I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion

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fellow (m)
I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« on: December 21, 2006, 01:09 PM »

Okay here goes my story and like i said i need an honest opinion.

There was this girl i met at a cafe like 2 years ago and i spied on her email addy. I added her to my messenger contact and before you could say jack robinson , we were gisting away. Along the line we lost contact and she went out of mua life for 1.5 years or thereabout.
Lately like a week ago, we met at a cafe again and this time we chatted as usual and she was like she really wants to see me. I do have a crush on this girl and i feel so crushed when she sits not too far from me chatting away not oblivious of the fact that i am right behind her and not in my house like i told her (First lie, how do i get out of that now?)
I talked with her a few minutes ago while she was about to stand up from her system and i asked her if she was through and she replied in the affirmative.
My heart wanted to tell her that i was the same guy she was dying to see but my head said it could backfire. Immediately she walked outta the cafe, i caller her hoping to tell her i was the guy but my heart kept pumpin (not in the usual place but in my mouth)

Well what should i do now. Should i call her and confess to her that i am the one she always sees at the cafe or continue with our phone conversation and never get to tell her how she shaped my life when i first saw her?
Cause i really want to tell her how i feel and she really wants to see me

I need someone quick honest answers, Thanks in advance
harvey (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #1 on: December 21, 2006, 01:21 PM »

U need to act like a sharp guy here.first u lied and u have to cover that up.does she know your face?if no then u may still have a chance.call her up.tell ask her where she is and how u can meet up with her.
chikejude (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #2 on: December 21, 2006, 01:35 PM »

Before its too late.Open up to her.Tell her how it all began and how you feel about her.If she really loves you she will understand.Don't try to cover up you only succeed in creating more lies.Pain is Love.
Chikejude
Bayelsa State
kiki (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #3 on: December 21, 2006, 09:30 PM »

you need to be a man and tell her the truth
BlackMamba (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #4 on: December 21, 2006, 10:33 PM »

You're are acting a bit immature in this situation, but don't worry about it.  It's natural.  Just go talk to her and don't worry about what will happen.  If it doesn't work out, fine.  At least you overcome your fears and give yourself a chance which is more important.
ikamefa (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #5 on: December 21, 2006, 11:10 PM »

cut that crap! why start a relationship with lies? come out clean tell her the whole truth
if she really wants you , your lies aint gon matter to her, if she rejects you then take it like a man and keep it moving!
fellow (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #6 on: December 22, 2006, 10:45 AM »

well you guys are suggesting i tell her the truth? Sure it's not going to be that easy cause she definately knows my face since we eye each other at the cafe, I guess i have to do it anyway.

Thanks for your honest opinions.

C ya
CrazyMan (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #7 on: December 22, 2006, 11:48 AM »

Whenever she comes to that cafe again, watch her closley.
when she's trough with her browsing, you make your move.

Walk up boldly to her and tell her you'll like to speak with her privately.
make sure you speak Decently and also try to look smart I can assure you that she’ll spare some time to speak with you.
Once you’ve done that, you can “let the cat out of the bag “

good luck
cutiee_xx (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #8 on: December 28, 2006, 06:38 PM »

@ crazykid, true talk.

this is somethin' that girls appreciate: HONESTY. @least she would give u an hearing ear listenin' to all u have to say. try it; there's no fear in it. Cheesy Smiley
ima1 (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #9 on: December 28, 2006, 06:43 PM »

Go and talk to her now before she is gone and don't mention how you got her ID yet or she will think you are some creepy stalker, when you guys get to know each other more and are probably dating then you could tell her and you both will just laugh over it.
Busta (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #10 on: December 28, 2006, 06:55 PM »

Quote from: ikamefa on December 21, 2006, 11:10 PM
cut that crap! why start a relationship with lies? come out clean tell her the whole truth
if she really wants you , your lies aint gon matter to her, if she rejects you then take it like a man and keep it moving!
plain simple, Let her know the truth.
MyPeace (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #11 on: December 29, 2006, 09:35 AM »

How far FELLOW, i want an update?  How the thin go?
iice (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #12 on: December 29, 2006, 02:23 PM »

Why did you even lie? Huh Best fix that before starting any relationship, or it could come back to bite you in the butt
fellow (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #13 on: December 29, 2006, 08:20 PM »

UPDATE
Well i was going to take your advice and walk up to her anytime she came to the cafe until something happened yesterday.
I was at the cafe as usual and she walked in with one of her elder sisters. She looked towards my direction, caught my glance and whispered a lil good morning.
I managed to answer her but i didnt go ahead as planned cause i was like what if i get to meet her totally as a guy she sees in the cafe and not as the guy who lied to her, would it make more sense?
Or wait a min, should i just go ahead as planned and tell her the truth or i just walk up to her normally as if we were just meeting up for the first time?
ima1 (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #14 on: December 29, 2006, 08:43 PM »

Meet her as the guy she said Good morning to at the Cafe, this is a whole new opportunity, get off your butt and say something, stop being a wimp.
fellow (m)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #15 on: December 30, 2006, 08:13 AM »

Quote from: ima1 on December 29, 2006, 08:43 PM
Meet her as the guy she said Good morning to at the Cafe, this is a whole new opportunity, get off your butt and say something, stop being a wimp.

I sure would. Will definately tell you how it all went. Aight? Pray i see her soon
ikamefa (f)
Re: I Have A Lil Problem: Need An Honest Opinion
« #16 on: December 30, 2006, 05:49 PM »

Quote from: ima1 on December 29, 2006, 08:43 PM
Meet her as the guy she said Good morning to at the Cafe, this is a whole new opportunity, get off your butt and say something, stop being a wimp.

i second that!  more like stop being a big wuss! approach the gal which ever ways its gon take just get off that fat rump of yours  Cheesy
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