e be like say u be original bad boy ke. Anyway thanks for the beer.

This lorenz remind of some of those follow follow boys wey dey go sleep babe hostel, yet them no go get any action. Then sweetpain go come spend 5mins collect action even for staircase while dem dey watch.

No I'm not a bad boy o  . I just like facing reality and stating the facts about life even though there could be exceptions to trends in life.