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ima1 (f)
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i need advice for my friend who has gotten her self into some nasty sh*t
Like 2 years or 3 ago she slept with this guy, as in a one night stand thing after partying and getting drunk and all that stuff, anyway 2 years later she met this guy and they fell in love and got married, she was open about everything, told her husband about her past and he didn't mind because, he's done crazy things too in his past. well her husband's brother came back from the US and when they met he recognized her and now she is scared he might tell his brother about what happened, which could cause problems for her and her husband.
i told her not to tell her husband anything because what is in the past should stay in the past, there is no need bringing up old wounds and its not like she wasn't upfront and open with her husband before they got married.
but then again if she doesn't and the brother tells her husband what happened, its going to suck, so what should she do.
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PDF
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I don't see think she has anything to be afraid of, if truly she revealed her past as u have said. I don't think shr should bring the matter up again.
However, if the brother tells her husband and she's confronted with it, she should be bold enough to tell him "honey, it was one of those crazy stuffs i told u about". Afterall, she didn't know they were related.
I don't see it as a problem if they trust one another.
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Eurphoria (f)
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oh my what a toughy you got there. I don't know, gosh my mind says not to tell her husband at all. I just hope the brother is not a bastard and makes it hard for her, sometimes these things can just remain in the past if all parties keep lips zipped and forget it all. I don't think the brother would want to tell his bro anyway, so she should just be quiet.
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diddy4 (m)
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this one is beyond me. look at the 2 sides, tell him and get her conscience free or hold back and the brother tells him and she is looking at a divorce or maybe forgiveness. so she should evaluate either the truth or the marriage and choose the one that is of most importance to her.
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odada (m)
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hmn!y'al remembered what happened in "best man"there could be a real arse whooping if she doesnt tell her husband because who knows what the brother might do?moreover its better she tells him,if it stays in the past its like she still got a secret shes hiding and whenever the brother of the hubby comes around she feels uncomfortable---its not just sex rite now men!its sex with your husbands brother and i think he will like to know the position his brother took his wife  |
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crazykid (m)
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It would be much better for her if she opens up to her husband so they can settle it once and for all.
If she waits for the brother to tell him,He might explain things in a very nasty way ie how you met in a night club, how both of you got drunk and had sex like animals and so many other fabricated stories whether true or false.
So by the time your husband hears this, you’ll loose that honesty from him, when he looks at you, he sees nothing but betrayal and dishonesty he won’t bother whether it happened in the past.
so the best thing is to be the first to tell him.
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osegwu (m)
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oh my what a toughy you got there. I don't know, gosh my mind says not to tell her husband at all. I just hope the brother is not a bastard and makes it hard for her, sometimes these things can just remain in the past if all parties keep lips zipped and forget it all. I don't think the brother would want to tell his bro anyway, so she should just be quiet.
You got it there Sis. she should not say anything to the hussie yet. mess! How do you think she should say it? Sorry horney, you see those crazy stuffs i said i did before we met, one was actaully with your brother. Common that is the fastest way to dig the divorce grave. she should for the brother to make a move and the hussie's the reaction will determine her action. But lets hope the brother has some common sence and love the brother's happiness. |
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eslynera (f)
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i think the other dude should shut the f!!!!! up  he was also included in the mess, so they'll both die together. i feel sorry for the girl, lady or woman or whatever. I dedicate her unfaithful, she should know what that means. |
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mamaput (f)
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she my as well ask the brother if he is planning to tell. I will not know what i will do. But normally people show each other pictures of their family .Not so?  ? |
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ThoniaSlim (f)
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I don't see think she has anything to be afraid of, if truly she revealed her past as u have said. I don't think shr should bring the matter up again.
However, if the brother tells her husband and she's confronted with it, she should be bold enough to tell him "honey, it was one of those crazy stuffs i told u about". Afterall, she didn't know they were related.
I don't see it as a problem if they trust one another.
yea i second that  |
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Radiant (f)
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I definitely agree with PDF. If the man can't take it, then tough on him. Shit happens and unfortunately, his bro has had his own share. It's one of those crazy things indeed! |
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