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Radiant (f)
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Really?They're in love huh? Ok!
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mide2 (f)
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I know its hard to believe , but if you knew the couple i'm talking about, you will feel what i'm talking about.
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Radiant (f)
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I won't feel no shit believe me! Believe what? See what? Which love? What does your cousin do for a living if I may ask?
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mide2 (f)
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she is a social worker, you will think she should know better, fancy helping others and being a victim yourself.
But matters of the heart are different.
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Radiant (f)
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She should sort herself out. Believe me, no man or woman is worth a miserable life. Even my family can't make my life miserable talkless of a man I don't know from Adam. No way!!!
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mide2 (f)
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its hard to advise her to leave the guy because when they arent fighting, he is the best, so caring and loving, homely and someone u will call a family man, i think its just about his temper.
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Radiant (f)
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She should know what gets him really mad and stop saying it or doing it 'cause sometimes women can be very annoying. Does not mean a man should raise his hand on his wife.  |
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mide2 (f)
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yeah, i agree with you, she can be very fussy and a bit of a nagger sometimes but i still think its outrageous to ''belt her'' for anything. Yet he can't do without her, cause once she said its over and he was begging and pleading like his life depended on her. Its confusing.
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mukina2 (f)
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the cowards are the ones that hit ladies . . if they can keep up in a simple misunderstanding . they feel intimidated and let their hands and feet do the talking |
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Coco29 (f)
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I would abandon the person, if that makes me a "horrible woman". Good. I come first in my life.
People like that don't change, else you'D STILL be with him, Coco.
when i met my husband i was 15 when i left him it was because we grew apart , i still love and i always will. i feel you, coco, i used to say, i would leave any man that raises his hand up at me. Until it happened to my cousin, and honestly, i will say they were in love, at least they were so fond of each other. But he suddenly turned into a batterer, its just shocking and unexplainable. You hope and pray he changes not just walk away like he was just a friend or a casual date.
i will give my opinion as a counselor some men find it hard to express themselves and for some the only thing they can do is take it out on the person closes to them. or it could be some thing has happened to him that he feels he can not express in any other way. She should sort herself out. Believe me, no man or woman is worth a miserable life. Even my family can't make my life miserable talkless of a man I don't know from Adam. No way!!!
sister no woman should have to suffer in this way, however i believe that woman have the gift of healing  some men do not deserve to walk the face of this earth but there are some so hurt so damage that it takes the love of a woman to heal them. my brother was a drug user for many years. every one tried in vain to help him, after about 10 years doing drugs, he met a woman and she told him if you want me STOP and he did, when he was going through detox he beat the shit out of her, but true love is unconditional.  |
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Radiant (f)
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Mide, she can report him to a Solicitor but not necessarily file against him.That way, I think his senses will recollect by force. Sorry about that though 
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waleleader (m)
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Ladies, if a guy starts to hit you. RUN RUN RUN
There is no excuse for beating a gril, NONE
what annoys me most is young girls between 15-19 who hang on to stupid boyfriends that hit them. That is fear of independece not love. If a guy lays his hand on my sister, i would kill him.
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Eurphoria (f)
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everyone is shouting never! not me! no way! God fordid! listen you will be shocked to see the strongest willed women/men fall victim for a very manipulative partner especially when the make the mistake of falling in love. You know how hard it is sometimes for some women to leave their Bfs because of so called'' love'' well imagine that feeling coupled with a very evil mindbender who will not only make the most confident woman fall slowly but make her depend on him . They will slowly chip away at their partners till you wake up one day without the will to fight. Just pray you don't fall stupidly in love with a mad manipulator and batterer.
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waleleader (m)
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she wont have to leave the guy, the guy would be dead. She can follow if she wants |
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mide2 (f)
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thnx Radiant, but she keeps saying i'll give him the last chance. It isnt frequent tho, like once in 6 months, so maybe thats why she's hanging on.
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waleleader (m)
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Funnyhow it happens that strong,preety ladies are the ones who suffer more abuse. My opinion is that ladies stick on to abusive boyfriends/husbands because of the social status of the guy. Most abusive men are handsome, rich and would easily get any other girl easily; so their girls stick to them because they would be seen as the loser.
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waleleader (m)
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@jaybaby. im sure u did not have time to read my last post before u replied, funny how we come to the same conclusion.
its the truth, girls need to realise that no guy is the ultimate because hes influential, fine , etc
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Radiant (f)
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Eurpho, believe me, no man will ever try that. That will either be the last day he tries that or he's in deep shit. I mean, what will give a man born by a woman the guts to hit a woman? That is too crazy to comprehend. Except the man is a madman and the woman a madwoman. No sane woman will take that kind of nonsense. Get used to being beaten? No bloody way!!! That's why women should work hard and not depend on no fcuking retard.
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Eurphoria (f)
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@Jaybaby Eur----- Who hadnt bin in-love? is that all you have to say? yes i havent been in love but i have seen people act stupid and do stupid things when they say the are in love, and there is something called life experience, know what that is? Please i find you kind of empty if you want to say something aleast do so with some substance or just stick to the smiley faces you use you know the one , shall i remind you? ok this one  , , , and yeah this one too |
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waleleader (m)
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@radiant, u sound like a strong, confident maybe preety lady. unfortunately, you have all the qualities that a lady baterer would want. The only way u can avoid it is if you are not after fine boys. Heed my word
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Eurphoria (f)
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Radiant i feel you but it happens, crazy as it sounds it happens. I agree women should try to be strong  |
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Radiant (f)
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It happens but I won't accept it if it happened to me! Period! Women, wake up!!! |
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jammin (m)
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much ado about nothing.its here with us and shall forever be with us. it is a human condition that is inexplicable.
It just demonstrate the emotional kaleidoscope of relationships. No law will be able to stop a man from kill, no Law can stop battering.
All the laws are being made in the name of being civilized.
In every single one of us the animal is being tamed but can be released at anytime.
The aggressive man, submissive woman was a part of our immediate past. In some that behavioral gene is still active.
what is most astounding, is for the men and women of such disposition to find each other easily. Irrespective of which part of the world they are.
kind of ragged in construct, but i hope the point was made.
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jaybaby (f)
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Eur--- I now kno it's people like you that fall inlove & fall out because of diz kind of Experience! Guess u werent in your right senses when u read that-- because u would have seen what i wrote under it! If you have not --Who cares about u? Get it Well--- Gurlz that stick 2 guys that beatz 'em --It's not called love--It's COMPLEX --get it in2 your not 2 fast learning BRAIN |
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Radiant (f)
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Jammin, and no law says a woman should remain a victim of such abuse.
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Eurphoria (f)
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Radiant of course no law says you should be a victim or infact remain one. I just want someone to explain or try to atleast explain why they think women , seemingly strong, independent, confident women become abused? |
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