Help

I reconciled with my husband a few months ago after all the agonies he put me through, only to find he hasn't stopped his cheating ways.
He is still still verbally insulting me as well. Just a few nights ago. I was pushed to the limit and I couldn't take any more. I contacted a guy I could talk to and he could understand me. I felt a bit guilty about it but I had enough. I didn't do any thing physical with him. I just liked talking to him and him listening to me. It felt good to be loved, now my husband has found out and he is crucifying me for it! He  said that I am a whore even though I never slept with anyone and even laughed in my face saying that he can now freely f**k around outside. He also said it was a taboo in his culture for the wife to do what I did. Is this true? I love him but I could never get the respect and love from him that I needed in the last 5 yrs. Am I wrong for what I did?

No I don't intend on fucking anyone I just need emotional intimacy and my husband is not giving me any. I have tried believe me. I am very frustrated.

my advice to you.go to the nearest gun shop,get yourself a desert Eagle,come back home shoot him.And claim self defence! sounds good to me 

then i suggest that you treath him with leaving. Why did you let it go on for so long? I understand that you love him and that your scared to leave him, but there plenty of men out there that want to have a girl like you and treat you like you should be treaten. With respect,love,good communication and most of all ; unconditionally. You don't need this man, he doesn't deserve you!! Your really a better person without him. Believe me, i have had my share with man, not many, but long relationships and let them walk all over me,because i thought that i couldn't get better and feeling so depressed about it. But i took the courage and broke with them,because i told myself that i deserved more then that! And i think you should do the same!

I don't have children of my own yet,but i have friends that have separated who have children. Believe me that this situation isn't healthy for the child either. Maybe you can talk to a brother or sister if he has any? Or to one of his close friends? Tell them what happend,try to get them on your side and make them talk to him to get through his thick scull???

Well, if they like you enough, and you get along with them, then they will try to help you save this marriage. It wouldn't look good to them either if you guys would separate,now would it? And knowing what happend in the past and what he is doing now is disgracing his family too? It could be that they see you as somebody who wants to help them preventing and protecting his family from this? Have you ever thought of that?

Tara

Look, this is why men continue to think they can do anything to women and go scot free with it. He cheated, then cheat on him as well, two can play the game, if he brings a lady home, you also bring a man home, if he calls his girlfriend on phone, you also do that- why are you pitying him? You may actually think you love him whereas you only pity him and dont want to hurt him.

Look, he is human, you are human, men are desperate, once he knows you have woken up from your slumber and ready to stand up to him, face to face, he will begin to lick the ground you walk on, if he toys with your emotions, take his own, if he has any, toy with it as well, use it to wipe the floor and look, he will begin to ask you to help you wash your pants and bra, no matter how dirty. Come on, wake up o.

There is no reason fr you to keep on living like this. Just pack your stuff and take your child and go to your family until you got a place on your own. Ask for a divorce and sew his ass for all the money he has and get a good monthly childsupport arrangement. Stand up for yourself and take action, that's the only thing you can do right now,

then i suggest you get a lawyer as soon as possible. You can't live under the same roof!! Get separated, make him leave the house, you buy him out so the house will be in your name. i know it's a lot to deal with so make sure you have some good friends that will help you get through this, but you need to do it. If he starts taking home girls it's going to be hell,

Yeah I'd love to buy him out if I had the money, not to mention that I am in negative equity.

why can't you divorce his ass and kick him out?
you don't need to live in sadness you know, why further complicate things for yourself. You are still pretty young and you have your whole life ahead of you so just bloody do the right thing.
be strong and move the hell on.

You are both wrong, but your husband is more wrong.  The question is: where do you go from here?

People here are telling her to Divorce  him 

Who's gonna marry her again? That path is to destruction 

That's not the best idea.

Just pray to God to change his ways and be patient.

I was wrong but I was very angry and anger makes you do stupid things. I tried to explain to him the reasons for why I did it but he wouldn't understand.

we aren't talking abt tokunboh here
she is clearly suffering and probably tried all she could so why bother?

The best solution to your problem is to find the source of this problem and solve it from there.