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mohawkchic (f)
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~I find it quite interesting no one has admitted to been very Defensive/Abusive on the Polls  Seeing how it's very hard not to find a post on here that isnt full of Abuse/defendsive outburts 
Question: ~ Are You Likely To
Retaliate/Counterattack 3 (10.3%)
Become Very Defensive/Abusive 0 (0%)
Accept If Valid & Take It On Board 15 (51.7%)
Question The Reason & Evolve 7 (24.1%)
Deny & Be Withdrawn/Hurt 2 (6.9%)
Not Bothered! Damn If You Do,Damn If You Dont! 2 (6.9%)
Total Votes: 22
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kellorah (f)
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I tend to be defensive for a few seconds, trying to justify why I said or did what I did, but I then realise the reason why I was criticised and then I take it on board, if it's worth taking on board though.
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posakosa (m)
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~I find it quite interesting no one has admitted to been very Defensive/Abusive on the Polls Seeing how it's very hard not to find a post on here that isnt full of Abuse/defendsive outburts
Question: ~ Are You Likely To
Retaliate/Counterattack 3 (10.3%)
Become Very Defensive/Abusive 0 (0%)
Accept If Valid & Take It On Board 15 (51.7%)
Question The Reason & Evolve 7 (24.1%)
Deny & Be Withdrawn/Hurt 2 (6.9%)
Not Bothered! Damn If You Do,Damn If You Dont! 2 (6.9%)
Total Votes: 22
People are only defensive: based on how/whom is telling them what. thats my opinion. For instance, if my mom says something: I might frown but will take what she's said under consideration. |
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posakosa (m)
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I think people on here YAB FOR FUN. its nothing personal in my opinion.
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kellorah (f)
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You know what, I think it does depend on the criticism, how it's put across and also who puts it across. So yeah, I guess all the options have been applicable to me @ some point.
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kellorah (f)
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I think people on here YAB FOR FUN. its nothing personal in my opinion.
If yabbing people (not jokingly) was my idea of fun, then I would need to go check my head-on and offline. I would never have respect for anyone (on NL) who thinks it's funny to cuss other people out, esp race/tribe, for argument sake. EW!! Totally distasteful character they've got. But this place sure would be dull if we didn't have such. |
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posakosa (m)
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If yabbing people (not jokingly) was my idea of fun, then I would need to go check my head-on and offline.
I would never have respect for anyone (on NL) who thinks it's funny to cuss other people out, esp race/tribe, for argument sake. EW!! Totally distasteful character they've got.
But this place sure would be dull if we didn't have such.
Don't assume that everyone on NL is normal. Certain folks certainly need their heads checked. But to take it soo seriously is a waste of time, energy, and space. |
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whiteroses (f)
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i believe you have to be doing something wrong before someone criticise you and how you take it is all up to you i know nigerian guys hate it lol
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rita@NL (m)
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Criticism makes me run a check on myself valid or not ,there is alwaz an element of truth in it.Most times I cry but it has alwaz brought the best out of me.
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Radiant (f)
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hmmn criticism
What do we even understand by criticism  Perhaps you know better than all of us. Can you share your 'wisdom' with us? |
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Radiant (f)
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Don't assume that everyone on NL is normal. Certain folks certainly need their heads checked.
Wahala deh o |
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Radiant (f)
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But this place sure would be dull if we didn't have such.
That's the whole idea  |
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Nijasingh
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Criticism makes me run a check on myself valid or not ,there is alwaz an element of truth in it.Most time I cry but it has alwaz bring the best out of me.
Very nice way to look at things BUT please never CRY as you should use it to reflect and learn if valid. If not just ignore. |
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Nijasingh
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Well,you got that part right. Na so so yab full NL.
The "yabis" never kill anyone till date on NL or in even in real life!! So make una continue to "YAB" all u want!! Otherwise NL go put me to sleep!! |
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chiogo (f)
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As for me, if I feel that the person is right or worth listening to anyway , I'll just be like 'whatever' but I'll reflect on it and apply the changes. But if it's an irrelevant person, s(he) is getting cussed out. no reflection whatsoever!! Naw, after the cussing out, I still reflect on it and if s(he) is right, I try to make myself better. . .just to score myself more points against the person, adding one thing I do better than him/her. |
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sexyLeamon (f)
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As far as constructive criticism, I listen to it whether it is right or wrong. Then I decide if it is right or wrong.
As far as criticism meant solely to hurt me, well, opinions are like *ssholes. Everyone has one just like I have the right to think that they are idiots and ignore them.
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obyann (f)
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i believe you have to be doing something wrong before someone criticise you and how you take it is all up to you i know nigerian guys hate it lol
I disagree with you here. Some people criticize out of jealousy. I have this lady who spoiled my marriage with her critique. she doesn't know me too well, though I was to get married to her inlaw. Months later she came looking for my help. |
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canuck (m)
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~I find it quite interesting no one has admitted to been very Defensive/Abusive on the Polls Seeing how it's very hard not to find a post on here that isnt full of Abuse/defendsive outburts No surprise - Not admitting to be defensive is part and parcel of a defensive mindset. Oh, no. . . I'm being defensive again!Many things don't faze me, too bloody busy  . As for work/school. . .i've always done as i pleased Best way to live. . . most times. |
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mohawkchic (f)
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Great quote.
Criticisms? I only respond to criticisms from people who actually know me. Criticisms based on 'preconceptions/misconceptions/incoherence' make me laugh I have a hard shell and stronger will. Many things don't faze me, too bloody busy . As for work/school. . .i've always done as i pleased ~I cudnt agree More 
~Keep doing You! |
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mohawkchic (f)
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No surprise - Not admitting to be defensive is part and parcel of a defensive mindset. Oh, no. . . I'm being defensive again! ~ . . .I suppose. . . |
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whiteroses (f)
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I disagree with you here.
Some people criticize out of jealousy. I have this lady who spoiled my marriage with her critique. she doesn't know me too well, though I was to get married to her inlaw. Months later she came looking for my help.
wow see life |
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Radiant (f)
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I disagree with you here.
Some people criticize out of jealousy. I have this lady who spoiled my marriage with her critique. she doesn't know me too well, though I was to get married to her inlaw. Months later she came looking for my help.
U didn't marry the man eventually or what? |
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Epi
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@poster Good criticism or Bad criticism. Which one?  |
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koolchicco
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@poster Good criticism or Bad criticism. Which one? Both. |
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Radiant (f)
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@poster Good criticism or Bad criticism. Which one? Fair criticism |
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Secretz (f)
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I only accept CONSTRUCTIVE criticism from people who actually know me and are ACTIVE in my life . . sometimes it may hurt . . . but there is usually truth in what's been said more often than not when more than one person is saying the same thing . . . what I have a problem with are those who like to 'judge' . . . . on what exactly? ? ? MY NL posts. . . . .the stories I have to tell ? ? Or what you supposedly heard? 'preconceptions' are a big 'misconception' in itself.  Don't hate . . . appreciate. . .lol |
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obyann (f)
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wow see life
U didn't marry the man eventually or what?
Yes i didn't because it turned to a big problem. I told them am not interested. till date they are still perching around me and I do everything possible to avoid them. |
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Elgaxton (m)
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Hi Mohawkchic, Thanks for this topic, now if you want to know those who may be defensive or erratic when it comes to criticism just check out their posts or response on this nairaland. Forget about their response to this thread, everybody go wan form good guy for here. Just check around u go shock I love criticism cause it gives a sense of direction, most of the times true criticism hurts but u just accept it for it is; a corrective tool to make u a better person even though some people na whinch for the matter tho |
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ebonyjoy1 (f)
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My reaction 2 criticism will depend on : how its passed on 40%, by who 20%, motive 20% , my mood 20%.
cos i ve found dat some people mostly women criticize when u dont conform to their personal beliefs or ideas. in dat case i just smile n store it for reference later
from my family n better half i listen n do my best 2 work on it
from boss i listen n work on it wit appraisal in mind.
from friends i listen n ignor or store 4 later.
but my advice 2 any1 lookin 2 critisize me is package it properly n guage my mood. n make sure u ve removed d IROKO from your eye before u try 2 remove d PECK of wood from my eye
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